I'm pondering what I'll do about Christmas gifts for my 2 nieces. I don't have a great relationship with my SIL (some of you have heard the loooong story). Status quo for a while has been that I send either physical or Amazon gift cards for her daughters birthdays. She sends a gift for our DS on his b-day. We did exchange small gifts for the kids last X-mas.

I don't do much besides a text on SIL and BIL's birthday. Heck, I didn't even send my own brother a gift card this year, and I really like him! However, my DH is her brother and he's disabled. She didn't so much as call him on his birthday or even send a card. She sent him a text message. She hasn't seen him in 3 years and that's the best she can muster. At least his Dad sends him a card.

How long do I keep up this charade? Her kids have never even met our son, their cousin. The younger one hasn't seen us in person since she was a toddler. Would you keep sending gifts for the kids if you were me?