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@Ambular1025: Oh no. I'm sorry. That's so rubbish. Hugs to you. xx

@Hanzabelle: If I didn't temp I'd go mad!!! I'd always be wondering if I'd O'd, when I'd O'd... If i caught it, if I'd missed it... Oh no, I'm getting shaky just imagining!!

@Chibee - that's awesome you aren't stressing over your 2WW, I think that will prob be the deal of me and its only my first month! Sending baby dust your way!

@Hanzabelle - Still waiting for my O! It should be this week though, so the plan is to test and BD all week. I will say with all this BDing though - it's taking longer for the hubs to finish. lol, which normally isn't an issue, but now I just want the swimmers.

I worked all weekend, which was good took my mind off of TTC, exactly what I needed. I just need to stay busy!

@Ali - I know you'll be pregs soon, keep your head up! Still amazes me how much harder it is to get KU, considering all the highschool pregnancies I knew of.

Good luck ladies!!

This is my first month temping/OPK'ing and while it made the actual time of BD'ing a little more stressful (wasn't sure how much time I'd have, and we had wonky schedules those few days), it's So Nice to have a better sense of what's going on. I feel like I'm doing something every day.

@Chibee: I've got no idea when I normally O! Last month was my first cycle off BCP and it was really long - I O'd on CD22! I'm hoping it will be earlier this month although anything's possible!!

@Dcrumlish29: Thank you! I know, right? I've spent most of my adult life convinced if I took my BCP a few hours late I'd gt pg. Turns out, it's not as easy as I'd thought!!

@Ambular1025: Aaw, thank you! I'm feeling much brighter today, I think I'm over the worst of it all now!

@dcrumlish29: I think anxiety is definitely a form of stress, while maybe not the worst kind. I'm very type A, stress a lot in my job and on baby making, so I'm pretty sure that's not helping things. This is why so often you hear of people who stop trying or charting and get KU. But reversely, there are plenty of women who stress over the TWW and charting and still get pregnant, so who knows how much it really matters.

Thanks ladies! Every day it gets closer and closer to my O date I will my OPK to give me a smiley face! Nothing yet, last month practice test I got my LH surge around day 15/16 so that'll be tomorrow and Thursday.

@Chibee - good luck this month hopefully you won't have to resort to not charting/temping and you get your BFP this month!

@ambular1025 - I'm a crazy planner, so not having control over this situation is making me anxious! lol

Well girls, I'm out this month. Temp dropped this morning and I got a BFN (couldn't help myself!). On the plus side, my heart burn is finally subsiding. Onward to cycle 4!

@ambular1025: thanks! I'll wait until I get AF (hopefully not :D) to update the September thread, but I also don't have any typical symptoms, so I'm thinking the chances are probably pretty low. Still, as you say, not out till we're out!

I am having such a crankypants day, i was just reading the thread about how everyone told their DH/family when they were pregnant and it is so cute and makes me anxious/depressed!

@Strawberrybee: sometimes I get all tantrum-throwing-child-like and think I will NOT visit HB anymore! and that lasts for like 2 minutes. Sometimes I feel like these things are so far out of my reach... and it's only cycle 2 for me! Someone on my FB did a gender reveal party with a white frosted cake, and the color of the cake inside revealed the gender - it was very cute but I honestly think my friends and family will think it's cheesy lol and I am too impatient, i want to know everything right away.

@Chibee: My DH is so on top of my chart and whatnot that there's no way I'll get away with surprising him. But I do look forward to surprising my family with the news. I like the cake ideas but my DH is a former imaging tech and by looking at the ultrasound he'll probably be able to tell boy or girl right away.
@Ali, @Strawberrybee: It's a little pillow-like thing that holds baby and works great for when you're breastfeeding. I have a whole drawer full of baby things I've bought so far and we recently bought an antique dresser, little table and mirror for our nursery...so I totally get what you mean. I think it's smart, because we're spreading the purchases out over a long period of time.

@Strawberrybee: I can't resist a good deal either! The furniture pieces we bought were amazing steals and everytime Carter's has a sale we're buying clothes that are gender neutral. A local girl has the most amazing etsy shop that I'm addicted to now too, it's not super cheap, but super cute.
http://www.etsy.com/shop/hellomangoshop

@ambular1025: oh how pretty...love the fabrics in her store! etsy is so tempting.

@Hanzabelle: Ha, we can so enable each other!

On your job situation: with as much time as you spend at work, it shouldn't be something you despise. Being stressed out isn't going to help you or your future baby. So the question is, which will stress you out more: staying at the job, or being unemployed for an undefined amount of time? Can you and your husband make do on just his paycheck for a while? Will you still be able to have health insurance?

If you can, I'd recommend searching for a new job now, but sticking with the old one until the new one comes up. Hopefully knowing that there's an end in sight will enable you to let your new boss's comments and mannerisms roll off your back. Can you look at it from the point of view of, 'what's the worst he can do, fire me?' It could be liberating.

Only you know how you'll feel in that situation day in and day out. If you really feel that you would dread going in every day and have a sick feeling in the pit of your stomach, then it just isn't worth it imho.

@Hanzabelle: you are right. if the job is causing you stress, it's detrimental to the TTC process anyway - this is stressful enough, do you really need the added stress of hating your job?? I think if it's making you this unhappy, I think it's worth at least looking. Can you look for a new job before quitting? That way you won't have that lull in between paychecks?

@Hanzabelle: Given what you've just said, I think maybe you quit. This was not my initial thought, but since you can afford to, and the only reason you're working now is to pay down debt, I think maybe you do it. It's healthier for you and your future baby. Pick up something casual or just try to grow your photography business. It should bring enough in to help, but keep you happy at the same time. You are super lucky you guys can afford for you to be a SAHM. We could never afford that.

@Hanzabelle: Ya a life with no rent would give us a lot more money too. You're right. In that situation I could stay home too if I wanted to. Things may be tight for you now, but you'll be happy.

@Hanzabelle: What's a fortnight?

@Hanzabelle: A few years ago, I was offered an amazing job which paid big ££. I'd worked at my previous company for 10 yrs so was nervous, but I took the job. Well, days into working there, I knew I hated it. My bosses were horrible, my team were miserable, the work wasn't possible with the staff we had - it was awful. Every day I got more depressed. Every encounter with my boss left me more unstable. I'd sob night after night because I didn't want to go to work....

I was the bread winner in our house so not only was the extra money nice (we were finally getting debts down etc) but my wages also paid the rent and the bills - so I couldn't quit. I looked for other jobs but as each day went by my confidence got lower and lower. Once day, 8 months after I started the job, I lost it in my boss's office (and I mean lost it!) and walked out on the job. By that point, my confidence was at an all time low, making getting another job very difficult. I was suffering from serious depression and anxiety. The circumstances of my quitting also cost me my reference, which I didn't know until my next job offer was withdrawn. As a result of all of this, I was out of work for 4 months and me and DH almost sunk....

There's a happy ending to this, in that I sued my horrible employer for the bad reference and won. I got a new job and i enjoy it and, on the day I started it, DH proposed. But those were dark days.

I guess the point of telling you this - and my thoughts on the matter are thus:

1) You're not alone. Lots of people go through this and it sucks.

2) Whatever path you take, things will get better for you.

2) I'm worried about your blood pressure. It's already at hospitalisation level... how much more can you take??

3) If you quit now you can do it in a dignified way. If you wait until you have a breakdown you may go down the "stuff you!" route like I did or, worse, cause yourself confidence issues that affect your future business.

Lastly, you can afford it so why put yourself through torture??