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@Mrs Green Grass: I'm not familiar with the actual vs adjusted age. But I would think that is a huge deal with preemies and their development? I think that is a big "standard of care" mess up on her part!

I think if this was my PCP and I just did not "jive" or feel comfortable with them I would switch. Do you trust her? If you can't then absolutely switch, imo.

I've had to switch doctors because I just wasn't feeling like the doctor was listening to me before. The pediatrician was great but she was always in a hurry to see other patients so she would do a cursory. If I actually stopped and asked her questions, she seemed able and competent to answer them, was friendly - but I still didn't feel like she knew me or my kids. The nursing staff felt closer to me than the doctor did! So I switched and am glad I did! If it's just not working for you, switch hon. The doc won't remember.

@Mrs Green Grass: OK, to be honest. I never ask our pediatrtician about solids, sleep, nap advice. I go to him for medical advice and that's it. I think with solids, sleep and naps there are SO many schools of thought I don't have to agree with him. Even on medical advice I still do my own research sometimes. ie He reco's Tylenol but we give ibuprofen solely. But I do trust him and I know they are all great with her so we stay. Although I came reallyclose to firing them when she was around one.

i switched doctors for a similar reason. i don't have a preemie, but regarding solids, i definitely felt that i was more informed than my ped. She actually told me that at six months he had already (as in before 6 months) not been getting enough calories from breastmilk and i should have started solids (specifically rice cereal) at 4 months! um, have you not seen the WHO remcommendation to EBF for 6 months?! that was my final straw as i had issues before and realized i had been discounting her advice on other things as well. so i thought why am i seeing a doctor who i don't listen to? I had some issues with breastfeeding as well and she had previously told me it was all him having gas. i went to a new doc who has a good reputation for being "current" and he gave 2 little tips on BFing that changed my entire BFing relationship for the better! he also told me to exactly what i already thought/researched about solids. I feel confident asking him questions now and taking his advice. the way it should be when you see a doctor!

so basically i think you should probably listen to your gut feeling. it can make a drastic difference IMO.

@Mrs Green Grass: I switched ped's too, we were using the one from the hospital for the first year. He was close, to home, convenient had a gorgeous office...He was so impersonal, had to look at the chart for names, was very quick and to the point. You'd go there and feel like they were herding cattle, quantity over quality. I mentioned that to my friend and she recommended her pediatrician which is not close or convenient but he's awesome!

I say switch. I don't think it's a big deal. Doctors are service providers, granted they are providers that went to school for many years but if I've learned anything since having kids is that you have to be your own (and their) advocate and look out for whatever you think is in your best interest. If it's not a good fit and there's no pressing reason to stay with her then you should just switch.