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Ideal # of kids for 2 working parents vs 1 working parent

  1. Chuckles

    persimmon / 1464 posts

    @codeitall: "Challenge accepted. See you all in the loony bin ;)" Love it!

  2. Mamatimes3

    apricot / 264 posts

    @codeitall: All so true. It’s a looney bin, but s great one to be in!

  3. ShootingStar

    coconut / 8472 posts

    We are done now that we have two kids no matter what. I have zero interest in being a SAHM (I would be terrible!) or in reducing my work hours. A co-worker of mine recently did that and it's been causing a lot of problems. My job is relatively flexible, but not that flexible.

    DH every so often jokes that he would make a great SAHD and he really would. But we've set our lives up in a way that we need both of our incomes. And even if he stayed home I don't think our evenings would change much and that's what's really tough for us right now.

    On the other hand, if I truly wanted 3 or 4 kids, I don't think it would be possible with our work situation as it is. Something would have to change, because it just wouldn't be possible. Just the amount of sick days alone from all the kids getting sick would kill us at work. Add regular doctors appointments, dentist appointments, school stuff, and on and on.

  4. snowjewelz

    wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts

    @codeitall: I absolutely think if you want more kids, ultimately you will make it work and the chaos/challenges wil l be worth it! For us I think the desire to have a 3rd is not great than wanting to overcome all these other things right now haha.

  5. agold

    grapefruit / 4042 posts

    @codeitall: Challenge accepted! Honestly, I feel like it will be a looney bin, for sure! All of the reasons people say they won't have a third... I'm like "so what?" I'm crazy but if I want a third, then I'm going to do it and make it work. Even if I have to give up "stuff"! For sure though.. I think staying at home makes it so much easier since child care isn't an issue then. All of my stay at home mom friends have 3+ kids!

  6. Kemma

    grapefruit / 4291 posts

    So, we’re currently expecting #3 in April this year and we’ve already made the decision that I won’t be returning to my job once my year of maternity leave is done in 2019. Part of the reason is logistics (I don’t work in town and we have no family assistance here, my oldest is also starting school and just thinking about organising holiday care for 12-14 weeks of every year gives me a headache!), part of it is my job (I enjoy my job and it’s good $$ but it’s not worth the logistical hassle) and part of it is that I want to be home with my kids.

    I’m open to going back to some sort of part time work in the future if the right position came up or if we lived closer to family (we’re a military family and looking at a move in about 18 months) so this is not the end of me going to work but rather the season for me to be at home again.


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