...what was your experience like? Starting at what age and until...?
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I am bed sharing at the moment. Started from 4 hours after birth when we came home and will continue until she's 18. Ok not really 18, whenever something comes up where I feel like moving her or whenever she wants to leave me. So ya.... 18.
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Co-slept from birth until two weekends ago (she is 23 months). It was great until about 16 months when she would start to wake up every time one of us turned over or got out of bed. It has definitely made for interesting compromises in our sex life and acted as birth control sometimes.
I wouldn't co-sleep for this long again or at least I would make sure to have our next LO get used to sleeping in the crib.
It definitely helped with breastfeeding. I wouldn't have been able to function at work + nurse on demand in the middle of the night without co-sleeping.
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We started co-bedding around 3 days after we came home. Before that I was trying not to doze off in a recliner holding him because he had zero interest in sleeping in his bassinet. We moved him into his crib in his own room at 5.5 months. Our bed really isn't big enough for long-term co-sleeping, plus he's a restless sleeper and I'm a really light sleeper.
The time in between was nice, though. I loved that he could nurse with both of us pretty much asleep. I would wake up for half a second to adjust, and then I'd doze back off.
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we did full time bed sharing from when we came home until 6.5 months. Then she started spending the first part of the night in the crib, and then coming into bed with us. We stopped completely at about 8 months because it wasn't working for us anymore (she wasn't able to sleep).
It worked really well until it didn't anymore... I loved it when it was working, and it sucked when it stopped working. I'm glad we got to have that time together, and I'm glad she's in her own space now.
ETA: we had an arm's reach co sleeper that worked really well for storing my reading pillow and books. with my next baby I will make a stronger effort to utilize the co sleeper consistently, but would be open to co-bedding again. We were open to co-bedding with this babe, but agreed that we would move her out at a year and didn't make it that long. Will probably set up the same boundaries for our next baby.
Having my bed back, and when she was out of our room, has been really wonderful. She was a light sleeper in our bed or in a crib in the same room- so we couldn't do anything in there (no reading, no cuddling, just sleeping).
Going to bed early, stretching out, and reading a book is still a pretty great feeling. Also, we had to have sex on the living room floor, which is fun exactly one time. If we had another bed or a better couch that might have been different. -
I co-slept with LO from about 2 weeks, when the newborn sleepies wore off, to 8-9 weeks, when she decided she could sleep on her own in her crib. I didn't feel comfortable with her in our bed, so I set up a twin mattress on the floor of the nursery that conformed to the safe co-sleeping rules. Our goal was always to get her into her own crib as soon as we could, though. It was so nice when I could start sleeping in my own bed with DH again! But I wouldn't hesitate to break out the same setup again if she goes through a difficult sleep phase in the future.
ETA: side-lying nursing has never worked well for us, so even when we co-slept I had to get up and use the cradle hold. So there was really no benefit on that point for us to keep sharing after she got used to the crib.
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DS started sleeping with us when he was around 7 months. He started waking up every 1-2 hours and being with us he STTN. He's 18 months and still in our bed. Sure, we don't have as much intimate time, but I'm pregnant so we probably wouldn't have as much sex anyways!
We'll see when he moves out. We're not pushing him. I think he'll do it in his own time. This is how he sleeps best so this is how I sleep best!
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We co-slept/bed-shared for a few months (not long) - from maybe 2 months to 4.5 months?
Sometimes we would start her in the PnP beside our bed, but usually not. She went to bed at 9:30, so I would just nurse her to sleep and then pass out beside her. It gave me so much more rest, because I just nursed side-lying throughout the night.
We moved her into her own room/crib after Christmas, because she was starting to move around in her sleep (and want to play when she woke up), and also because DH didn't sleep well AT ALL with her in the bed. I miss middle of the night snuggles (though I still get some when she eats), but its been better for all of us to have her in her own crib.
I can totally see why people bed share, though. I
baby snuggles!
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We started co-sleeping (co-bedding) at a few weeks old. LO started STTN the same day. She is 22 months and we just transitioned her into her own toddler bed several weeks ago. Her bed is in our room, next to our bed. Co-sleeping was fantastic and we all loved it; it did get a little bit old getting kicked in the head though lol
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We've co-slept since she came home. We've bed shared since she was 3 weeks old. Once I discovered side lying we started bed sharing.
At 17 months we still bed share. It's been great for breastfeeding and my sleep was okay even with MOTN feedings.
