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@Anagram: Around 10 years old I'd probably start taking her to the salon with me for regular hair cuts and introduce waxing then (just the unibrow). I was about 10 when people started commenting on my dark leg hair, and I had no idea what I was doing when I started shaving.
Personally, I'm not crunchy and if I have a daughter I'm not going to teach her shaving and waxing are something some women do and some don't. Around here, it would be pretty horrifying to see a woman walking around in shorts that doesn't shave. I'll teach her that these are some of the things that go along with the kind of grooming adults need to do.
To me it's not about being ugly, it's just about normal grooming. I get my hair done every 6ish weeks and I get my eyebrows done then. Because I look pretty unkempt and like crazy person if I don't.
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@Anagram: Even with just the little strip in the middle, I don't think I could/would put a kid that young through waxing. It seems extreme.
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@wonderstruck: interesting. It's not extreme to me at all. But we also pierced her ears before one, so I guess I'm pretty extreme.
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It's hard for me to say what I'd do because I'm not facing this issue. At 5 or 6 I think I'd tweeze or hair remover. Maybe wax in middle school.
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I don't know what I would do. I think that kids are often more embarrassed about this stuff than they let on to their parents, and then they end up sneaking around trying to problem solve it (i.e. I also stole my mom's razors and had no clue what I was doing.) I witnessed some pretty mean teasing about body hair in 5th grade and I've never forgotten it, and I'm sure the victim hasn't either... so I think I would try to shield my child from teasing by just making the options available to him or her. If he or she is cool with their body hair and doesn't get teased about it, that's great. If he or she hates it and wants me to teach them about waxing and shaving, that's great too.
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I'm not sure what I'd do in this situation. I'm a decently hairy girl, but generally on my lower extremities and underarms. I wish my mom had taught me about shaving before I took matters into my own hands in 7th grade. It would have saved me a lot of heartache in what is generally a cruel period of time anyway.
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I'm not hairy, but my friends started shaving their legs when we were in 6th grade (12 yo). This was back in the early 90s.. So I'm assuming hairier girls are probably starting earlier now.. Maybe at 9-10 yo.
I would take my Dd to get her underarms waxed as soon as she started growing hair under there. -
I don't think there is a specific age, but I would hope any child of mine could come to me if they were experiencing teasing resulting from their appearance and we could address it together.
I think the world is much crueler now, I often say if I had grown up with facebook, instagram, etc I wold have come out the other end of childhood with many more battle scars.
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I agree about being old enough to ask. I started feeling sensitive about my body hair around grade 4.
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i would open up the conversation younger, especially since culturally, it's something that's normal. i am a blonde white kid and i wrote my mom a letter in 5th grade asking if i could shave my legs because i played sports and was embarrassed. by my blonde leg hair. i don't think there's anything wrong with letting your daughter know that you're there for her and if/when she wants to remove hair, you're there to help!
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Probably whenever she (seriously) asks..? I don't want her to ever think she HAS to remove hair. If she wants to be a hippy she can just be a hippy lol. But I assume at some point she'll either have friends who are starting shave, or she'll otherwise decide she wants to remove it and I'll help her.
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My daughter has a unibrow and no plans to change it. She just turned 4 and we have conversations about make up and dressing up so I'll let her take the lead on what she wants to do.
A unibrow isn't a hygiene or being unkempt issue. I will teach her to stand up for her body from others saying those kinds of misinformed things, whether she wants to tweeze or not I want to build a foundation of confidance in what she's got.
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