I'm not sure where it comes from but the saying "It takes a village to raise a child" is one we have all heard plenty of times.
I didn't have that kind of upbringing, really - it was always just me and my mum against the world (I even went to her evening cleaning job with her!) and I wouldn't recognise my aunts/uncles/cousins if I crossed them in the street; grandparents were old people you "visited" once in a blue moon and were not really a part of your life.
In truth, that was the parenting experience I had wanted for myself and, while pregnant, I couldn't bear the thought of sharing my baby (or losing control, I guess). But it isn't the experience I got - and I couldn't be happier!
My daughter's "village" consists of:
- Her mum and dad (us)
- Her nanny and grandad (inlaws) who will have her three days a week when I go back to work (currently have her one day a week)
- Her daycare teachers who she will spend two days a week with from 20/2/14.
- Her "Auntie Joy" (and elderly lady my inlaws visit, who I've never met! They take E to see her every week!! She sees her more than she sees my mum!!).
- Her nana (my mum) who she will see maybe once a month but will hopefully spend more time with once she gets a bit older.
- My BFF and her son who is a few months older than her. The kids will grow up together!
I actually really love that she has a lot of people in her life who love her. I love it when she learns new things at my inlaws' house - for example last week she learned to put a spoon to her mouth! I thought I'd be jealous and resentful when she did new things for them but actually it's awesome that she has so many opportunities to learn from so many people. Plus it gives me a break!!
Does your LO have a "village"? Who is in that "village"? How do you feel about the concept? How do you feel about your situation?
our two couple friends who live very close by don't have children, and only 1 out of the 4 of them is interested in kids at all, and asks to babysit and spend time with them. So we are very lucky to have her, but she's extremely busy with two jobs and many hobbies so we try not to take up too much of her time. We have a couple of other families that we'd totally village it up with, but they all live more than 30 mins away. We do our best on weekends to get together. All our family lives far away: 4 hr drive or 6-7 hr drive. Two of my childhood best friends have started their families but live on the opposite coast
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