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I don't feel too much mommy guilt since I'm with her 24/7. I feel bad when LO gets hurt because I'm not paying attention though..

@Mrsbells: I had guilt when I was at home with LO. Not loads, but some. I am back at work part time now. Guilt levels probably the same.

Like you, I don't really feel it day to day, but I know I would if I gave up breastfeeding. I feel like if I would stop I would feel so guilty because there is no reason why I cannot continue to breastfeed even though I'm on a highly restricted diet for DS. I think the only way I will stop giving him breastmilk anytime soon is if it became medically necessary and still the guilt would be strong.

I work full time and do feel guilty that I don't have more time with him. I feel guilty that I don't have more patience sometimes, especially when he wakes up early in the morning. I feel guilty that the tv is sometimes on in the background and when I'm on the computer. I feel guilty that I lost my milk supply, despite a good fight, and that he's on formula now. I feel guilty I don't make his food.

Most of the time i feel like I'm doing a great job. He's healthy and happy. He loves his daycare. We snuggle a lot and I work hard to be present with him when we are together. But the guilt is always somewhere in the back of my mind - that I could do more, I could do better.

Some fleeting guilt on the little stuff e.g. how I should let LO enjoy her paints vs worrying about the mess or feeding her Campbell soup.

But what I do feel horrible about was one incident when I was truly a bad mummy ... she was throwing a hissy fit and simply refused to get out of the shower, I turned off all the lights so that it will get her moving. Although DH was near her, she got really scared I still think about this incident on/off ...

LO isn't here yet but one of the things that I think about it our decision to live here. Sweden is very family friendly and the paternity leave and benefits for a young family is just wonderful - but there's not a lot of diversity. To be specific, everyone has lived here all their lives and has a hard time understanding anyone that's different. There also isn't a lot of immigrants and a disproportionately large amount of refugees amongst the recent immigrants. So it's easy for locals to group up all foreigners into the same category, as refugees.

It is a peaceful country and I've never seen any hint of outright racism, but most older Swedes don't exactly understand what that means either. Meaning a lot of them lack ethnic and cultural sensitivities because they never had to learn it. It makes it difficult for a foreigner.

I also work part-time from home and I'm looked down upon by the women here because of it. Most expected me to have a job as soon as I arrived, without even knowing the immigration process and the limitations they entailed. I'm also Asian and at first glance, I get grouped up with the mail-order-brides, because unfortunately, there's a lot them, but I've gotten over that.

My main guilt is I don't want my daughter to feel like her Mom is less of a woman purely based on employment. Because of this, I find it hard to want to stay here long term and I know that unless attitudes change around me, I will constantly feel guilty for staying here and potentially exposing my daughter to that kind of judgmental thinking.