How did you come to be done with them?
The more detailed the better, lol. Starting to doubt my plan.
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we don't have a plan..lol. I'm not gonna wean right before baby and have her steal the baby's, so I'm going to play by ear. she only gets it at night anyway, and it hasn't affected her speech...I'm hoping she'll give it up to become a big girl but we will see!!
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@Beebug: Do you consider 18 months a toddler? I so, we one day cut the nipple off (whole thing), and gave it back. She had a fit and was over it. Actually, she was more sad than anything. She held onto it for a night or two and on the third night she handed it to me and that was that.
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@sorrycharlie: lol understood, we are past "new baby" as excuse to keep it, the end is near!
@Bao: DD has 3 that stay within the perimeter of her bed. She never challenges this and my goal is to be done with them by 2 (next month). I cut half of one and the girl who doesn't miss anything hasn't said a peep about it. I didn't do it to get favourite one of the three though, lol. My plan was/is to cut 2nd half of that one next week, four more weeks after that cutting the others half at a time, in theory she still "gets" the full effect for a few more weeks, so I'm not sure on my plan.
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@Beebug: I say just cut them all and get it over with
A was SO addicted to hers and I was beyond nervous but I just did it and was shocked to find she didn't really care much.
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Lo is 18 months...we are going to get through the crib to floor bed transition, and then i am going to start taking them away once he falls asleep to wean him off. The cutting makes me nervous because i heard pieces of silicone can break off in their mouth. But researching that more will be my next option if my plan doesn't work.
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LO used them until like a bit past 2.5. For a long time it was just for sleep. We wanted to wait until the baby came to manage jealousy issues, but LO2 didn't take them. We went cold turkey -- told him the paci fairy would give them to babies who needed them. There weren't a lot of tears -- he was mostly cool with it, and the few times he odd cry for them we just stood firm. He did wake up a little more than usual at first, but that eventually stopped.
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I feel like most of her issues now are just possessing them, she doesn't sleep most of the night with them! But her possessiveness is very crazy, eeep.
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E is 25 months, and still uses his for nap/bed. We were going to wean him off it by his birthday, then by D's birthday, and now we're still putting it off
His sleep is not awesome, but he LOVES his "sassy" and I'm terrified to take it away from him...following for advice, lol!
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I desperately need advice in this arena. My just turned 2 year old is obsessed. It's her comfort and she's become really possessive of them lately too. She even says "I need one right now!" It's really got to go but I'm scared. I know we just need to bite the bullet.
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Ummm, subscribing! LO still needs "beesch" to sleep....and I'm beginning to hate it. Ugh, still holding out hope she will magically decide she's done with paci!!
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We are just at the tail end of the process of ditching the pacifier ourselves! DD just turned two so we definitely fall into the used it into toddlerhood camp. We had been limiting use to nap/bedtime for probably about a year. She had a habit of chewing holes in them and about 6 months or so ago she chewed through one of the two she used on a regular basis-- we were shocked that she threw it away on her own with very little prompting. So we told her the remaining one was the last one and if it broke, then we had to say bye bye and no more pacifiers. Well wouldn't you know she was super careful with this one! At her two year check up last week, her doctor asked if she sucked her thumb-- she thought she could see signs of her front teeth being pushed forward a bit. So we decided that was it--we had to get rid of it. Last Sunday I cut a few small holes in "Pink" (yes, she referred to it by name-- that is how attached she was!!) and waited to see what would happen at bedtime. She put it in and then immediately pulled it out to look at it and noticed the holes. I asked her if everything was ok and she said that Pink was broken. We talked about it for a bit and said that it was ok to be sad to have to say goodbye to Pink but she was a big girl now and didn't need it anymore. She didn't really react. She mentioned the trash but didn't seem to be ready to actually toss it so we set it on her dresser where she could see it. The first few nights/nap times were hard-- she didn't cry for the pacifier per se but she was clearly stalling going to sleep (asking for more books, to go potty a hundred times, etc.) and cried when we left the room which is unusual these days. And she occasionally asked to hold the pacifier (I think to assure herself it is till broken...at one point she asked if DH could "fix it later" which was so sweet/sad). But the last two nights, she's gone to bed no problem! We've had a few MOTN wakings too where she's been awake (not crying, just awake) for a fairly lengthy time as well but I am not sure that is entirely attributable to the pacifier. Pink is still sitting on her dresser-- I think we'll see whether she is ready to actually throw it away soon.
