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I was wondering this too. My DH goes in before daycare opens and leaves after they are closed. I'm a teacher so he just assumes I can leave or make a phone call whenever I need to. So annoying! While my job is much more family based its still super important to me and I need to give it a 150%.

It definitely gets to be tiring. My husband has a much more flexible schedule than I do. It honestly makes me feel a LOT of guilt that he not only works but takes care of a lot of other household things.

I'm glad that I am lucky enough to have a year off after baby is here because I think/hope I will be able to help him out a lot more if I'm home all day. At least once we get into a good baby routine.

DH has an inflexible job. He leaves for work before LO is awake and come home after he's asleep. It's rough but I love the special time with my little man. I am a WOHM and work a stressful job too but my hours are more flexible.

I'm really worried about this too (and we're not even pregnant!). DH travels frequently (right now he leaves at 3:30am Monday and comes back at 11pm Thursdays). I have an hour + commute each way, although timing is really flexible and I work at the local office one day a week (10 min commute). Right now I do all the household chores, errands, cleaning, etc. not sure how it's going to work once we have a LO. A lot of women in my office work 9-4, then again from like 8-11pm so they can pick up kids, eat dinner w the family, but then keep working. Or they go 80%. We're considering if DH should go inhouse so he won't have to travel. It's good we have choices, but we still haven't quite figured it out yet.

I used to work as a lead in a retail environment like your husband. We had similar "rules". Being a lead made it even more difficult because only other leads could take my shift if I needed to get off. I also had to work 3/4 weekends (friday-sunday) a month (or 4/5 if it was a 5 weekend month). I had to work holidays and Black Friday.

DH and I had completely opposite schedules. It was a stressful job. I actually left before TTC because I didn't want to live that way at all. I'm so glad I did and I'm much happier in healthcare.

I don't have any advice but I sympathize, because I was in your husbands position. And it kinda sucks

This sounds tough--I'm sorry. I don't know that this is any consolation, but when I was growing up, both of my parents worked inflexible jobs and they made it work. Lots of people do. I agree with PPs that figuring out what tasks your husband can be responsible for during his off hours sounds like a good idea.

My DH's job is very inflexible in the sense that when he needs to be there, he needs to be there. Physically present, no working from home, no taking time off for appointments (except if there's an emergency, obviously). But he doesn't actually work that many hours, and his schedule isn't a traditional "9-5." So he actually has a lot of time during the day when he *could* do errands and stuff. I say could because he's not very good about doing it on his own, only if I specifically tell him something needs to be done. This will have to change when the baby comes...

My job is pretty flexible in that as long as I put in my time and the work gets done, I can work from home, go in early and leave early or vice versa, work some longer days and some shorter ones, etc. Still, despite working 9-5ish, I end up doing all the grocery shopping, all the cooking, and most of the cleaning. Sometimes it doesn't bother me so much, other times it drives me nuts.

The biggest issue I foresee after the baby comes is that some of my hubby's work takes place at night. We're planning to have the LO in full-time daycare, but he has already said that he'll probably pick the baby up early on days when he has afternoons off. We can also schedule regular checkups and stuff when he's not working so I won't have to take time off. Sick visits will be done by whichever of us is more available at the time. Thing is, if he doesn't want to pick the baby up one day so he can do other things, we'll still have daycare until I'm done with work for the day. At night, if I feel like having me time or running errands or taking an exercise class and he's at work, there's no readily available childcare. I kind of feel like I'm going to be screwed by our schedules and we're not even there yet! I'm sure it will be a huge learning experience for both of us...

When I was working my job was more flexible. DH is a teacher and doesn't take time off. I worked a 9 to 5 that was very flexible about me working from home and taking off for doctor's appointments and when LO was sick. It was hard because it was still my job and I hated that all of a sudden I had to be the one out more often, but DH needs to be in class teaching. It did suck but he makes more money than I do and had the more secure job. Plus I just think about how he's responsible for everything in July & August during summer break.

I have to do everything if DH has to work but he makes up for it when gets home.

@Mrs. Jacks: as of now he is not eligible till 2015. He lost it right before we met from a 3rd DUI & he's been sober for 5 years now. The laws keep changing so there is a chance he maybe able to get it sooner but as of now we must wait till then. Its total BS cause if he went out and got another DUI today he would automatically be granted an interlock system.

DH's job requires him to live and work out of town during the week. He is also on-call every 3rd weekend so I don't see him for nearly 9 days when his call rolls around. Work comes before family in everything unfortunately but he is able to provide a pretty good quality of life for us for where we live, as there are not many job opportunities in his field. I handle everything child care related and work full time. All drop offs and pick ups and if the baby is sick I have to take off work. He can't really go on vacations with us unless scheduled way way in advance and even then things can change quickly. He was supposed to drive 5 hours with us this week to visit family but now can't due to work so it is just going to be the baby and I. Super scared that we are expecting baby 2 and it will be more exhausting...but it is what it is and I'm not looking at big picture just yet!