Seeing wedding season is approaching, I was wondering how much do you usually give. I know it usually depends on the area.
I'm from NYC and I usually give $200 to cover me and DH
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$50 is pretty much the standard gift in my family for cousin weddings and also for casual friends. Good friends I've spent more like $100-200 or even 400+ depending on the person.
ETA: I'm in Ohio
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We never give cash but buy from registry. Depending on close friends, we spend between $50 and $150. We're in Boston.
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I think the norm in our circle is $250.
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@bunnylove08: in NYC bare minimum $200. Probably $250 if we're closer and I know it's a fancy schmancy venue. If it's a Chinese wedding, forget it, we gotta go for the log book for that one. Usually 1k + to match what my relatives gave me.
Here in upstate NY we give $150.
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At least enough to cover the cost of me and my husband attending, usually $50-100 each depending on the venue.
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$100 is pretty standard in my circle of friends
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@locavore_mama: haha going to the books! My parents do that for their friend's kids weddings.
My sister and best friend thought i was crazy giving $250 or more.
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$100 is pretty standard in my group too.
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Usually $150ish.
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DH & I lived in diff parts of NY and now together in LI... We give $300 together. When I was under $25 I think I gave $100.
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@locavore_mama: I don't have a lot of family here, but DH's relatives were SO generous! And then I find out we have to give that much if we go to their kids' weddings too!
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$100
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$100-500 depending how close we are/venue/formality/etc.
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I'm super cheap man, compared to y'all. $50 max.
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Minimum $100, then it goes up depending on how close we are to them, or if they attended our wedding, like @locavore_mama:, I reference the log book and give a lil more than they gave me.
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$100-$150ish. I can only see us giving more for my brother-in-law if/when he gets married. We're in Orange County.
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I'll be the dark horse and say 30-50 for a wedding (usually buy a gift in this range). Much more wouldn't be feasible for us! That is pretty well in line with what others did for us. We live in GA on the edge of metro ATL.
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We historically have given $100, but that was because we were still in law school or just getting started in our jobs and it was the most that we could afford. I think people were understanding of that. We had just one wedding last year and gave our standard $100 without thinking and afterward began to wonder if that made us look cheap, given that we're doing better than we were a few years ago. We have a wedding in a few weeks and we're going to probably give a little more than $100, but not sure how much yet. That said, we also adjust wedding gifts to what it costs us to get there. I don't feel as bad giving $100 on a wedding I spent $1000+ to attend in airfare and hotel than if I just drove there.
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$100-150
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@mrsjyw: honestly curious... do you feel like you have to give more for a fancier wedding? I try to keep it the same for everyone just to make me feel better as a friend that I did the same for everyone.
I don't feel I have to cover our bill. I don't love to attend weddings, especially now that we have LO/have to deal with finding childcare, so I don't think of it as a "date." Plus I figure the couple probably wanted their wedding to be a certain way but that is totally up to them.
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It depends on how close I am to the couple. But, it's usually between $100-200. And I should add: it also depends on my financial situation at the time, unfortunately.
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Chicago. $300 to cover me and DH.
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$150 if we attend, $50 if we don't
I just looked at a registry yesterday that had just gift cards and the preferred amount was $500 for each (eye roll). The couple is super annoying so I really just want to give a $20 restaurant gift card and not attend haha.
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@Mrs. Sketchbook: mmm i don't always follow the "cover my plate" rule. but do try to keep it in mind. esp for fancier weddings. we're lucky in that my mom watches DS, so weddings are a special treat for dh and i to spend some "us" time. plus most of the fancier weddings have been our close friends who we would've gifted on the higher end regardless of venue!
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Anywhere from $150-$250 usually. Depends on the location (if we have to travel) and usually we can just look at what that couple gave us.
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We usually buy a gift off the registry and usually spend 50-100. We are in a suburb of LA. I'd say that is typical with what we received from friends and family at our wedding. A couple people who have more might have given more.
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Wow, so i'm in the Midwest and we give between $25- 100 gift depending on the closeness to the couple and if we are in the wedding party. I feel cheap, but that's what most people did for us!
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@HLK208: wow that seems really rude!
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@runnerd: @Mrs. Sketchbook: I'm with you two... $50 max! I didn't get more than 2 or 3 gifts that were more than that though (really well off family members), and I think in my group/circle it would even be odd to give so much.
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$150 per person that attends.
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Usually $200. $250+ for close friends.
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My face reading this thread:
I must be living in a different world! Wow!
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@swurlygurl: yea honestly other than very close family, I'd feel uncomfortable getting more than $75 from someone. Def $30-50 is the norm in my group for non-relatives
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Usually registry gifts worth $75-125, depending on how close we are to the couple and also how much they gave us. That's about what we received from most people our age too
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@cmomma17: forealz! $1000 for a wedding?! what!
Around here we give around $25-$50 for a casual friend, but in the form of a gift..$50-$75 for a good friend/ family! Yikes!
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Wow! I am actually shocked by how much people give. We usually buy a gift for around $75 for someone we aren't super close to and $100 for someone we are!
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@MrsTiz: I mean I want ALL of these people to come to my wedding, haha
but I can't afford to attend theirs! 
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$100 minimum. If it were family (cousins) or super close friends, prob around $300? If it were my brothers or SIL, I think we would give around $1000.
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$100 is what we generally give (Midwest). I try to buy a gift/gifts from the registry reaching that total. If I don't like what they have or have left on their registry, I go with some nice, personalized gifts like a spice crate from Penzey's or something similar.
but I can't afford to attend theirs! 
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