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@Foodnerd81: I agree with cost of attending . We once didn't give for a destination wedding, because we spent hundreds getting there. We did buy for the shower though!
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I live on Long Island and registries are for the bridal shower. We give a check for the wedding between $150-$300. It depends on how close we are with the couple and how far we had to travel for the wedding. We would give more if a sibling was getting married. The tri-state area seems to have a higher gift giving threshold than other areas of the country.
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@MsLipGloss: Yes...not my personal opinion (I think registries are awesome!) but I definitely got the side eyes from my mom. That said, I did make an amazon wishlist for our families for Christmas this year and totally thought I would get told how ridiculous it was...but I made sure everyone knew it was only so that they could get ideas, not that we wanted those specific things. I had to be VERY clear on that one. Yikes.
@Mrs. Sketchbook: Yes, that is where we are too...although I grew up in the Triangle and still live there, which is a much more suburban setting.
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We usually buy from the registry...$100ish!
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This is a really fascinating thread!
The last wedding I attended as a guest was a full decade ago, and it was a tiny, backyard shindig.
At my wedding, the average gift (physical or monetary) was around $40-50, save for some of our wealthy family members who gifted us more.
We have 4 weddings to go to this year, though, so I should probably start thinking about this. Does the amount you give decrease if you have to travel? Because at least two of the weddings will involve plane rides for all three of us...
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@lovehoneybee: oh, yes the amount given definitely decreases if we spend more to travel.
I find this calculator fascinating: http://www.theweddingenvelope.com/calculator.php
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$50 is pretty much my standard.
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@swedishfish: That's interesting! Of the two weddings we'll have to fly to, one is suggested $80, and the other $155 (the latter being a sibling's (second) wedding).
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$150-200+ depending on how close we are and how much travel is involved. We are in Central Florida and we went to a wedding in Canada, have them $150.
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i usually buy a gift anywhere from $50-$100 depending on how close a friend it is. that's what we got from everyone else except our parents as well. i'm pretty surprised by the upper end of the gift threshold, but obviously everyone gives what they feel comfortable giving! i know i would have been completely shocked to receive gifts from our guests in the $200+ range and we had friends from all walks of life there!
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It depends on the venue and how close we are to the couple. But if a long international flight is needed to attend, I only give enough to cover us (max $200).
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Around $50. I feel like that's pretty standard around here.
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@lovehoneybee: I think it does. For our wedding we received two monetary gifts. And our only guests were parents and siblings. The costs of travel for the people who didn't gift us was very high.
When I was younger and single all of the weddings I attended were a long drive and hotel or plane ride and hotel away. My gifts were $50-60 and one time I brought a date and made him write a check to my friend too.
Cover your plate concept never makes sense to me. Besides the cost of food there are other costs associated with your attendance. The venue for one had to be large enough to accomodate all of the invited guests. Gift what you can afford and want to give the couple based on your relationship.
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@swedishfish: wow your link is very interesting.
I put in information for a wedding after labor day weekend and it was saying we should give $365 for BIL's wedding, second marriage. That was a lot more than I was going to give
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