If you are on your last pregnancy, are you cherishing it? Savoring the moments? Wanting it to be over?
I'm definitely in the honeymoon second trimester right now...nothing is really bothering me (except my sleep) but nothing fun is going on either. But, I'm kind of anxious for it to be over...since I'm AMA I'm a little nervous this time and just want that healthy baby in my arms!
watermelon / 14467 posts
85% sure this is my last (hubs is 110% DONE). I'm just kind of going with the flow. I'm also in the honeymoon period of not feeling like absolute crap 24/7, so I'm trying to enjoy it.
grapefruit / 4800 posts
Trying to look at the positives but I'm not a huge fan of how I feel pregnant. I'm in the second trimester now too so it's a bit better. Not as tired, starting to feel baby move and plateauing a bit on weight gain. For some reason I gain like 10 lbs or more in just over the first trimester. It's happened with all 3 pregnancies and it's just hard on my body to gain so quickly.
cantaloupe / 6869 posts
I'm fairly sure this is it for me. My DH does not want more than 2 bio kids so if we ever have another kid, we'll adopt. I wish I was savoring it. This pregnancy has been really physically hard on me (I'm still being medicated due to serious nausea) compared to my first so I haven't been at the point where I've really enjoyed it. In fact, sometimes I feel guilty because I just want it to be over. At this point in my last pregnancy, I absolutely loved it and was definitely cherishing it. I hate that I'm not doing that this time. Very conflicted over here.
grapefruit / 4418 posts
I don't know yet if it's our last or not, but I tried to treat it like it was. I'm 38+1 (same GA as when I delivered DD1) and I'm over it. Not even trying to cherish it since I got SPD lol, just wishing it was over and anxiously counting down until my induction on Monday while praying she comes before then!
persimmon / 1467 posts
I'm so over it and praying I never get pregnant again! BC was not kind to me so I'm pretty terrified we will accidentally have a third.
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
Pretty sure we're two and through. I am not cherishing first trimester though... Not at all. I also don't feel very connected since I haven't had an appt/ultrasound yet.
clementine / 756 posts
We only plan on having one and so I think that really helped me enjoy my pregnancy. I knew it was my only shot, so I milked it for all it was worth!
pear / 1593 posts
hate being pregnant, wishing it away! i don't think i find it possible to cherish or enjoy pregnancy! i find it very limiting. #negativenelly
clementine / 777 posts
A bit of a different take, this is my first pregnancy but after 2 years of infertility to achieve it, it could also be my last and I try to think of it as my only. I'm really trying to drink it all in and enjoy it. I feel so good and am super duper grateful. I love feeling her move, it's the absolute best. The only dumb thing right now is that I've always had some body insecurity and I feel so dowdy with my shape right now. I hate that and I don't want to focus on it.
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
As long as this baby sticks, yes. Right now I just want out of the 1st tri anxiety. Then I hope I can enjoy it since it will be my time pregnant.
apricot / 259 posts
@JenGirl: Same.
I'm 40w1d and as much as I'm crazy to
meet my baby boy, I'm savoring these last few days of pregnancy.
grapefruit / 4988 posts
No, I am not cherishing it, although I hope to soon. This is my 3rd pregnancy in a row that should technically end up being my last. One of the problems with recurrent loss is that you start to feel like every pregnancy is a miscarriage waiting to happen. Combine that with normal first trimester sickness and exhaustion, and it makes it really hard to cherish anything.
That said, I am really, really hoping to start enjoying this pregnancy if/when we have a successful NT scan and materniti21 result. Just a couple more weeks to go and then maybe I can let down my guard a bit and enjoy myself (and hopefully morning sickness will be gone then too).
nectarine / 2521 posts
I'm very excited it's my last because we know we wanted 2, and it feels like the next season of life can start without waiting and wondering when and if. I'm sure I will be super weepy and sad a good bit knowing it's my last, and I plan to try and be much kinder and easier on myself this time around.
coconut / 8472 posts
I hate pregnancy way too much to savor it. I get through it by reminding myself that this is my last one. I hate to wish away my life, but I just want this to be done. Moving is difficult, eating is difficult, and I'm exhausted.
pomegranate / 3350 posts
Trying to but with 2 little guys keeping me busy I forget about it a lot. I love feeling all the movement now but I don't know that I'm savoring it as I should be. I certainly am not wishing for it to hurry up or be over though!
hostess / wonderful grape / 20803 posts
@catlady: 
I feel you. I walked into my 16 week check up today expecting bad news. Can't shake it. I think I will start to have less anxiety after the anatomy scan. I hope.
pear / 1879 posts
I'm not totally sure but have a strong feeling that that we will not have more than 2 children. I am trying my very hardest to savor every moment as, most days, I really like being pregnant. There are some hard days but so far, this pregnancy has been a bit easier than my first pregnancy. I get a lot of anxiety thinking about being "done" with this part of my life and as much as I am counting the days until we get to meet this little one, I will be sad when it's over 
nectarine / 2834 posts
@Periwinkle: I'm also sad about this stage being done. I think I'm not in a hurry to ttc for #3 because I don't really want it to be my last and I'm going to be so sad going through all of the lasts!
grapefruit / 4584 posts
This will probably be my last (baby 3), and at nearly 16 weeks I'm starting to enjoy it...im less tired/nauseous, baby is moving a bit, I have the beginnings of a little bump, and we plan to tell our DDs soon. I think I'll be even more excited once we know the sex. I adored being pregnant the first two times, but I also had more help and time to myself to enjoy pregnancy. I'm afraid this one's going to go buy in a blur, which is a little sad since it's probably the last!
pear / 1879 posts
@Tidybee: Exactly! That's actually one of the reasons why we waited a bit for #2. I was hesitant to launch into the last phase.
