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How soon after completing your family did you take permanent measures?

  1. SweetiePie

    honeydew / 7463 posts

    @peaches1038: I was the same as you and @youboots: in that I really didn’t feel strongly about a 2nd either way. Probably leaned more towards one and done, actually. But didn’t feel 100% on that.
    We finally decided that we wouldn’t regret a 2nd. We might regret NOT doing it down the road, but we’d never have a 2nd and say “oops bad decision”. So we did it and NOW we are done. We both agree fully. And we are both happy with two
    It’s not like I don’t think back to life with just one and miss some aspects of it. But I wouldn’t give up my 2nd for the world.

  2. autumnleaves

    pear / 1622 posts

    DH wouldn't have a vasectomy so I was planning on a tubal ligation after my second but I didn't have a C section and for some reason my doctor didn't follow up with me about it post birth in the hospital. We had discussed before birth adding the procedure in while I was there in recovery. I didn't think about it post birth in the hospital and I ended up getting an IUD. So far so good.

  3. AB810

    apricot / 370 posts

    DH got his vasectomy when our second was 7 months old. No regrets!

  4. Mrsbells

    squash / 13199 posts

    @youboots: during my last csection, I had my tubes tied. DH had a vascetomy before the csection. So basically asap

  5. youboots

    honeydew / 7622 posts

    @peachykeen: I think it’s a concern that something could happen to our baby and a little bit about the procedure. I also had a difficult pregnancy pre e and GD round one. I’m hopeful that I’ll have less complications this time- but I’m down on weight and on anti nausea meds.

  6. youboots

    honeydew / 7622 posts

    @peaches1038: I hope it helps! Good luck. I would have been at peace either way. Ultimately we decided to try but would not pursue any medical measures to conceive.

  7. kiddosc

    grapefruit / 4278 posts

    Our youngest just turned 3 and if it were up to me, DH would have gotten a vasectomy right after she arrived. But he's reluctant about the procedure, simply because of the pain/discomfort factor, not that he's unsure we're done. I got a Skyla figuring that by three years we'd surely have this taken care of... but I'm getting a new IUD next month

  8. peaches1038

    nectarine / 2047 posts

    @SweetiePie: thank you!!! This is very helpful! What’s the age difference between your two?

    @youboots: thanks! Yeah, we would be in the same boat if we decide to have another one.

  9. SweetiePie

    honeydew / 7463 posts

    @peaches1038: almost 3.5 years exactly. They’re now 4.5 and 1 and I’ve been extremely happy with the age difference. Very.

  10. peaches1038

    nectarine / 2047 posts

    @SweetiePie: that’s so great. We’d be looking at a little over 4 year gap, which I hope isn’t too much. It’s hard to think about starting “all over” though! But I’m sure that makes it a little easier too!

  11. youboots

    honeydew / 7622 posts

    @peaches1038: I’m stoked about 4.5 years same gap between my sister and I!

  12. ChitownRo

    clementine / 948 posts

    I had a tubal when my 3rd LO was 4 months. I probably would have waited until closer to 1 year (bc how much are we really having sex right now anyway, lol...and then I’d be done BFing) but I wanted to use the same (paid) insurance deductible.

  13. peaches1038

    nectarine / 2047 posts

    @youboots: that’s awesome! Sorry to threadjack btw! Maybe I’ll make my own thread haha

  14. youboots

    honeydew / 7622 posts

    @peaches1038: not at all. Solidarity. I’m sure I started a similar one.

    My mom also pointed out that none of our friends/family have only children unless they are younger than us or got later starts. So it’s also certainly a social norm to have at least 2 children. One cousin has 5 and another is expecting her 4th.

  15. thepaperbutterfly

    grape / 98 posts

    I have 2 kids and am 99% sure I am done. I think my husband is 100% done, but my youngest is 3 months, and if something were to happen to him I might want another. I would be devastated if I couldn't have another baby. I'm not that fertile though and hormonal birth control worked for us for like 8-9 years.

  16. crazydoglady

    nectarine / 2431 posts

    Baby #2 was born in September and DH had his vasectomy in December. We are still waiting on a clear semen analysis. We are absolutely done and didn't want to risk it by waiting too long.

  17. alphagam84

    persimmon / 1095 posts

    My husband had his vasectomy about two months after our second child was born. We were both on the same page about having two children and being done.

  18. Portboston

    persimmon / 1281 posts

    If I would have had it my way, the vasectomy would have happened right after DS turned 2. Which is about when we decided we were done. But it took me a full year to convince DH to do it. He was onboard in theory but was scared of the procedure.
    I HIGHLY recommend permanent measures.

  19. MamaBear87

    nectarine / 2288 posts

    For those who's so had a vasectomy how long was he down for? My hubby is totally on board but I'm trying to figure out how many days off is reasonable/how much pain hell actually be in.
    (And candidly how long we'll have to forgo sex 😂)

  20. Portboston

    persimmon / 1281 posts

    @MamaBear87: procedure was on a Friday and he was back at work by Monday. He was still uncomfortable but not in “pain”. Sex was off the table for like 2 weeks I think...? His doctor told him until he feels up to it. And he wanted to wait until the wound heeled. It really wasn’t bad at all (especially compared to child birth!!!)

  21. MsMini

    grapefruit / 4056 posts

    @MamaBear87: my hubby had his done Thursday night and was back to work Monday. He was pretty mobile over the weekend - just tucked my nursing frozen gel pads into the pocket of his boxer briefs. He took ibuprofen for a couple days and was ready to have sex again by the next weekend (the doctor told us that whenever he felt up to it we could go ahead)

  22. birdofafeather

    pineapple / 12053 posts

    we're done with 3, DD3 is 10 months and DH still hasn't scheduled any appt. 😬


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