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Aw that sucks is your mom nearby to help? Or other family or friends?

Aw I'm sorry he's being like that, I also had awful nausea from weeks 6-17. I couldn't do anything during that time apart from lie on the sofa and watch TV and have a container next to me because I knew I wouldn't make it to the bathroom in time. Are you able to sit down and talk to him about how you need him to step up at this time and talk about your expectations? I hope he starts helping out more!

@MrsDragon: I would not fight through the nausea. Work it out now, because you'll want more help once baby is here! (At least if you're anything like me). My husband was (and is) helpful but we definitely had a few spats at first. I think it is hardest then because you feel so awful but still "look normal". I remember him saying "you know, some women are running marathons pregnant". That was a big fight!! For us it worked best to talk about it at a "neutral" time and sort out what worked for both of us to change. Good luck!

Buy disposables. Then it can just be thrown away (and hide other stuff). I think the kitty litter is a very big deal because you CANNOT do that.

Our house has gone through these periods. It takes time to sort it all out. Make a chore chart with even things for you and him.

Arrgh, that's so frustrating! I do agree with what others have said though, that you guys need to work together to get on the same page now, before the baby comes. Hiring a cleaning person isn't a long term solution (unless you make it one I guess!). Your lives are only going to get busier, and he needs to get with the program!

I would try and sit him down and as calmly as you can try and make him see that marriage is NOT each person giving an exactly equal 50%, it's each person giving 100%. Right now your 100% is going to be different than his 100%. Sitting on the couch for 5 hours after work is not going to cut it anymore.

He's probably feeling overwhelmed with fears and anxieties about becoming a father and extra responsibilities, losing his "fun time" etc, and sort of doing a "ostrich head in the sand" type thing. And that's understandable! But it can't stay that way either.

So yeah, I think a real heart-to-heart is in order hear, because he needs to see the pain this is causing you, and it will probably do him good to talk about his worries as well.

Best of luck!

I think a chore chart is a good idea in theory, but that could backfire on you because he could translate it as you treating him like a child. I personally don't understand video games, but I understand they can be kind of addicting!

I'd be seriously annoyed at my husband if he didn't do his fair share of things. It would not be okay now, and when your child is born, things could get really out of control.

@MrsDragon: I know it's gross to live in a messy/dirty house, but it IS hard for men to "get" how bad MS can be. I was terribly, horribly ill from about week 6 to week 17 when it began to finally ease up. I continued going to work (although honestly, I didn't get a whole lot done there, other than sitting at my desk with a trash can on my lap), and I was on Zofran, which barely took the edge off, but I still felt awful.

I would literally come home every day and go straight to the bedroom, where I would stay all night, basically immobile.

And our apartment fell to pieces. In some ways, my DH was super helpful-- I really wasn't capable of going to the store anymore or going to the pharmacy (walking around made me too dizzy and naseous), and he *did* do all of that. But he wasn't so great in the cleaning department.

So he would be nice by fixing me some buttered toast and bringing it to me, but then he'd leave the bread out, and the butter out, and the plate in the sink...and they would just pile up.

He cleaned the entire house alone maybe....once, in the 3 months I was sick.

So yup, it was gross. But I just basically had to let it go. He *was* doing more (by doing the grocery shopping and getting my meds, and doing other little errands like post office, etc) and brining me food, and he didn't want to spend the rest of his nights cleaning either. We had a few tifts over it in that time, but generally, I just tried to be grateful that he was being nice to me when honestly, I was being a miserable B (just because I was SO ill) and sometimes taking it out on him.

And we survived! And now things are back to normal and I'm at 26 weeks.

So....hang in there!!!! It will get better. Praise what he DOES do, and try to let some of it go.

HUGS. Morning Sickness is SO hard when you have a bad case of it. But it will get better!!

@MrsTiz: they make disposable pans. Not so much pots but it is half the battle.

@artbee: I totally agree with what you said. Guys look at us and don't see anything different and don't understand that even though we look the same, we don't feel the same.

I don't have MS, but I've been dealing with some really bad exhaustion in the afternoons/evenings. From about 3-7 all I want to do is lay down. Yesterday I had to leave work on the early side so I could collapse for a while. And because DH can't really cook, the minute he gets home he wants me to start making dinner because he's starving. Last night I was so tired I couldn't even stand upright, I was leaning on the pantry wall so I wouldn't fall over. I asked him to come help prop me up and he thought it was a big joke. I ended up telling him if he wanted dinner he was going to have to help. I walked him through the steps of making meatballs and when to turn on the spaghetti.

Luckily he's great about cleaning, thank God. Our arrangement is typically whoever cooks doesn't have to clean up, but in the evenings the last thing I can do is stand up washing dishes for 20 minutes.