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@peaches1038: I was the same as you and @youboots: in that I really didn’t feel strongly about a 2nd either way. Probably leaned more towards one and done, actually. But didn’t feel 100% on that.
We finally decided that we wouldn’t regret a 2nd. We might regret NOT doing it down the road, but we’d never have a 2nd and say “oops bad decision”. So we did it and NOW we are done. We both agree fully. And we are both happy with two
It’s not like I don’t think back to life with just one and miss some aspects of it. But I wouldn’t give up my 2nd for the world. -
DH wouldn't have a vasectomy so I was planning on a tubal ligation after my second but I didn't have a C section and for some reason my doctor didn't follow up with me about it post birth in the hospital. We had discussed before birth adding the procedure in while I was there in recovery. I didn't think about it post birth in the hospital and I ended up getting an IUD. So far so good.
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DH got his vasectomy when our second was 7 months old. No regrets!
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@youboots: during my last csection, I had my tubes tied. DH had a vascetomy before the csection. So basically asap
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@peachykeen: I think it’s a concern that something could happen to our baby and a little bit about the procedure. I also had a difficult pregnancy pre e and GD round one. I’m hopeful that I’ll have less complications this time- but I’m down on weight and on anti nausea meds.
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@peaches1038: I hope it helps! Good luck. I would have been at peace either way. Ultimately we decided to try but would not pursue any medical measures to conceive.
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Our youngest just turned 3 and if it were up to me, DH would have gotten a vasectomy right after she arrived. But he's reluctant about the procedure, simply because of the pain/discomfort factor, not that he's unsure we're done. I got a Skyla figuring that by three years we'd surely have this taken care of... but I'm getting a new IUD next month
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@SweetiePie: thank you!!! This is very helpful! What’s the age difference between your two?
@youboots: thanks! Yeah, we would be in the same boat if we decide to have another one.
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@peaches1038: almost 3.5 years exactly. They’re now 4.5 and 1 and I’ve been extremely happy with the age difference. Very.
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@SweetiePie: that’s so great. We’d be looking at a little over 4 year gap, which I hope isn’t too much. It’s hard to think about starting “all over” though! But I’m sure that makes it a little easier too!
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@peaches1038: I’m stoked about 4.5 years same gap between my sister and I!
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I had a tubal when my 3rd LO was 4 months. I probably would have waited until closer to 1 year (bc how much are we really having sex right now anyway, lol...and then I’d be done BFing) but I wanted to use the same (paid) insurance deductible.
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@youboots: that’s awesome! Sorry to threadjack btw! Maybe I’ll make my own thread haha
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@peaches1038: not at all. Solidarity. I’m sure I started a similar one.
My mom also pointed out that none of our friends/family have only children unless they are younger than us or got later starts. So it’s also certainly a social norm to have at least 2 children. One cousin has 5 and another is expecting her 4th.
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I have 2 kids and am 99% sure I am done. I think my husband is 100% done, but my youngest is 3 months, and if something were to happen to him I might want another. I would be devastated if I couldn't have another baby. I'm not that fertile though and hormonal birth control worked for us for like 8-9 years.
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Baby #2 was born in September and DH had his vasectomy in December. We are still waiting on a clear semen analysis. We are absolutely done and didn't want to risk it by waiting too long.
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My husband had his vasectomy about two months after our second child was born. We were both on the same page about having two children and being done.
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If I would have had it my way, the vasectomy would have happened right after DS turned 2. Which is about when we decided we were done. But it took me a full year to convince DH to do it. He was onboard in theory but was scared of the procedure.
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For those who's so had a vasectomy how long was he down for? My hubby is totally on board but I'm trying to figure out how many days off is reasonable/how much pain hell actually be in.
(And candidly how long we'll have to forgo sex)
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@MamaBear87: procedure was on a Friday and he was back at work by Monday. He was still uncomfortable but not in “pain”. Sex was off the table for like 2 weeks I think...? His doctor told him until he feels up to it. And he wanted to wait until the wound heeled. It really wasn’t bad at all (especially compared to child birth!!!)
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@MamaBear87: my hubby had his done Thursday night and was back to work Monday. He was pretty mobile over the weekend - just tucked my nursing frozen gel pads into the pocket of his boxer briefs. He took ibuprofen for a couple days and was ready to have sex again by the next weekend (the doctor told us that whenever he felt up to it we could go ahead)
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we're done with 3, DD3 is 10 months and DH still hasn't scheduled any appt.
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