You guys. I have been so weepy for the last 48 hours or so. M just left for the airport at 4:15 and I can't get it in check. He will be gone until Friday, comes home then leaves for another week. I love his job and the company he works for, he has a say in and personally books his own travel, and this much time away in a row only happens a few times a year. I am 20 weeks pregnant, and I usually don't have this hard of a time for longer business trips. We are so close and happy and I just miss him so much when he is gone. Our house feels so quiet and empty when he is away this long. Plus I always worry about him. I do well with two night trips because I get some time alone to work, see friends and family and get my to do list done. But I already feel bummed out and lonely. I'm not sure what to expect when he travels like this when the baby gets here. Gah, I feel like a mess. It's too early to call my Mom 
Can anyone relate? Any advice?
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Sorry dear! Just call him at an appropriate time. You're 20w pregnant, hormones are whacked out, don't feel bad about it!
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Sorry!! It is really hard. My DH travels every week, for the most part, so I know what you are going through. My advice just do as much house work, see friends, errands as you can so you can just enjoy the weekend together.
I will give you a warning, it gets harder when baby gets here. Cause you are stuck at home after bedtime. But you get used to it and your find your groove!
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@mrs. Tiger we usually chat a few times a day when he is gone. I seriously have cried more in the last few months than the 5 years before that. But I don't like being one of those people who blames my hormones, I'm accustomed to being in better control of myself.
@smurfette I believe it's harder to be the person at home than the person away. We had a role reversal back in April, I was in San Fransisco with my Mom visiting my sister for a week and I hardly thought about what was going on back at home. Totally, thankfully I will have a lot of help and people who will come stay for a night or two to hang out/ help.
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Just a big hug for you!
The extra pregnancy hormones are not helping I'm sure!
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Aw I'm sorry you are feeling this way. If we were in the same time zone I could have kept you company in the night because I was up at 4am my time (morning sickness lol). I'm sure the pregnant hormones are contributing, and that's ok! It doesn'tean you can't be in control, your body is just working really hard on something right now. Hope the next few weeks go quickly for you and you get a chance to get everything on your list done, read a good book, whatever will help the time go by and then it will feel so great when he returns!
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It is absolutely harder to be the person stuck at home! My DH has been away at school for going on two months now, just coming home for weekends. I have been seriously lonely! We spend so much time together that it is really hard to be apart that much, and I miss him like crazy. I don't have any advice (other than the usual try to keep busy to keep your mind off of things), but I can commiserate and want to send a hug your way.
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Aw honey I am so sorry. It's completely normal to feel more emotional whilst pregnant. Plus the nesting mode will make you want family close by. I think there's also this vulnerability that comes with pregnancy and having a tiny baby that adds to the need for ones partner or some kind of company. Big hugs.
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@cmomma17 thank you. @anya I'm sorry yo are not feeling well. my MS was bad but rarely kept me up. @synchronicity thank you, sorry to hear you are dealing with something similar. It does give me perspective and I am thankful to have such a wonderful relationship with M. @mrsmccarthy nice to see you over here. I have been enjoying your fb and IG posts.
I was able to get back to sleep after being up for two hours. Home Goods opens in my hometown today and my Mom & I are going, then we are taking my cousins girls to lunch and back to school shopping (late I know) then I have a photo shoot and it will be a beautiful day in Portland. My sister is coming to town this week with my 18 mo old nephew and I am looking forward to babysitting him for a morning next week
M left me a really sweet note. Yesterday we had a really fun day, we went out to breakfast, picked up some wine shipments from our wine clubs that we have been neglecting and we went to the pumpkin patch and picked up some goodies at my favorite bakery to enjoy this week. Maybe I would miss him less is yesterday had not been so special, kidding, kind of.
Thanks ladies. I'm glad you are here. It's so hard to not feel like myself.
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@youboots: totally agree! So much harder being the one at home. DH misses us a ton and hates sleeping in hotels. But the fact he can go run, work out, go to dinner, etc, he admits it is easier for him.
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@youboots: I AM THERE WITH YOU! Luckily I'm not pregnant, but I do have a 9 month old, 2.5 year old, and a 4.5 year old to take care of while DH is gone for TWO WEEKS IN NIGERIA!!!! blarg. And, he was in Germany for two weeks last month and DD brought a stomach virus home..... I'm just praying that this two weeks goes smoother and with less illness. Not to mention he'll miss Halloween. And, next month he's gone for two weeks in Equatorial Guinea and will miss Thanksgiving. Have I mentioned we live in Texas and my WHOLE family is in NY? ugh. ugh. ugh. I feel ya! I have absolutely no advice, because I cope with wine after the kiddos are in bed.
The extra pregnancy hormones are not helping I'm sure!
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