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asians are still a minority around here at a macro level of the population, but there are many different types of asians near us and a huge korean-am population. we're also hoping to join my home church to keep a tie with the korean-american community around here.

Our LO will be mixed....but I don't anticipate much strangeness from other people because she'll probably just look "tan" and people won't be able to place her ethnicity.

People will probably ask her what she "is" as she gets older, but that also doesn't bother me. I think people just ask to be nice/out of curiosity...

I kind of think it'll be a cute sociological experiment to see how her answer changes as she gets older. DH's nephew got really confused one day when he asked if our baby would be "pink". My husband said, "no, she's going to be brown, like us" (meaning like DH and his nephew). And his nephew said, "but Aunt A---- is pink!", clearly perplexed, "so girls can't be brown!"

Dh said, "But you know lots of brown girls".

Then his nephew thought about it for a long time and you could just see a little light bulb go on. And then he was just like, "ohhhhh".

SO adorable!

@sunny: Oh sorry, I meant to respond to @regberadaisy's question when I was at my computer but forgot!

Re: mixed, it's just not really a positive term to me. The term "mixed up" ("In a state of confusion; bewildered or muddled") is a negative one... I guess I never liked the implicit connection between mixed and mixed-up. And yah, I also don't love the whole connection to mixed-breed dogs.

Anyway I'm not super worked up about the word... it's just not for me!

LO is half Filipino half Swedish. Surprisingly, there's quite a few half Asian children around here, although still a minority, it's not so uncommon to see. So it's kind of cool to see babies that kind of look like her!

The big difference is that most Asians are from developing countries and as an American, it's not so easy find things in common. So DD will most likely not have play dates with other half Asian kids.

But as for being teased, I'm not too worried about it. Because it's such a homogeneous society, there really isn't enough of other races for it to be a problem. That sounds weird that I say it that way because a lot of places in the States with low diversity usually means a high level of racism, but it's usually not the case here. Plus, there is a surprisingly large amount of adopted kids from Asia that now have their own kids.

I'm hoping that in the next few years, there's really a whole lot of mixing going on and we'd have some real diversity around here.

Our LO is half Taiwanese and half white....since we live in the Greater Los Angeles area, it's pretty diverse and I think she will be fine!