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I would think that it varies - my friend's sister found out just before she had her son that he was boy. She was lightheaded at the end of her pregnancy, passed out and was brought to the hospital. They accidentally told her when she came to.

I have another friend who's OB slipped and told her, too. Oops!

Nope, our OB did not record it when we were TG

I don't think it was noted. I actually thought my midwife gave it away at one of my last appts when she said, if it's a boy, have you thought about circumcision. I was like, ok she knows it's a boy and is just playing along with the "if" thing... Nope I had a girl.

My midwives (hospital-based) didn't even know. The radiology department doesn't communicate the sex to them, only the vital stats and measurements and such. The midwives only find out the sex before the birth if the parents have found out and tell them at one of the appointments! It was so funny when DD was born, DH and I kind of forgot about checking in the excitement of the moment. After a minute or two, the attending MW was like "should we check to see if it's a boy or girl? I don't know about you but I'm dying to know!" And we were like, "oh! Yes! Us too!"

Our office does record it. Every visit the first question the doc asked was do you know the sex?

we were team green for our first and nope they didn't write it down. for our second i knew but my husband didn't, so they wrote it in the records but also wrote a note that the husband doesn't know he didn't find out til delivery!

My midwife didn't even know the gender. I was terrified that she would accidentally tell me but she said the ultrasound tech just wrote that the anatomy all looked good but didn't say what the sex was.

I did genetic testing and the sex was listed on the report. My OB just hid it in the back of my file.

Our office doesn't record it either. Makes me feel more relieved not to have to worry about the midwives slipping!

My office doesn't record it, if you aren't finding out so that there aren't slip ups. That being said, I have non-invasive prenatal screening for genetic disorders that showed the sex at 10 weeks. They put a sticker over that part of the result that says "Patient does not want to know sex". So someone could find out, but they'd need to actively look, it's not just right there.

Mine didn't write it down if you weren't finding out. With my second, I moved at 33 weeks and had to get copies of all my records. Sex wasn't recorded anywhere.

Ours did! That's actually how I found out we were having a boy. At the hospital, while in labor, they had already written 'boy' on wristlets for the hospital for our baby. I saw it in the middle of a contraction, lol.

@MrsBrewer: good question. I was shocked! I had done the blood test for chromosomal abnormalities at 14 weeks (my health insurance covered it, which was awesome), so I suspected that it was in my file somewhere. None of my midwives let it slip, though, before then. When I saw the bracelets with my name and 'male' written I was taken aback, and just sad for my husband, who was the impetus to us being team green. I made him look though so we could both know. It ended up being a really special moment, and kind of awesome.

@Mrs. Milk: Oh no! I just read your response. I'm so glad our hospital has the "unknown" policy.

I had a nurse do my ultrasound and she said that my doctor didn't need to know, so I doubt it was written anywhere.

At the ultrasound clinic I went to they don't even look at the genitals if you don't want ti know the sex of the baby.

It's typically on the tea sound report but if your doc does their own ultrasound they might not write it down.