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@blackbird: on HB????
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@blackbird: Whoa...on here??
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@blackbird: Oh my gosh! I don't understand why someone would do that!!
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@blackbird: What the heck?! On here?!
I have definitely discovered that people aren't always who they say they are but in my case, more IRL than the Internet. I've seen cases on the Internet play out but wasn't personally affected by them so wouldn't count them.
I have to say - I honestly don't care what people on here say their first name is and whether or not it's their REAL first name. I do get wanting a sense of anonymity. I think that is totally different than creating a story about your life filled with people, experiences, etc. you've never had. That said, I saw that a previous poster did that and then shared her real name with others before attending a meet up and I think that is the right thing to do! If the relationship has progressed that far and a mutual level of trust exists, one really should be able to share their name.
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My last name's not Wagon!!! SOB
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@blackbird:
No it wasn't on HB. She totally catfished.
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@mrs. wagon: Mine's not Bear
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@Mrs. Grizzly Bear: I know, Cathy!! hehe
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This is a veeeeery interesting thread.
To answer the question, no, I haven't. I would imagine that could be pretty upsetting if you were close to the person.
My real first name is in my username but I don't fault anyone who wants privacy & uses pseudonyms, as long as they don't try to pass it off as their real identity.
I've always been totally honest - maybe to a fault! - on Hellobee, but when I was a kid (like 13?) and new to the Internet I would lie on forums & such - make up a glamorous life. I used to feel really embarrassed about it until I opened up about it to DH & he was like, "I think a ton of kids did that." Haha!
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@Mrs. Grizzly Bear: @mrs. wagon: Well this is shocking! As for me, my last name is totally Doghouse.
I think there's a big difference between giving a fake name and fabricating a whole fake background/life. Personally, if I wanted to maintain anonymity I would probably choose not to share any name instead of choosing to share a fake name . That's just me though. As for making up a whole new life and maintaining some huge elaborate lie? I don't understand who has time for that. I'd rather just take a nap in my oodles of free time.
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@twodoghouse: Lol
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This thread must have affected my dreams last night! I had a dream that I met up with a bunch of HB girls for a 'girls night', but there ended up being 3 of you that were guys!! In my dream I knew everyone's username, but I forget who were the guys now that I've woken up, haha.
I don't think I've ever discovered false information online. One of my good friends does online dating, and every single relationship she ends up in is a lying disaster
I think I'm pretty open on here, probably a little too open. It would be WAY to easy for my friends and family to find me if they wanted! (username is same email address I've had since Middle School - obviously not my real name
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@Mrs. Grizzly Bear: Dang, I TOTALLY thought your daughter's name was Rose! I was shocked when I read your blogger intro. Not upset though, I can definitely understand using alternate names for yourself and kids
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@Mrs. Grizzly Bear: @swurlygurl: hahaha, and wasn't her son's name Henry?? Or maybe that was her husband? But either way, I DO remember her telling us (at least the March 2013 Mamas) that those were NOT her children's names and she was using different names to protect their identities! So although I had noooooo idea what her kids' real names were, I knew they were different!
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@swurlygurl: It is her name! Olivia Rose. We call her Rose but hubs wants her to be Olivia on the blog so I'm going with it.
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@Adira: Giving all the secrets away. P's middle name is H.
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Yeah it wasn't HB. But she was cray cray
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@Mrs. Grizzly Bear: That's what I thought! But I couldn't remember! You told us all that soooooo long ago, haha.
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@Mrs. Grizzly Bear: Ooooohhh okay. I like both names either way
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@Adira: Yep. My history nut husband named him. Can you tell?
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@swurlygurl: Well she came out so rosey we had to name her Rose. She'll grow into Olivia. Right now Rose is just a nn (and her middle name)
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@Mrs. Grizzly Bear: haha, only other history nuts will get the reference!!
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@Mrs. Grizzly Bear: Ohh glad @Swurlygurl: asked you about the Rose thing - I was confused!
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@BakerBee: Maybe I should add a line of disclosure at the end...
"Miss Olivia Rose. Mostly known as Rose. Going to be called Olivia in blog posts."
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@swurlygurl: haha! Could you imagine a guy showing up at a meetup.
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@Mrs. Grizzly Bear: Haha! I
the name Olivia and Rose. Do you think Mrs. Sketchbook's son isn't really named Scribbles? What about Pint Size Picasso? My world is shattering around me.
My son's name is a family name so I won't share it on HelloBee. I don't view that as not being an open book, I view that as not wanting people to google my son's name and find out things that he did not personally share. Same reason I wouldn't give my husband's name. If he (my son) wants to make a name for himself (so to speak) on the internet someday, that's his prerogative. But it's definitely not my place to do it.
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@blackbird: Some people are crazzeeeee!
