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How long btwn getting married and having kids

  • poll: How long btwn marriage and 1st child
    less than a year : (38 votes)
    13 %
    1- 2 yrs : (60 votes)
    20 %
    2-3 yrs : (48 votes)
    16 %
    3- 4 yrs : (38 votes)
    13 %
    4-5 yrs : (15 votes)
    5 %
    5 yrs + : (24 votes)
    8 %
    Timing was perfect! : (54 votes)
    18 %
    Wish we had waited longer! : (8 votes)
    3 %
    Wish we had them sooner! : (11 votes)
    4 %
  1. lizzywiz

    persimmon / 1178 posts

    @JMOM: Isn't that the greatest secret/biggest joke in the world? all the teens and youngin's think we are soooo different from them and meanwhile, we are still reminding ourselves that, technically, we are adults, ha!

  2. pui

    bananas / 9899 posts

    Married February 2012 and DD was born August 2014, so about 2.5 years.

    In my perfect world I would have been married and had my first kid by age 25 (I am 27), but it just didn't work out that way.

  3. BandDmommy

    pomelo / 5660 posts

    Married July 2011 and DS was born May 2012, so less than a year.

  4. JMOM

    apricot / 420 posts

    @lizzywiz: That is so true. I really don't feel like I'm 41 - I feel about 29. The gray hair unfortunately confirms my age.

  5. ineebee

    pear / 1580 posts

    When our first is born, we'll be 5.5 years into our marriage. Considering that we "waited" this long because of IF, I do wish we'd had kids sooner. I don't want to be older than all my kids' parents! But other than that very trivial complaint, I'm very happy with how things turned out! I've enjoyed our marriage more than I could even have imagined!

  6. MrsTiz

    cantaloupe / 6800 posts

    Got pregnant 4 months after we got married, miscarried and then got pregnant again 6 months later. LO was born when we'd been married 1.5 years!

  7. MrsA

    apricot / 444 posts

    Married 9/08, LO born 11/13. Felt just right for us!

  8. 2PeasinaPod

    pomelo / 5524 posts

    We had LO just after our 5th wedding anniversary. If it were up to us, we would have had him around our 3rd wedding anniversary. God tends to have other plans

  9. GrapeCrush

    grapefruit / 4823 posts

    We had DS about 1 month before our 1st wedding anniversary(and DD was born 2 months after our 2nd anniversary). Most days I'm glad we had them so soon, but sometimes I wish we had waited a year, so we could have enjoyed being married and traveled a little more

  10. MrsMccarthy

    honeydew / 7295 posts

    6 months over here but we had been living together 3 years and I was 34 at the time so my clock was ticking.

  11. Iced Tea

    persimmon / 1310 posts

    We started trying as our tenth anniversary present. We were ready about 3 years earlier but put it off due to caring for a sick parent then finances while we started a business.

    I think we would've been fine having one a few years earlier, but now is fine too. LO will be born after our 11th anniversary.

    One good thing is that everyone had already stopped bugging us about kids, so we didn't have the discomfort of trying and always being asked, "when are you having kids?" We surprised everyone since they had given up on us.

  12. Kemma

    grapefruit / 4291 posts

    We started dated July 2003, moved in together September 2004, engaged May 2010, married February 2011 (started TTC straight away), Miss A was born October 2012 and Baby #2 is due late March 2015.

    It took me a long time to decide that I was ready to get married and commit to a family life with my husband but I'm pretty happy with how our timeline has worked out (although I do wish I / we had done more with our lives before we got married).

  13. kml636

    pomegranate / 3225 posts

    We started TTC after two years and she was born after 3.5 years... I am so glad we had those years without babies!

  14. FancyGem

    clementine / 769 posts

    We were together for 8 years and married for 13 months when we had our son. The timing was perfect for us.

  15. genarator

    grape / 81 posts

    Pregnant 7 months after wedding, birth 1 year 4 months. We are older, had been together for 5 years, and were both on the same page for starting a family as soon as possible. If we had been 5-10 years younger we would have waited much longer, as we understood kids change everything.

  16. QBbride

    pomegranate / 3192 posts

    We welcomed our son 9 months and 11 days after our wedding

    I wouldn't have had it any other way, the timing was perfect.

  17. youboots

    honeydew / 7622 posts

    We will be married for 8.5 years when LO comes in March. Together for 11.5. I'm with @iced tea, I think everyone gave up on us ever having kids. We got pregnant in 2 months, which I am thankful for, but if I knew it would have happened that quickly we would have waited another couple years I think.

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