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45 hours in the office, probably an additional 5-10 outside of the office. I work similar hours.

Monday-Thursday are typically 12 hours. Friday’s he goes in later and comes home earlier, so probably 8 hours. That’s just being in the office (and not counting the hour round trip commute)—so he’s usually doing stuff on his phone at home too. He usually does at least 2-3 hours over the weekend and sometimes goes into the office most of Saturday. It sucks, but I’m used to it although it took me a very long time to accept it. It definitely makes me value my parents work schedules growing up—they were a teacher and a nurse so although my mom’s 12 hour shifts sometimes turned into 14 hours she never worked on her day off, and my dad always picked me up by 5pm.

@cake2017: He has no plans to leave. He has been doing it for a little over 7 years and when he first started it was “It will only be like this for 3-5 years.” Apparently he’s working more now so he can work less later but I don’t really see that happening.

Probably average around 60, but it depends. Some weeks are a little slower, and if he has a closing then he can end up working more than 12 hours a day. He usually has work on the weekends too. It sucks. He is able to work from home a lot though so at least we get to see his face on occasion.

First meeting of the day is usually 7:30-8, can leave the office usually between 5:45 and 6:00. Also works from home after LO goes to bed and some on weekends. So 50 hours during the workday plus maybe 10-25 on a really bad week from home.

I’m the spouse/DW in your scenario (DW is on Mat leave with our second son now) and I’m working 32 hours currently so Fridays off, which I will do for the remainder of the year DW is off (we are in Canada). I usually do a typical 40 hours per week with the VERY occasional outside of work hours obligation or conference over a weekend (maybe 1-2x per year). I’ve made it clear to my bosses that I’m this phase of life, I’m not available beyond my hours unless there’s special circumstances or an emergency and they totally respect that. I do not answer work emails outside of work either. When DW goes back to work, she will also be 40 hours per week. My commute is 15 mins one way.

I guess I’m the outlier here! DH works 40 hours a week. We pretty much have the same schedule, 7-3, him as a carpenter me as a teacher. Sometimes he does work longer hours if he has a meeting or a project on a deadline but other times he’s done early, so it mostly evens out. It’s wonderful and I’m really happy with how our careers have worked out.

Technically 45–8-5pm m-f. But he works at home, and generally doesn’t start til about 8:15/30 since he drops the kids and I off, he makes meals during the day, does laundry, goes to the gym... it’s so nice that he has that flexibility!

My husband works nights mostly. Sun, Tues and Thursday he works 7pm -5am. Mon and Wednesday he works 3pm-11pm. He sleep till 1 ot 2 PM each day. I solo parent a ton. He is off on Friday and saterday. He helps when he can. He works super hard as a a section manager over a major packaging company. We hope one day we can eat dinner together but right now we do what we can.

@cake2017: DH is in Law enforcement and is 12 hr shifts 7 a.m-7 p.m. on a 2-2-3 shift
Example:
Monday/Tuesday on 7-7
Wed/Thur off
Fri-Sun on 7-7
Then it switches
Mon/Tue off
Wed/Thur 7-7
Fri-Sun off

@cake2017: On paper it is a minimum of 75 hours a month, usually averaging out to 80 hours a month. He's a pilot, so it's really that he's gone 15 days a month. Staying overnight at cities isn't counted as work hours for pay purposes, but he's physically away at work.

DH works 40 hours a week. He is on call every 6 weeks or so, for a week at a time. He has to leave at a moments notice and could be gone for 1 hour or 16 hours. He could also get called in while not on call and has the option to go in. Occasionally he unexpectedly has to travel for work. I could get a call at work and he could be home packing for an undefined amount of time. Last time it was 6 days.

DH is at work for 43 hours a week, normally 7-330. He has a 20 minute commute. He logs on about 20 minutes each night to fill out his timesheet and check corporate email

DH works a lot of hours- it fluctuates slightly butnits hard to actually count because he is always checking emails or whatever. Probably 60-75? And he has to travel cross country once a month for a week at a time. But he works from home now when he isn’t traveling so he can almost always take a break to do bedtime, and he’s there for breakfast, and occasionally I can run out during quiet time/ naptime and leave the kids in their rooms while he’s home working. So it sucks that’s he’s always working but at least we get to see him. His schedule definitely factored into my staying at home.

@cake2017: A lot. He's an attorney for a big international firm. An average day is 9-10 hours at the office, dinner at home, and then working from 8-11 or so. When he's traveling for depositions he works pretty much all day and into the wee hours of the morning.

He makes an incredible salary, so we've kind of accepted the fact that he's owned by the firm. He got 6 weeks of paid paternity leave that he was able to take when our daughter was born in July, so I try and focus on things like that when he's given 5 days of notice to fly out of town for a week. That being said, we both would love for him to find a different job where he'd make a lot less but be around more.

DH is in food sales and works 9-5:30 with no travel or extra stuff. It's very flexible and he can go to any appointment really or stay home with my son if he has to. Mostly works from home. High salary, not a ton of pressure.
Of course, he hates it. So....

@jape14: DH is a lawyer as well at big law, working 60-70 hrs/week... hoping he can make a change soon.

I’m so jealous of all of you who’s husbands work more normal hours. I generally don’t see DH M-Th because I’m asleep by the time he gets home from work. Sorry, guess this is a sore subject for me

He is supposed to work 40 hours, it's usually more like 45-50 + 10-15 hours at home doing emails and grading. It can increase when he has to prep a course and record lectures and this spring will be insane bc he is teaching 3 courses on top of his actual full time job. He is a college administrator and adjunct professor. I work a more regular 40 hour week and can be totally done with work when I leave.

@LBarn: I totally understand your pain; hang in there! it was a large paycut but it is totally worth it.