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My gfs and I have a mutual understanding that whatever we tell each other in confidence, it includes the SOs. They're all types not to really care about girl drama, so it's never been an issue for us!

I'm AMAZING at keeping other people's secrets. I just suck at keeping my own.
I usually don't tell DH unless the person is okay with it and they usually are!

Yes, everyone knows how close we are. When I tell someone something I assume their spouse will know as well.

And yes, of course unless they specifically ask me not to tell their spouse.

Yes and I assume if I tell someone a secret they will tell their spouse. Spouses seem like a unit to me - I tell one, I'm basically also telling the other.

@mrbee: I am a very good secret keeper. For certain things, I will ask if it is okay to tell DH. I am really bad at keeping my own secrets from my DH! I always spill the beans immediately! If I buy something I will sometimes joke that I won't tell him about it or how much it cost, for example, but I always do!!

Yes. And when I tell secrets to someone who's married then I assume they'll share with their spouse. It just seems like a given to me.

Yes, i always tell my husband. But usually the friend teling the secret understands that she is kind of sharing it with both of us. The only time i dont is if telling my husband really invades my friends privacy (hypothetical example: friend had an abortion).

If it is something interesting I might mention it to him. I think it should be a given that anything you tell someone is fair game for them to pass onto their spouse.

Yes, I always tell my husband! He tells me stuff too!

I don't usually have/share secrets, if I do it's usually kept between me and my hubby until it's made public (if it ever is). Or else I'll tell my sister, but I would assume she tells her husband because it's the nature of our marriages. Anything she tells me, she knows I'll share with my husband. I guess it's a mutual understanding? I'm not close enough with anyone other than my sister to share "secrets" so I'm not worried about it because my sister is the most trustworthy person I know. Although, she has told my mom things on occasion (we're close with her too) when she wasn't supposed to, so now I know to clarify not to tell mom.

Sometimes I'll tell him but usually not. My husband isn't the gossipy/secretive type so he doesn't even really care if I tell him anything interesting or not. He just nods his head and goes about his business. If he wanted to know though, I might tell him.

If I tell my friends something, I just assume they would tell their SO's.

I tell my husband. My friends know how close we are and when they tell me something it includes my husband. I also know it goes both ways. So unless we specifically say not to tell our husbands then they get told.

Always.

Yes I do tell my husband and for this reason I dont tell people my secrets but I assume they will at the very least tell their SO and if that person doesnt feel loyal to me they might tell someone else

@mrbee: I never mind if someone tells my secret to their SO. But then again I never really have any good secrets. I guess the only one I've had was that I miscarried, I didn't want it spread around because I didn't want to talk to everybody about it. But I told close friends, and I'm 100% sure they told their SO's. But I don't see the SO's spreading it around so I don't care.

I always ask if it's ok to tell Wagon Sr. If it's not, I ask them not to tell me! I can't keep a secret from Wagon Sr.

depends on the situation

Maybe...

I tell my husband unless someone explicitly asked me not to. All my friends know that anything they tell me, I'll tell him. He usually doesn't listen or care though, haha. And my husband knows that when he tells me stuff, I'm going to tell my BFF unless he tells me not to, haha.

Unless they tell me not to, I share everything with my husband. Even then, I sometimes make the call that my husband is an exception, but I'm sure to tell him not to pass it along.