wasn't sure where to put this!
Based on another thread a few people mentioned they wish they had waited longer to have kids.
How long btwn marriage and 1st child and was it just right or no?
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We'd been married 3 years when Xander was born, but together for 8!
ETA: The timing was right for us. We'd been together for 8 years and married for 2 when we got pregnant. And the year before we started trying, we packed so many vacations and other things in. We have no regrets on the timing.
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6.5 months.
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2 years, but together 6! Timing felt right for us, but I think age also played a role.
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We were married for a month when my first LO was born.
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Between getting married and pregnant or birth of child?
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We had our baby about 3 months after our 5 year wedding anniversary (8 years of being together). For us, it was perfect. We had a chance to get married, settle into that life, move across the country, establish our careers, and travel. We are nearing 30, and plan to have 1 more baby ... I think the timing for it all is good for us.
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3 yrs for us and the timing was good looking back - but at the time I wanted to have kids right away
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DS was born about 2 weeks before our 1st anniversary. We had been together 2.5 years.
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@travellingbee: birth
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We'd been married a year and a half when LO was born.
ETA: Timing was great for us. We went on an awesome European honeymoon and two-week roadtrip across a dozen states before I got pregnant.
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Negative 4 years, lol. I already had Daniel when we met, so the first child was already there.
I got pregnant 9 months after we married, but that was S. So, our first living child together is M and that was after 2.5 years.
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We were married just over 5 years when I got pregnant, and it was great timing. We had plenty of solo adventures under our belt.
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I voted I wish we had waited longer because we actually didn't get married until a month after LO was born (wed been together 3 years, loving togeyher for aboyt 1.5). We're still so young & still have so much learning about each other to do & that gets put on the back burner when you're one year old constantly needs something & you're wiped out from taking care of her.
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We started TTC just after our 4th wedding anniversary (been together almost 7 years at that point). Our LO will be born about a month before our 5th anniversary.
ETA: Timing seems good (although I'd had baby fever for a while). DH has progressed in his career enough that I am going to be able to be a SAHM. We also had plenty of opportunity to travel, buy a house, and just settle in and enjoy just being a married couple.
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We were married just over a year when we started TTC, had DS just after our 2 year anniversary, we were together for 3 years before marriage. Loved our timing!
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We started trying after we had been married for one year, but it took us a little over a year to get pregnant, so we had Liam a couple months before our 3rd anniversary. I was anxious to have kids sooner, but now I'm glad that it worked out that way.
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DD came a month before our first wedding anniversary. I wouldn't change a thing!
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We celebrated our 2nd anniversary when LO was 6 weeks old. I was 35 at the time so we couldn't wait much longer than that.
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We were married for a little over a year when I got pregnant, so a little under 2 years from marriage to LO’s birth.
Even though we had been together (and living together) for several years before getting married, it was really important to me to wait some time after getting married to just focus on us. Getting married wasn’t the means to an end to have children for us; so we wanted to spend some time together in our new chapter. Had my husband been younger, we would have waited longer; but otherwise I think we had great timing.
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We celebrated 2 years and then 4 months later she was born. I think another year just us would have been perfect, but with our age, we started earlier.
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We had been married a year and a half when our first kiddo was born.
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We got pregnant just 2 months shy of our 1st year anniversary and we had only been together for 2 years before getting married (so celebrating 3 years together tomorrow, 2 months before LO arrives). We didn't want to wait longer since I'm turning 30 next month and DH is already in his mid-30's.
Might be a little fast for others but we're happy with our timing!
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We just celebrated 5 years married (9 years total) and she'll be here in January which was the right time for us. I could have waited another year and have been fine as well.
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Married 7 years when they arrived...together 12 years. We had IF problems, so, they would have been very welcomed several years earlier. However, I'm very glad we had those years together before bringing kids into the equation.
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I got pregnant right before our 3rd anniversary. By the time she was born we'd been married for 3 years 7 months.
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I got my BFP 5 months after our wedding. While we were trying and very excited about it, in hindsight, it would have been better to wait a year.
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Got my BFP 3 months before our wedding. We were going to try for a honeymoon baby, but when I realized AF was going to show up on the wedding day, we tried early - and were lucky!
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We had been married 10.5 months when DS was born. I love him but really wish we had waited 2-3 years to have kids.
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When my little nugget comes home, we'll have been together for 11.5 years and married for 4.5. It's a good time because we're both ready to settle down a bit. We're 31 and 33.
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She was conceived on our first anniversary.
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We had been married just over 3 years when we started trying, and 4 years when we got pregnant, 4.5 when she was born. While I wish it hadn't take us so much time (and anxiety) to get pregnant, the timing ended up being perfect. That said, I really think it depends on your age and what is going on in your life.
ETA: We are 29 and 30.
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Daughter was born right after our 2nd anniversary. Hard to believe it was only 2 years between those two events! But I think the timing was perfect.
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I was a few months shy of 4 years when DS was born. It worked for us I feel though sometimes I wonder if I should have tried earlier. We had wanted to go for a 3 year time period but we delayed a year for finances.
We had been together for over 7 years by then
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we started ttc after 2 years, but ended up getting pregnant with charlie 2 years later. in retrospect the timing was probably a lot better to have had him after 4 1/2 years than it would have been after 2 1/2 years.
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If I get pregnant this year we will have been married for darn near 5 years before the baby's birth. 7 years married seems more perfect, but with wanting to try for 2 LO'S I hope I get pregnant soon.
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We were married almost 3 years when DD was born. Was great timing in regards to that!
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married 3 years when DD was born, been together 10 years. Timing was perfect to us at the time. After having her with us we did wish we had her sooner! esp now that we are trying for a second, and it's not that easy.
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@Arden: both of my girls are anniversary babies.
DD1 was conceived around our first anniversary.
DD2, I got my bfp on our third anniversary. -
We started TTC after 2 years of marriage... Here we are at almost 5 year anniversary and still not pregnant. Though, we have been together for 13 years.
I wish we had started earlier, like at least the first year of marriage. Though our second year of marriage was tough with medical, financial and marriage strain. So maybe my journey was planned...
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