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If I was in the position of having children when I was in my 20s, I probably would have had them in quick succession. My logic for that is that I was able to bounce back physically much faster and I had much more patience than I do now.

Mine will be 34 months apart. We were shooting for closer to 2 years apart but now I'm glad for the bigger gap. He's a handful right now. 2 is no joke! Hoping he'll be potty trained and less explosive by then!!

I'm newly pregnant and my kids will be @ 2 years 4 months apart.

I'm excited to have kids 22 months apart for some reasons, but I am nervous for others. Twins, in many ways, are easier than close together siblings, as they have different needs and abilities. When feeding one infant twin you don't have to worry about the other climbing the cabinets. You don't have to feed one solids and clean up after all their messes (omg the toddler messes.) You don't have to worry about one twin HITTING the other one because they think it's funny to wake up someone by hitting them. (OMG I NEED TO BREAK HER OF THIS.) But, as they get older, I do think having kids closer together is easier, as they can become close and each others' playmates. I would have preferred a little more spacing (more like 2.5-3 years) if I REALLY thought about it but I have back problems, a difficult pregnancy with #1, and it took us a while trying for #1. We were shocked and thrilled to get a BFP on our first month trying for #2. A little closer together than we anticipated in an "ideal" world, but I am excited!

Mine are 20 months apart and I feel like it's hard in different ways from having twins so you can't really compare it. I love the gap but I do kind of feel my first was still too much of a baby when he became a big brother and it forced him to grow up too soon. Our relationship changed a lot and it kind of makes me sad. We will probably try for a third but with a 2-2.5 year gap this time.

I am currently 28 weeks pregnant with LO#2, who will be 18 months younger than LO#1. We ideally wanted an 18-24 month age gap and it ended up happening immediately for us when we decided we'd start NTNP. Like @lawbee11 I am a full-time WOH mother with a pretty demanding career, but I guess I have a different perspective. For me I would rather get the years with all the illnesses out of the way as quick as possible earlier in my career rather than drawing it out over a longer period of time. I figure there will be a lot of times where both are sick at once (which will suck) and for times when one or both LOs are sick enough that they can't go to day care but not that sick (e.g. mystery fevers), we plan to have a handful of on-call babysitters (part-time staff of our day care) to come so neither DH or I have to take time off from work. As far as day care costs, it's going to suck having to pay for two at the same time, but we have been setting aside money specifically to help pay for the cost of LO#2 so it shouldn't be too much of a financial hit for us if we can continue setting aside at the same rate we are now.

Since LO#2 hasn't arrived yet I don't know how I will feel about caring for two 18 months apart, but I figure no matter what the age gap there will be challenges and I'm mentally preparing for it to be hard. So far being pregnant with a 1 year old hasn't been bad and my second pregnancy has actually been easier thank my first, aside from the MS I had in the first trimester.

I think it really is a matter of preferences and there is no right or wrong answer. It's just a matter of weighing your perceived pros and cons to different spacing options and doing what you think is best for you mentally and physically, as well as for your family.

In an ideal world, I would probably like a 3 year age gap so that the other one is more independent. But I am newly pregnant with #2, and they will be almost exactly 2 years apart. We felt we didn't have a choice to wait since I am 37 and plagued by fertility issues (it took me 2 years to get my first). I am so thrilled but also scared! I am a WOHM mom though so I won't be dealing with them 24/7.

@mrscobee: man, i might be the only one around here with two that will have an almost five year gap. nervous!

@andthewildones: My brother and I are five years apart, and we've always been super close.

@raintreebee: who is older? i'm so anxious to see the dynamic between these two.

@andthewildones: My brother is older. Our oldest brother, who recently passed away, was two years older than him. They were never close, but I was always close to both of them. I couldn't have been closer to them really, despite the 5 and 7 year age gaps. The only thing that was tough was feeling a bit lonely in high school.