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Gah!! I'm sorry that stinks

Oh man I would be pretty mad about this too! Grrrr! I’m not sure what I would do in this situation!!

I mean I would totally break it down… if you have to wait another year… that’s 30 minutes a day times 5 days a week time 52 weeks = 130 hours! (well this is not exactly right … because of holidays and vacations but still!!)

@Modern Daisy: I would have been SO angry! The only thing to do is to get over it though, you're stuck waiting another year but I don't think I would be mad for a year. I'd be pretty pissed for a week though, and grumble every day during that extra hour on my commute.

Oh yeah I'd be so pissed. And let him know. And like others have said, it's ok to be mad! it's a big f'ing deal. Sheesh. Personally it'd take me a few days to get over it and hopefully your DH can just sweat through those few days until you're "normal" again.. haha. the least he can do is allow you to mourn the loss of that spot!!!

In this case I would be furious. Agree with others that this is a one time thing (not ongoing, and not constant), so it's okay that you're mad - it's not like you don't love him anymore or anything.

I can kind of relate to this because recently we got into a huge fight over something bc DH dropped the ball. DH paid our property tax bill late. Even though I had been reminding him to pay it, he kept saying he had time, and wanted to wait til the last minute because he didn't want to give the govt our money upfront. Well, the due date came and went and we ended up getting penalized $500+ dollars. I was pissssed, esp since this was something I kept reminding him over and over again.

I can just imagine you reminding him how important this was to you, you had him keep an eye out, etc., and he dropped the ball. I would've felt like 1) I wasn't heard, 2) What mattered to me was not important to him. It's not just any ol' minor thing because now you have to wait another year when this could've saved you so much time on a day to day basis.

For us, we talked it out, and even though it took several hours to calm down.. he apologized and felt really bad. As much as I felt justified in being mad, there was no point in staying mad. It wasn't intentional, and was an "it is what it is" type situation. It was just a one time mistake. I also needed to go for a long run to clear my head - I always do that when I'm upset and need a healthy way to de-stress from my emotions.

@Modern Daisy: My husband is the same way. I separate the mail and leave it on the back of the couch, he just shoves it somewhere and forgets about it. He actually forgot to pay about $1k in medical bills last year because he put them away and forgot about them. I got SO pissed, but I worked out a schedule, helped him with it, and now they are all paid off.

@Modern Daisy: Argh yes. I'm mad for you. Every time I drove the extra 30 minutes I would be thinking about it!

I'd be pissed. Big time.

Something similar happened recently- we bought a boat and he insisted it would fit in the garage. I was sure it would not. I decided it would not be my 'hill to die on' and he would have been disappointed if I had put my foot down- we could not give it a test run since it was 2 hours away. Well it did not fit. Luckily right now our friend is letting us keep it in his barn- if that were not the case we would be paying for storage. It's still inconvenient to have it 20 min away on a gravel road. We got into it- then moved on. Not sure how possible this is for you.

@Modern Daisy: I'd say either discuss a blanket rule of he doesn't get the mail or put a basket for mail in an easy place, and all mail goes into the basket. We have two in our kitchen - one for important mail and one for stuff that needs shredding. I usually do the organizing, but at least it isn't stashed in an obscure place where I can't find it!

@Modern Daisy: Maybe you can get a wicker folio bin to put all your mail in! We have this from Target on our console table, and it's functional as well as decorative. http://www.target.com/p/wicker-folio-bin-dark-global-brown-threshold/-/A-14105213

One word--grace. I make mistakes, too, and some of them are big ones and others are annoying habits. When he lets go of things and forgives me, I feel relieved and grateful. We're playing the long game here!

@Modern Daisy: I'm about to find out. DH just texted me saying he missed the FSA dependent care filing date and we're out 5k.

Yeah, I get angry and then move on. I make just as many mistakes, and I expect DH to get angry and move on too. But it's hard--that's why relationships are hard! They take work. In your particular situation, I would have been livid.