So all of that is to say that our pacifier weaning experience was better than I thought it would be-- especially for a pacifier addict like my LO.
Good luck!!
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@abmamma: she calls all hers by colour too. Orange is the fave. Pink and blue are the others. I cut half of pink this week and haven gotten no feedback. Weird for our very chatty, observant gal.
I'm so afraid of messing with orange!!
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@abmamma: @Beebug: LO calls hers by color too! They are all "beesch" (her own word for paci) but there is "green beesch", "blue beesch" and "pink beesch". Green is definitely her preferred one and we had a meltdown just the other day because I only had pink beesch to offer. D'oh!
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@Beebug: oh man N loves his cera (triceratops pacifier ). He gets only at night. I don't see it stopping anytime soon. My mum lectures me often about it but I am just playing by ear for now. Sorry momma.
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Ugh. This post is very timely for us. DD is 2.5, and still uses her binky at night. We went to the dentist yesterday and were informed that binky is changing DD's bite, and we have to say goodbye to it. We are now planning an intervention with the binky fairy. DD is not too happy about it, but she is starting to come around. Today if you ask her about the binky fairy, she will tell you that the fairy is going to come and take the binkies away and bring them to little babies who need them. We're going to try to have the fairy visit this weekend.
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From birth to age 1, I let my kids use their pacifier on an as needed basis. Once they turned one, the binky was only allowed in the crib (and sometimes car seat for long rides). Then at age two, the "binky had to go to the new babies." For whatever reason, both my kids accepted this without much opposition and it was smooth sailing. There's not much that bugs me more than a toddler/preschooler running around with a binky in their mouth. If you set boundaries, kids are pretty resilient and adaptable. You just can't give in... Good luck!!
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Oh man, my 18 month old loves her wubbanubs. She really only uses it when tired or playing with it (she touches the stuffed animal a lot and runs her hands over them) and I was thinking around 2.5, when the new baby is here and it's established. I'm pretty unphased by them in general but I worry about her teeth
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No personal experience but my nephew "gave" his paci to the baby reindeer at Christmas and niece "gave" hers to the baby bunnies at Easter. The gifts they received at those holidays helped distract them and apparently it worked very well!
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Revisiting this thread because we're trying so hard to wean our 2.5 yo from his "ti ti"s, but it's been miserable. He has only used them for nap / bedtime for a very long time, but he just will not go to bed on his own without them. We are trying the "your ti tis are going to the babies, because you're a little boy now and ti tis are for babies", and he repeats it but then tells us he wants a new ti ti. (makes sense; if his old ones went to the babies, buy him a new one! Ha, he's too smart)
Bedtime has been hell for the last week. He sobs. Unless I lie with him until he falls asleep, he just cries and cries. I feel so heartless taking them away, but I can see that it's affecting his bite. He won't nap without them, so that makes bedtime even worse, because he's overtired. He's also waking up in the night and unable to get himself back to sleep, because typically he'd put his ti ti back in his mouth and go back to sleep on his own. Now he freaks out - "it's too dark" "I can't find my fish horse (his fisher price glowing musical seahorse that my mom called a fish horse, and it stuck) "I need more hot milk", etc.
I'm at a loss for how to proceed.
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Our dentist told us to poke holes in them and it worked for both kids!
Small hole so they can still suck a little then make it a little bigger - tell them its 'broke"
DD is also possessive of it - she used the wubbanubs and we cut the paci off and she still sleeps with the wubbanub and still calls it her 'nonni'
DD was 2 when we did it and DS was 2.5
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@Mamaof2: I'll try the holes! We tried cutting the paci part off of his wubanub, but he cried. I still have a couple of those, plus a 6mo+ Nuk, so I'll poke holes in them tonight and see how that goes. Thanks!