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We bed-share and have since she was born, because she nursed 24/7 as soon as she was out of the womb! She's 8.5 months now. We love her in our bed and we never want her to leave. Waking up next to her and DH's sweet faces in the morning is pure heaven! And side-lying nursing, once we got the hang of it, has really helped the amount that I sleep.
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We bed shared on occasion and when necessary when LO was a newborn but started consistently bedsharing when A hit a big sleep regression at around six months.
At seventeen months We're still bedsharing from the first or second wakeup but that has lately stretched out till around 0530 in the morning.
I love sleeping with Miss A but I do miss sleeping with DH because A and I share the king single bed in her room.
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Birth til 7 months. We sleep more soundly separately, but I like the snuggles when he has a random 3 am wake up
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I never thought we would bed share, but I found out very early that I was an anxious mess when LO was in his bassinet. So within a couple of weeks, he was sleeping in bed with us, and everyone slept better. We got rid of our pillows and comforter and took precautions, but it's been the best thing for sleep, security, and breastfeeding. He's 9.5 months old now, and co-sleeping definitely has its ups and downs, but none of us is ready to change our arrangement yet.
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We bed share, and have since birth. She's 8.5 months now, and we're still going strong. We've had a wonderful experience, and it has enabled us all to pretty consistently STTN since our daughter was about six weeks old. However, ever since she's been mobile (crawling), it has gotten a little tricky, as our bed is raised and she often tries to hightail it out of there, once she wakes up. The loose plan is to attempt a transition at one year, to offer us all a little more sleeping space. It's getting tight in our queen! If it's a massive struggle, I have no problem continuing to bed share through the early toddler years. I love having her next to me.
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I was too afraid to bed share when LO was younger & smaller but occasionally I would fall asleep with her side lying nursing at night. At a little under 4 months I got more comfortable with it. We did it to get through the 4 month regression, and traveling. Since our sleep training efforts have not been successful I will bring her in bed with me if she has more than 2 or 3 wakeups (she's 5 months now).
She doesn't wake up less when we co-sleep but it is easier to deal with the wake-ups in bed together than having to go to her room. She also sleeps latched on the whole night & will wake up if dislodged so it's very uncomfortable for me!
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We co slept from day 1 at home- I had her in her basinette next to me, then in the pack and play. I used to nurse her then put her back in her PnP but starting at maybe 6 months she would spend the rest of the night in bed with me. We have a queen, DH is a heavy sleeper and snores, so it's just LO and me in the bed
Eta: for those that bed share: do you side lie facing LO and if so, does that hip/arm hurt? My right side is always so stiff but I'd never turn my back to her
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@MrsLilybugg: Yes, that's one of the reasons I don't really like cosleeping! She wakes up if I move so I have to stay on my side with her in the crook of my arm.
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We did from about 1 month-2.5 months, then again from about 3.5 months to now (she started sleeping HORRIBLY at 3 months). Personally, I like it. Right now she dies the first half of the night in the RnP, then around 1 when I'm exhausted and can't bear trying to get her kdwb again, I just plop her next to me and give her a boob. We do end up adjusting every hour it two (switching sides, or she'll try to roll or something), but we both always go right back to sleep.
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@daniellemybelle: Sleep training isn't/didn't go well?
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We mostly coslept from birth until about a year. There were some night when she would sleep in the rock n play when she was tiny, but starting around 6 months we were completely bed sharing. We crib trained at 11.5 months and for the first month or so she would sleep in her crib until about midnight and then she would come to bed with us. Now she is exclusively in her crib at nearly 22 months.
As for the experience, it was the only way for us. She would nurse and I could sleep. I was not about to get up a million times a night for her to nurse and go into her room and sit on an uncomfortable chair. I have no regrets.
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@ms.janedoe: No
sorry I never responded to your wall post! She regressed & then we went on a trip, and then we tried again & I gave in because she was hysterical. So we are back at square one -
We co-slept exclusively from birth to 8 weeks. She had no desire to sleep in her bassinet.
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I planned on co-bedding from the start, we we did from birth until...last night, haha. LO is 7.5 months. It was fantastic for nursing, and DH and I both loved the snuggles. DH actually asked me today when LO could come back in our bed. I wish we could still co-bed, but her sleep went to shit around 6 months when she started crawling. She began waking up every hour or two wanting to play (from 1-3 wake-ups previously just to eat). So we're transitioning to the crib and doing some non CIO sleep training.
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Gosh, we started at 6 months until 11 months, then again at 2 years. He's 3 and I am trying to let him sleep alone, but he's been calling me back, so he's not ready yet,
baby snuggles!
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