People whose relationships with family are in the scope of complicated to unpleasant, give me your cheat sheet for how to get through the holidays.

We are traveling to in-laws for FIVE. DAYS. for Thanksgiving, then my mom is coming to our house for Christmas. So far my strategy is try and stay the fuck out of the house when at all possible, focus on the kids and try to avoid talking about anything but them, planning activities with easy family members, and going to bed at 9:15pm. So mostly trying to keep busy and waiting for it to all be over. Wine is kind of a problem because alcohol generally makes me vomit after more than one drink, so, it's unfortunately not really in my arsenal. Usually my first line of defense is a 3-day-max visit, but for Thanksgiving, I lost.

So how do you get through it??