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I would be ok with it, since the odds of going into labor at that point would be slim. I would just try to line up some family help or a babysitter to help you out!

My husband went to an out of country wedding when I was 35 weeks with #2. Everything was fine.
Do you have support nearby if anything happens?

Did he purchase trip insurance? Would you have issue if you needed him to come home early and he had to pay to change his flight? Did you deliver early with your first? As you get closer will your doctor give you an indication that you might go early when you go to the 36 week appt? Would that put your mind at ease? Is there someone local that would stay a night or two with you?

When my hubs goes out of town my mom comes up and stays usually 1 night. I pick her up at the train station after work and we go get dinner, she plays with LO and in the morning I put her back on the train and she goes right to her office.

I'd be a little worried because #1 came at 38w for me so I think #2 at 36wcould happen (or not) no way to know. I say make sure he has trip insurance and reasses when it gets closer. Cam you have someone stay with you to help while he's gone? I think ultimately he needs to decide if it's worth it or not to go. My feeling is, it's a bachelor party not the wedding itself. But I would still want my husband to make the choice.

I'd be concerned because of the toddler to take care of too. If you have help nearby and you are ok with it, then I guess it works for you. For me, it wouldn't be ok. But my husband wouldn't feel comfortable going either.

A friend of mine traveled by car 4 hours away when his partner was 35 weeks. The baby came early, but he cut his trip short and didn't miss the birth. A coworker had to travel when his wife was 39/40 weeks. When he got back from his scheduled cross country flight she went into labor that night.

Neither situation was ideal, I'm sure hindsight the couples would have liked to have been around each other the last few days of the pregnancy. Babies come when they come and life keeps going. Just make sure he has a clear exit plan in case you need him home.

I would be ok with it because I was overdue with #1. Dh was at a work retreat for 5 days when i was 37 weeks and it was ok. I felt more chill about him traveling when I was pregnant with my second than I did with my first. So i would be cool with the trip provided things went smoothly up to that point. Taking care of a toddler wasn't a big deal, honestly.....

It would depend on if you have family/friends close to help out if your toddler was just wearing you out or if you needed to go to the hospital. I would be fine with my husband doing this because I have plenty of friends who I could call in a pinch who would happily watch my daughter, or help get me to the hospital if I went in to labor.

Mine travelled at 37 weeks last time and I had my mom come stay with me. We had only moved to town 7 weeks prior and I knew NO ONE else. Of course nothing happened.
Last night my husband asked me if he could travel for work at 38.5 weeks. I felt selfish, but I told him it made me too nervous and I'd rather he wasn't further than 4 hours driving. We live in montana and there aren't hundreds of flights here each day. There are 1-3 per day, so it wouldnt be like he could just hop on the next flight.

I don't see a major problem with it. I stay home, and my husband isn't home until after six. Although I admittedly love those extra sets of hands through dinner, cleanup, bath, and bedtime, it would be barely two extra hours of solo-parenting, for me. Not a huge deal. I'm sure my folks would offer to drive down and pitch in a little, but I'd be fine, without.

You may certainly be a little tired and frazzled; that's a given. But I think it's worth it so your husband can be present during this exciting time for his brother. Chances are you won't go into labor, and this could buy you some pampering, when he gets home.

I'd be fine with it. I'd just have a backup for your toddler in case you do go into labor. He can always fly home the second you feel something if that happened, but I think it's unlikely that you'll go into labor at 36 weeks.

I think @Mrs. Microscope has good questions to ask yourself. Personally, I'd be nervous about it because I went into labor with my LO at 37+3 with no warning signs or anything. And I had a fast labor. So I wouldn't be okay with DH traveling after about 34 weeks if we decide to have another baby, but that's based on my own prior experience.

I'd be fine with it. I had LO1 at 39w3d and felt great even as my water broke that morning! We were pretty much in the live your life until baby says otherwise mode.

@aprild: we were in this exact situation, but without the toddler & my DH was the one who was uncomfortable being away at that time for the weekend. He talked them into a closer by weekend getaway Bach party. Good luck... I wouldn't want to deal with that, but also appreciate my sil did when her DH was deployed & unable to get home until the wk she gave birth to lo2!

I realize a bachelor party is more optional than work travel- but M traveled regularly until week 38, I think he was in NY for a week around 36 weeks. He even stayed 1 1/2 away a few days before she was born. It did not bother me. I agree with others- perhaps task him with finding some extra help to offset that 3rd night Also some good points here about considering how your first labor went into the equation.

for me, it would depend on my own labor history and how the current pregnancy was going.

@OhCaptain: I wouldn't be okay with that either! I was born 5 weeks early, to my mom's total surprise, so I know it's totally possible! I'd be okay with it though if there were lots of short flights available.

My sister's first labor was 17 hrs, her second, 3-4 hrs from first contraction to baby. For that reason, I asked my hisband to pass on work travel after 36 weeks.

@aprild: 2 days definitely sounds better than 3. I hope baby cooperates!

My issue would be less about the "what if I'm in labor" part and more of the "extra solo parenting a toddler while so pregnant". That last month was brutal for me.