I will need to remind myself to look back at this thread as I get toward the end and am so uncomfortable!
apricot / 485 posts
I am about 90% sure I am done. I am just 13 weeks, so far I have not been enjoying it! I will try to enjoy it. I'm not a huge fan of pregnancy but the excitement around having a new little baby part I will miss since they grow up so fast
hostess / wonderful grape / 20803 posts
@Tidybee: @Periwinkle: I think I'll definitely be sad about the lasts when the baby is here (or even LAST labor). But up until now I've been thinking hurry up let's get the show on the road!
clementine / 756 posts
@ModernDayJibarita: Ah! I'm so excited for you! That was such an amazing and exciting time! Despite the aches and sleepless nights and frequent doc appointments! And those first days with your baby are so special. A lot of people hate it because it is insanely hard and exhausting and can be scary. But it's so short and beautiful and I think knowing it's your only helps remind you to soak it all up. Because you will miss it. Even the exhausted middle of the night wake ups and the crying and sore nipples and all of it. This is the stuff that life is made of.
persimmon / 1458 posts
Just had my third which was my last baby. I definitely didn't have time to really focus on being pregnant because well I was busy with 2 others. I definitely felt physically the most uncomfortable with this last one because he was my largest baby but tried hard to soak in some moments because I really enjoyed all of my pregnancies and thankfully had easy ones. I am definitely sad that I won't experience pregnancy again.
nectarine / 2951 posts
Yes, we only would like 2, and I'm due next month. My first pregnancy was so easy and I really enjoyed it. This one has been a roller coaster. I have a previa which meant modified bedrest since 16 weeks, taking a medical leave from work, so many ultrasounds and monitoring, and basically having grandparents move in to help with DS. Lots of worrying and anxiety... If I could guarantee another pregnancy like my first, I might be sad about it being my last time pregnant, but at this point I just want the baby here safe & sound.
I do think growing a baby is a miraculous gift and I try not to take it for granted. I love feeling kicks, but I'm getting uncomfortable and I'm ready for giving birth again!!
persimmon / 1445 posts
16 weeks with #2 and this will definitely be our last one! I suck at being pregnant and I don't really enjoy it. After suffering an early loss last year and seeing several friends struggle with infertility and loss, I feel awful that I don't love being pregnant. I do love my babies of course, but I am so sick, cranky, tired, broken out, etc... Looking forward to November for sure!
pomegranate / 3331 posts
@runnerd: this! I hate not having my body to myself, and not feeling like I'm in my own body. Pregnancy to me is a means to an end - i don't enjoy it. I'm confident I won't miss it!
pomegranate / 3331 posts
@caterw: oh yea this too. I hate that i don't enjoy being pregnant, and that makes me feel even worse about it. I had an early loss last year as well, and it makes me feel ungrateful that I don't enjoy it, but I try to remind myself that it's not being pregnant that most people look forward to, and I'm so over the moon excited to actually meet my baby!
pear / 1965 posts
I'm only 8 weeks. So its surreal yet. I feel I might be sad and def cherish it second trimester. Part of me doesn't want this to be my last. But it will be.
pear / 1593 posts
@caterw: @Pirouette: i wouldn't feel guilty about that! (although I would try not to complain as much publicly!) I had two first trimester losses, and lots of bleeding in my healthy pregancies - so that only adds to the reasons I hate being pregnant. It's an anxious time and I feel like my body isn't good at it. I prefer for my babies to be on the outside where they can be taken care of if something goes wrong 
persimmon / 1445 posts
@runnerd: oh I definitely don't complain in real life (except to hubs and a very few close friends who won't think I'm being a brat).
grapefruit / 4819 posts
This is 100% our last (baby #3) and I have been trying really hard to cherish all the moments. I have been very lucky and have had pretty easy pregnancies with all three, so it makes it a lot easier to enjoy the moment and savour all these lasts. I have 4.5 weeks left to go, and whilst I'm a bit uncomfortable with this bowling ball belly that makes it hard to wrangle my feisty toddler, I'm also sad at the thought that in just a few weeks, I will never again feel a little baby kicking me from the inside... And whilst I'm not really looking forward to labour, I am oddly sad about never again getting to experience the feeling of birthing a baby after this one!
Damn pregnancy hormones have me all over the place!
pear / 1593 posts
@caterw: haha the not complaining publicly was more of a reminder for myself
pomegranate / 3331 posts
@runnerd: haha yea I try to always put on a happy face publicly as well. I know what you mean too, because my 3rd tri last time was super stressful and I'm definitely a bit anxious entering the 3rd tri again. It's so hard when things go wrong during pregnancy and there's absolutely nothing you can do until they come out.
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