How do you find the energy/motivation to do it all?!?

By Mrs. Pen Apr 25, 2012

By the time LO goes to bed, I am exhausted and feel ready for bed myself, but I make myself stay up so I can have a couple hours to myself. I try to make the most of that time and clean/cook, but seriously all I want to do at the end of the day is watch TV or go to sleep. I just don't have the energy to care for LO all day, keep a clean house and cook. Right now I'm staring at the dishwasher needing to be unloaded and the dirty dishes in the sink and feel like crying cause the last thing I want to do, is dishes.

DH helps A LOT, but I feel sooo bad asking him to do stuff like this because he works 12 hour days, and I know he's just as tired when he gets home.

Seriously, how do you moms (especially moms of more than one!) get it all done?! I am baffled.

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Mrs. Jacks
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts

Apr 25, 2012

One foot in front of the other. Right now I'm really struggling to be a good researcher and a good mom at the same time. Stressful!
Boogs
hostess / papaya / 10540 posts

Apr 25, 2012

I'm in the same boat as you. It doesn't always get done. I just tell myself that the world won't end if if put off dusting (or whatever chore) another day.
Mrs. Pen
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts

Apr 25, 2012

@Boogs: seriously... I NEVER want to do dishes though haha. It's my most-hated chore. DH actually mostly did them up until recently, just because now I'm home more and he works more.
Boogs
hostess / papaya / 10540 posts

Apr 25, 2012

@Coco Bee: My most hated chore is cleaning the shower so DH does it. I always feel bad because I know DH works so hard, but of you can pick one or two things you REALLY hate to do and ask him to take it over I bet he would understand. The biggest thing I've learned is to put the guilt aside and ask for help.
Mrs. Pen
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts

Apr 25, 2012

@Boogs: I would definitely be fine with every other chore if DH just did the dishes lol I don't know WHY I hate them so much. Maybe because it's the daily monotonous of it? It's one of the few things that HAS to be done EVERY day.
Boogs
hostess / papaya / 10540 posts

Apr 25, 2012

@Coco Bee: I feel ya on the dishes. My DH isn't even home every day so sometimes I really have no choice but to do them.
mrs. wagon
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts

Apr 25, 2012

@Coco Bee: @Boogs: for some reason dishes are the ONE chore i don't mind. I hate vacuuming, mopping, bathrooms, dusting, laundry... Sigh.
Mrs. Pen
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts

Apr 26, 2012

@mrs. wagon: OMG I love doing laundry! haha I have no idea why.. I especially love it if it's in a nice laundry room. I was a live-in nanny for a family who had an actual laundry room, it always smelled so dang good and was nice and warm. I loved spending the kids' naptimes in their folding laundry and listening to music. Now we have our washer/dryer in a closet, so I don't love it AS much, but I still do.
Mrs. Pen
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts

Apr 26, 2012

@Boogs: My husband just got home and I begged him to do the dishes, he didn't seem to mind I told him if I had to do every other chore I wouldn't mind as long as I didn't have to do the dishes, and he actually offered to completely take over dish duty. don't you love when it's THEIR idea
Boogs
hostess / papaya / 10540 posts

Apr 26, 2012

@Coco Bee: See there ya go! I don't mind laundry, but hate the folding part, lol. If I had a nice laundry room I probably wouldn't mind so much.

@mrs. wagon: Yeah I don't mop, DH always does. Vacuuming is my most favorite chore, though.
Rosie Girl
pear / 1639 posts

Apr 26, 2012

I do it during the day. While DD is sleeping. I also have DS help me out with small things, like take his toys to his room, or he loves to spray the dusting stuff, so he helps me dust all the time. I also multitask a lot! If I'm going to shower, I spray the tub and clean it while I am in there, or wipe the toilet down right after I help DS go to the bathroom, put some clothes away while I am getting a new outfit out, load the dishes as we use them, things like that.
mediagirl
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts

Apr 26, 2012

@Coco Bee: aw, that's sweet! Sometimes all we have to do is say something and we get a great response.
looch
wonderful pear / 26210 posts

Apr 26, 2012

I am with Rosie Girl, I do it during the day. At night, after my son goes to sleep, I don't do any more housework. I don't have that much to keep up with, though.
Andrea
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts

Apr 26, 2012

I know what you mean ... all I usually have the energy left to do at the end of the day is veg out on the couch. I would either do some during the day or wait until the weekend when DH is home to help out with the LO. I also have a cleaning lady come once a week so she does do the bulk of the "heaving lifting!".
chopsuey
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts

Apr 26, 2012

@Coco Bee: I hate doing dishes tooooo..
It's definitely easier now than it was in the early months. (go fig). She plays independently and goes down at 7pm. House is a mess, but I've learned not to sweat the small things
Rubies
hostess / eggplant / 11068 posts

Apr 26, 2012

For me it's literally taking it one minute at a time. Some days I am so frustrated because I've spent the day trying my darndest to be perfect yet I have a crying baby, sinkful of dishes, and cluttered home. But at the end of the day, really, as long as my baby is safe and happy and well rested, then I don't care what my house looks like. Everything else can wait.
mrs. wagon
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts

Apr 26, 2012

When I was a SAHM I did a lot during the day as well. I have always done Wagon Jr.'s laundry on Sunday night since there's never anything going on that night. Dishes I do as soon as we've eaten a meal. It's tough especially after dinner, since you've prepped, cooked, eaten, and now it's time to clear and do dishes, but I usually need some of those dishes to then pack Wagon Jr.'s lunch (and we need some in the morning to cook his breakfast) so I just do them as soon as I'm done eating. That way I know I'll have a clean sink for the rest of the night and I can just relax for the rest of the night. The more I can get done before Wagon Jr. goes to bed, the more I can relax after he's asleep!
Honeybee
pomelo / 5178 posts

Apr 26, 2012

I do as much as I can during the day; DD helps during "chore time" and I do my personal stuff during nap time. DD also goes to daycare twice a week, and those are the days (like today!) that I get the most done.

Honestly, a schedule helps more than anything. I schedule myself in for chores, playtime, schoolwork, etc... and that helps me get everything done on time. I also reward myself with little chunks of personal time throughout the day, instead of saving it all up for one big chunk.
Mrs. Bee
admin / watermelon / 14210 posts

Apr 26, 2012

our house is always messy, food always needs to be cooked, and sleep is but a dream. that's how we get some things done.
IcebergMom
persimmon / 1295 posts

Apr 26, 2012

My latest mantra is "there is no later." Wow, sounds morbid. haha. If I see something that needs to be done I try to do it right away. Otherwise I delay delay delay and suddenly it's a zoo.
MsMamaBear
pear / 1861 posts

Apr 26, 2012

I don't. I used to worry myself with that damn schedule- get home from work at 4, cook,clean,bathe her, get her ready for the next day,etc.etc.

Now, I let the chips fall where they may! We get home but I rest before I get started doing stuff at home. I've worked all day, the least I can do is give myself a break.

I also let my SO clean the kitchen a lot. Doesn't bother me a bit and he likes it since he's so much "cleaner" than I am. Whatever!LOL
mediagirl
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts

Apr 26, 2012

I think this is why my Mom was always up later than all of us - she was always doing the chores that she didn't have time to do when we were up making a mess in the house!!
heffalump
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts

Apr 26, 2012

I don't. I prioritize, and if some things don't get done right away, oh well!

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