Although I don’t think it’s a big deal to go by a nickname (or totally made up name) on a forum or to use a nickname as your first name on FB, I’ll admit I think it veers into creeper land to make up a fake last name on FB and have a whole real-looking profile separate from your actual, real life self. FB doesn’t require a last name, and I have friends who don’t post one or post just an initial and that’s totally fine. But making up real-sounding fake last name instead of just leaving it blank or having your blog name as your last name is….I don’t know….it just feels weird to me; probably because there is no reason to do it besides to make that profile look like a legit person when it’s not. That’s a weird power dynamic too; asking others to open up their real private lives to you, while keeping your real private life completely separate and instead supplying friends with a completely false identity. Meh, just rubs me the wrong way. If I’m not comfortable adding people to my actual FB, I just don’t add them. I don’t create a fake self and subdivide friends into the “A” list and the “B” list.
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Curiouser and curiouser.
This thread kinda gives me the creeps. I guess it serves as a reminder to be more skeptical in the future ...
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I can understand being upset if someone IRL were lying to you about their identity, however I don't understand why it's such an awful thing for someone online to go by a different name. It's all about that persons choice on what level of privacy they're comfortable with. I feel like Arden is getting ganged up on here, any one of us could be withholding truths and others wouldn't know. At least she came clean, she certainly didn't need to and from the backlash she's received I don't know that I would have! I'm pretty transparent online, I'm someone who what you see is what/who I am. Whether that's smart or not remains to be seen. Someone could easily find me and do something awful to me so I don't blame others for being more cautious.
Can't we all just get along?
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I know a fair amount of people from various forums (I am particularly thinking of Weddingbee) that have separate facebook accounts with different names, so that they can maintain anonymity and distance from their personal/professional lives. Doesn't bother me at all.
However, to the main OP's question, yep, have an acquaintance that lies frequently, and will post things online that directly contradict things they've said. It's pretty ridiculous, but at this point we just roll our eyes since we know he's an habitual liar.
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@MrsMcD: I was only a little tempted to steal your organs
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@grizz: Alice's Adventures in Wonderland
@babyjmama: Agreed.
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@swurlygurl: too funny! it's going to be pretty funny when you're reading a thread and see a name pop up and remember that person was a guy in your dream
(hope it wasn't me!)full disclosure: my name is not pirouette, my DH's name is not pirouette. my daughter's name is not pirouette. I do have a daughter though, she's real, and i'm real. and i like to pirouette. she doesn't know how yet.
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@babyjmama: Yup. And based on experiences in other forums, I would guess there are many more things (and worse things) other people aren't necessarily truthful about on here, so this doesn't seem like a big deal to me.
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I'm mostly an open book and a terrible liar. So I actually am Lindsay and am in NY!
A couple years ago, someone on twitter catfished a whooole bunch of us (and also was doing it to people on LiveJournal at the same time). Problem was, her lies got to be too out there and unbelievable. I don't remember how exactly the sh*t hit the fan but it came crashing down around her on both twitter and LJ. It made me second guess people on the internet a bit. Hat being said, I have two people I consider good friends that I've met on the internet and they were exactly who they said they were.
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@twodoghouse: I'm really disappointed. Mostly because I think the first name of Twodog is awesome ;).
I'm fairly open on here, I've shared my real first name, my son's name and the general area that we live. But I don't fault anyone for changing inconsequential details about themselves. However I would find it weird if people were making up serious lies about their lives. Chaging your kids' names? Not weird. Inventing kids you don't have? WEIRD.
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well since everyone is making full disclosures and confessions, here is mine: I was a pretty active poster on weddingbee for a while. I carried that username over to here. I was not as active here due to many other things going on in my life. But at some point, I discovered all the snark sites about weddingbee and found I had been a target in the past. It made me pretty uncomfortable because I had shared lots of pictures and information. I even posted my and DH's first names a couple of times. Some people had been targeted much more significantly and harshly than me, but it still made me uncomfortable that I had shared so many pictures, etc. It was a learning experience. But because of that, I have changed my tune and decided I will not share pictures or friend anyone that I have not met IRL. I wanted a fresh start and to separate myself from WB, so I decided to create a whole new account here. I didn't want to just change my username, because we all know it is super easy to figure out the old username. I am conflicted sometimes because I would love to add many people here to IG and FB! But at the same time I am very hesitant to do so. My reluctance to share that stuff now also has to do with the field I work in and I realize that snark sites or not, I should have been more careful before.
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Rachie.
Ms. Cakes if you're nasty.I probably put too much out there but I'm kinda like that in person, too, so...
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Yes, my ex. Everyone online I've met has been who they say they are. It's the ones in real life that get me. LOL!
I don't share my name because it's not common and easily google-able (I made that up.) If it was a common name, I probably would.
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oh i just thought of a story that happened to my friend. She met someone through a dating site. They were together for several months. And I think it was even long distance, lived in cities about 6 hours apart. They were getting serious. He had met her family. I had met him because she brought him to my birthday dinner.....then one day she got an email from his fiancee!!!!! The fiancee had found out about her (I can't remember how). They were planning a wedding and either had a house or were looking to buy one. He had managed to pull off the two relationships partly because he was a doctor and would say he was working late shifts and stuff when he was not. It was so crazzzzy.
the name Olivia and Rose. 
(hope it wasn't me!)
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