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We haven't made a will yet either, but we have decided to leave her with my brother and his fiance. They are the most like us, they are financially stable and I think they would be the only ones who would make an effort to have LO see all the sides of our family. They also are the family that we see the most so.

As I read this I just asked the hubs who he thinks should take care of LO should anything happen. He said my brother. I was secretly hoping he'd say that! My brother is still single but lives 5 minutes from me and loves his niece to bits. He has a very paternal side to him and I would feel absolutely comfortable leaving LO to him (I made that sound like she's an inheritance or something!).

I have no idea who we would leave our children with, it is such a hard thing to decide. I honestly don't trust any of our family with them other than my grandma...

We decided on my sister. His family has yet to meet Baby Bear, so she is going with the family she knows and loves.

LO isn't here yet but this is something we should think about. DH and I both have younger, single brothers and although I trust his brother a whole lot more when it comes to children, I would hate to put that responsibility onto him. Hubs' sister and her husband are out, they're responsible but I would not feel at all comfortable with that. That leaves either my Mom, single but now renting our her extra rooms to newly divorced women that needed a place (a house of male haters ... haha) or DH's parents that live close-by.

I've never really thought about this... we don't have LOs yet, but I would not want our children raised by any of DH's siblings. I just don't agree with their parenting styles, and they live too far away from my parents. DH's parents are too old and I doubt they would be interested in raising small children.

In my family, all my siblings are younger and I can't see the oldest of them changing drastically enough in the next several years to be responsible enough for us to even consider it. So that pretty much leaves my parents. They aren't that old (early 50s right now) so I think it would be okay.

We picked my parents. We feel like they would provide the best, loving environment for our daughter. They are in good health and still have a lot of energy so I am not concerned with their older age (knock on wood). If their health were to decline, then we could change to DH's bro and wife.

We picked by process of elimination. DH's mom is a widow in her mid-60s and about to retire, and my parents are approaching 60 themselves, so they are out. DH's half-sister is much older (in her 60s herself) and his half brothers aren't in his life. My brother is in his mid-20s and still lives like a frat boy. So that leaves my sister and her husband. They are about a year younger than I am, and even though they aren't ready for kids yet, they would like them in the future and have the most stable home and available resources.

@artbee: yeah, unfortunately for our kids, my hubby thinks all kids now are so spoiled and doesn't want our kids to be raised entitled.

@artbee: o, i don't care what my hubby says, they're getting xmas and birthday presents. (i was spoiled too hehe)... HE didn't get it when he was young. we don't have our kids yet, they're coming around march. he just thinks we should give them gifts every once in a blue moon or give them one gift (total, so they share!) so they appreciate it and don't feel entitled to have whatever they want. i don't know. he really likes to push my buttons - either because he just likes to get a reaction from me or he wants to "train" me so i don't get all pissed off lol. even when i know he's trying to push my buttons, i get riled up.... so obviously the latter is not working. i don't really know just how "serious" he is with everything he says. i guess time will tell. but he can be so darn frustrating!