I'm curious how often other women go out!
I usually get out of bedtime routine once every week to 2 weeks to meet up with friends or to go to an event.
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Like out out or Target/groceries out?
Out - hardly ever
Target/groceries maybe once a week -
No option for never!
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Maybe once every two weeks or so? I go to the gym several times a week after the kids are in bed but I don't count that
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My husband watches my daughter on Tuesdays while I am at work. (I watch her solo on Thursdays.)
She still nurses to sleep, and I have never been away from her in the evening. It sounds lovely, but I am just not up for the potential trauma on her bedtime without me (or having to pump breastmilk to do it.)
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@Boogs: well, where you would be leaving a good chunk of parenting to your spouse. If I go out to the store, it's typically not at bedtime or a mealtime, it's mid day on a weekend or after bedtime. So, I guess out out when you go out with friends or for yourself.
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@Greentea:
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I would say between 2X/month to 1X/month. It honestly really depends.
I do feel like I get more time out than DH, but since he mostly works from home he can come and go as he pleases and sees a lot more of his friends because of this.
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I leave for work earlier than LO goes to day care, so I say good morning and head out. DH gets her ready and takes her in.
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I don't go out for social things more than a few times a month, but DH is very good about taking over so I can go to the gym, run errands by myself, or just wallow in my pregnancy fatigue. I would say solo parenting is about 60/40 me/him.
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1-2X per week
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Am I really the only one who's kids are alone with spouse every day?
Not for fun
I go to work M-F and my husband has LO until LO goes to preschool at 1pm and he goes to work. Then I pick up from preschool and solo-parent until my husband gets home around 9pm.ETA if you mean go out for fun, um almost never. it's a rare night where he's not working and I get to go out, at least during the school year. He's off most of the summer and I get to go out more - shopping solo, see friends, mani/pedi - then.
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Once a week- I play trivia every other Monday and have therapy the other weeks. I don't really like being apart from DD unless I'm at work so she goes with me everywhere I can take her.
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Maybe every couple months? Not often. But Hubs doesn't go out and leave me alone with the kids very often either.
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Every 6-7 weeks I get my hair done right after work and I usually get home right around bed time. I don't really go out with friends in the middle of the week though.
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Its between every 2 weeks and a month. It depends on if my friends want to hangout or not.
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A couple times a month I go out on Sunday afternoon while she's napping to do something on my own, but that's about it...
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Meetings a couple times a month. And then girls nights maybe 1-2 more times a month.
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At least once a week at some point. Either to run errands or to play sports or to have some time with my friends.
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A few times a month. But he does bedtime every night, so it doesn't really change anything for him.
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I haven't yet. I went out once for about 20 minutes and left her with MIL. DH was at work. I started pumping this week to build a freezer stash and DH has been working on getting DD to take a bottle so I should be able to leave them soon and get a pedicure, meet friends, etc.
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A few times a week - I go to the gym or one of the kids has an activity so DH is left home with the other
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Maybe once every 2 months? I only ask to go out if I need to get a haircut, or I have something to attend like baby/bridal shower, special birthdays between girlfriends, etc.
DH already is solo with her a lot during the weekend (between daycare & my mom), so I try not to leave her with him on the weekends. Plus, I want to spend time with my precious too!
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Oh, I thought it was just "out" as in outside the house.... I do that about once a week for a leisurely stroll through Target or Homegoods/TJ Maxx/Marshalls once the kids are asleep.
For actual fun? 1-2x/month.
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DH is a SAHD and I typically do something just for me once or twice a month (get my hair done, go shopping for fun, etc). His parents live nearby so more often they watch DD1 while we go out though. DD2 is a newborn so nothing since she has born.
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DH is a SAHD, so every day while I'm at work. For fun, it varies...but, usually I'll go somewhere (meet friends, hair appt, shop, an event, etc) once or twice a month. It varies, really. Going out more often isnt an issue, I just choose not to at this point.
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Never at bedtime/during the bedtime routine. Occasionally I'll go out for a girls night after they are in bed, or shopping on the weekend while they nap.
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This was tough to answer because my husband is home alone with my son several times a week but it's mostly because I'm at work. For going out with friends or time to myself, it's more like every couple of months. We alternate bedtime so he doesn't get too used to who actually does the routine with him. I have a friend who always wants to meet after her kids are in bed so the kids aren't thrown off and her husband isn't annoyed. I do understand it and it's probably common but I like that my son has a regular routine, but it doesn't have to be Mommy.
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Not very often, although he always tells me I should and he thinks it would be good for me.
Yesterday morning I decided to take him up on it and get my hair done but honestly, the stress he gave me before I left about how neither of them settle for him, etc, meant I spent the whole appointment anxious about a fussy, hungry baby and raced back as quick and I could. Turned out they had all been fine and enjoyed their chilled out morning. I was so sad about how my three hours had been spent anxiously when I should have been relaxing.
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@travelgirl1: this! My husband does the same thing. I don't think he does it purposely (I hope he doesn't) but I can never enjoy myself because he has me nervous!
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Once every month or two when my friends and I plan a moms night out.
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He'll take DS on a morning hike a couple times a month to give me some alone time at the house and usually will watch him if I want to go out to do something fun alone (probably every week or two).
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At bedtime? Not if if I can help it. If I have a work event, then yes (1-2x year!). I do got about every 2-3 months to get my hair done, but that's usually around naptime on a weekend. I really struggle with leaving them with DH. Not that I don't trust him, I just have some ridiculous guilt.
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@mediagirl: DH takes her frequently to do things so I can have a break, I just don't go out a lot right now!
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I work 5 days a week and DH only works 3, so he's with LO every Tuesday and Thursday. Other than that, for something fun other than work, probably twice a month?
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I need to work on this - I know if I dont it will become a stress point.
DH and I do a good job of having a real date night 1 every 2 weeks - with a sitter/grandparent.
DH golfs - every weekend he has one morning that he goes and golfs from say 8-1pm.
Neither of us are great about girls/guys nights. I think that will get better when we are getting more sleep. For now - date nights sometimes are couples dinner nights!
I need to get some sort of structured hobby (like DHs golf) to get me a "break". I plan to find a workout class after DD2 arrives - and try to schedule a workout class and every other week manicure/pedicure for my "me" time. Probably need to wait until DD2 is 4-6 mos to start though!
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@mediagirl: So then my vote is hardly ever.
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DH does bath and bedtime once a week while I go to prenatal yoga class - as long as he's home from work in time. He's also looking after him tomorrow morning while I get a haircut but that's just 45 mins or so.
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My kiddo is only 11 weeks, so my answer is skewed at the moment. Only once so far, I went shopping and to costco. I was gone a total of 3 hours, and was anxious, even though I knew she was fine. We're aiming for once every few weeks or so to get me more used to being away from her.
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@Littlebit: I don't think they realise how much we stress about it. I was initially really sad for myself, then I was angry with him, because apparently they were good as gold until I came back then they started acting up. So.much.guilt tripping!
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