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@ballerinabee: We got rid of the "boppy" last week cold turkey. During bedtime, we had him look for it and couldn't find it. He cried for 1.5 hours, then passed out. The next night, same routine, same questions. He cried for about 45 minutes, then passed out. By Friday, he barely cried for it. He still looked for it during the bedtime/naptime routine. We also reiterated that he's a big boy and Boppies are for babies. He threatens to "cry" when he gets put down for bed. We laugh it off. He even showed us his fake cries too. Little dude totally played his hand by that one. Now we know the fake cries from the real ones.
In the mornings, we talk about how he's a big boy. I bribed him with some muffin and bananas in the morning for being a big boy who slept without his paci. He also got to take a lovey in the car too. This week started with no bananas, but a lovey or two in the car. I'm going to phase out the lovey next.
Once he got over the hump of not having it, things have been better. He's a little more whiny than normal, but overall doing well without it. He's just over 2 years old.
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@Beebug: E kept his until about a month ago when he was 27 months. We were moving across country and I wanted him to be able to have that comfort until we were all settled. He loved his pacis! He was only allowed them for nap and bedtime, but he would suck on one and hold onto several others, rubbing them on his face and eyes. I was terrified that it would be a huge deal to take them away... but... it just wasn't. We took them out of his crib and when we laid him down that night we just said that they went bye bye and were all gone. He just accepted it, grabbed his blanky and went to sleep. We've never looked back. He actually found where we hid them, and knows that they're still in the house but hasn't asked for them.
I will say, however, that it has been a little more difficult to settle him before bed. I rock him and sing a few songs in the rocking chair before laying him down and the paci used to be an instant calming device/sleep cue. Now I have to grab him, drag him over to the chair and then we talk through everything he did that day as a way to distract him and calm him down. It works great, just takes longer than the magical paci.
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We started paci weaning at ~17 months by cutting the tip off a tiny bit every couple nights when she wasn't looking. I did have some initial worries about the plastic but my LO wasn't a paci biter so I just inspected it each time to make sure the cut was still clean/not chewed on.
To prepare, I rounded up all the other paci's around the house/car and made it so she just had that 1 left in her bed. By then she was only using it for sleep and was good about leaving it on her bed when she woke up to get ready for the day. I took it really slow-- about 2.5 weeks. LO would look at it funny and say "not working"
and I'd just reply, "oh no, it's broken." As it got shorter, she held it in her hand to sleep instead of sucking it.. She eventually stopped her desparate binky search at bedtime and would just say "binky broken" when she spotted it. After 2 night of that I told her she was right and that we had to throw it away. I had her throw it into the trash herself.My other friend whose LO was around 2.5 at the time put all of the paci's in a ziplock bag, went to the toystore, and her her kid pick out a new toy. She had her "buy" it with the paci's with the help of the cashier.
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My dd was 26 months or so when we weaned her. We had tried before 2, and it went so horribly, we decided to take a break and try again later. What worked was: I had a teddy bear that zipped in the front, and I had her watch me as I zipped her binky into it. She could sleep holding Binky Bear. She also has a little play tent, and we let her sleep in it for as long as she wanted to, which was for about a month, and the novelty of sleeping in it distracted her from thinking about her binky. Good luck!
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@Beebug: We got rid of it at about 18 months. TBH, I thought about haing a binky fairy/ cutting holes etc. but in the end I decided that going cold turkey would work best for our LO. We had gotten him down to him using it at bedtime, so for the first two nights he cried for a while but then he got over it. We decided to go cold turkey, because I am the queen of trying to gently phase everything and dragging it out in so doing I have discovered that sometimes it just makes it worse to drag things out and makes it more stressful for everyone. Good luck!
A was SO addicted to hers and I was beyond nervous but I just did it and was shocked to find she didn't really care much.
and I'd just reply, "oh no, it's broken." As it got shorter, she held it in her hand to sleep instead of sucking it.. She eventually stopped her desparate binky search at bedtime and would just say "binky broken" when she spotted it. After 2 night of that I told her she was right and that we had to throw it away. I had her throw it into the trash herself.Reply
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