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@CupQuakeWalk: better yet, I have a mom car. I'll just pick up D and travel out to the mid-west, pick up A and head up your way, yeah?
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I seriously could have written this post myself! I've been trying so much and it just hasn't worked out... it is super frustrating. Sometimes I feel like such a loner.
I am also so baffled by the way certain moms will treat me (and others) for no apparent reason - I hate being judged as a mother, it's terrible.
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@.twist.: Getting Superhero on Lego Batman is so cool and if you collect all the red bricks you are awesome!!
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@Cherrybee:
I am a Lego game addict.... I have every single Lego game. I have completed them all to 100% except batman and avengers, still working on those. It's shameful! Haha
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Ugh, I'm moving cross country in a few months and will know no one. This just made me realize how much looking for friends will suck.
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I have no time for friends anymore. I know, what a terrible thing to say. But I am still trying to figure out how to juggle parenting with work, household duties, a relationship with my husband... Sheesh there's not enough time to find new friends lol
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@Running Elley: I know what you mean. It is exactly like dating! I don't have the time or energy anymore for friends. And my time is valuable to me now... I want to give it to my own family. It can be tough too when you put into something. .. and don't really get it back.
I am pretty secure about it though. I have lived all over, lived alone, been very alone, moved all over and had lots of friends... I like having my own family as my friends. They are relationships worth investing in.
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I know, it's so hard. I clicked with two moms at library class, but we haven't hung out since before Christmas. Hopefully we can get the kids together soon and start things up again. But I went to the mall today as part of a Meetup group to meet some more moms - and no one showed up!! Apparently 9 people were supposed to be going. So M and I just walked around the mall. Sigh
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@Running Elley: hugs, mama
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@Running Elley: awww this makes me sad.
Because I think you an awesome chick. I really wish we didn't live 2 hours away from each other because I would love to hang out with you more. It is so hard to make friends. I have one close friend and she moved to Texas. I miss her all the time. I've been staying home now for almost a month and I'm not sure how to make the transition from chatting with moms at story time to meeting up and possibly becoming friends. I think having the LO's makes it hard because you focus a lot of energy on your LO and it doesn't give you the opportunity to really talk to the other mom. And you can't connect with every person so it probably takes meeting a lot of people. It sucks.
Have you checked meetup.com for meetup groups? Usually people join those groups because they are in search of friends too. I haven't had much luck with one of the mom's groups but I'm hoping to try another and see how it goes.
@fancyfunction: this happened to me recently too. There was supposed to be a meetup at story time but I had no clue who was part of the meetup. I asked a couple people and they had no clue what I was talking about so then I felt weird and didn't ask anyone else.
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I completely understand. It's so hard to even find possible mom friends out there. I've met some moms at library story times and we've even exchanged numbers but nothing ever happened. I figured they didn't want to hang out since they didn't call me (who knows - maybe they were thinking the same thing!). The awkward aspect of getting to know someone is so intimidating. When there is a lull in the conversation I often think it's my fault for not being interesting or cool enough. I try to remind myself that the few close friends I have were worth going through the awkward phase for, so it's worth the effort.
And it can be so difficult if you are a WOHM (even though it was difficult in a different way when I was a SAHM on maternity leave). Like @maplemoose said, there is so little time. I can barely juggle work, house, husband, baby, and my own interests, let alone new friendships - even though I want them! I even have been trying to connect with an awesome Bee in my area who probably thinks I'm flaking out on her.
@nursemommy: I have no idea how so many ladies on HB have become close friends. But I'll be your HB friend!
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Amen. I posted about this on another thread but I basically have no mom friends, especially since @rawrasaur: is leaving meeee! :'(
@babyjmama: I'm seriously just going to kidnap you and make you move down here. Tell DH sorry, but I clearly need you more than he does. HAH
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I think once you are beyond school-age, it becomes so much more difficult to meet people! I can only imagine that it would become harder still when you are on mat leave and away from adults 99% of the time.
I find it difficult, too, because most of my friends from school (I graduated from yet another program in December) are a few years behind where I'm at. I've settled down with SO, bought a house a couple of years ago, we are tied down by jobs and a dog, and I LOVE it. They are still flying free and partying and traveling all over the place without big plans for the future. We are in different places, which makes things hard.
I wish more HB members lived in my area! How easy would that make things...
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@fancyfunction: @mrskc: this happened to me recently too! I "think" the organizer was there, but she came to the baby yoga class late and took off as soon as it ended. Aren't we there to meet new people? When I ran a meetup group several years ago, I always made a sign if there were any new people coming because it's so awkward asking people "are you in meetup?" And they look at you like you are crazy.
I'm just starting out on my meet new mommy friends journey, but I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one with no mommy friends.
@running ellie: I always feel that way after my college roommates and I get together. I really miss having a group of girls where we all click and do fun things together. We are all spread across the country, so we only see each other about once per year.
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@Bookish: I accept that challenge. @HLK208: yaaaaaaay! Pick me up girlfran!!!!!
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@Katrocap: awww, thanks!
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@stine_ciro: I would think as a leader you would make an effort to let people know who's is part of the group. That's nice that you would have a sign. Much more welcoming and considerate to new members.
It happened to me twice with the same meetup group so I think I'm going to join another one and see if it's any better.
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I think part of the problem is that you're looking specifically for mom friends...don't! You might be surprised.
I am also so baffled by the way certain moms will treat me (and others) for no apparent reason - I hate being judged as a mother, it's terrible.
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