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My mom stayed for 2 weeks when LO arrived. Our house was so tiny but she slept on an air mattress in the nursery since he was in our bedroom. We have a larger house now, so hopefully if we have LO #2 someday she can stay for at least as long.

My mom stayed for a week and change wth my first- we have a 1 bed but she slept in the baby's room while baby was in our room. This time she came up for a day while I was in the hospital. No room for her to stay with us since the toddler has her own room. Kind of stinks.

This is currently a problem for me We don't have a great relationship, but she offered to come out... but leave two weeks before kid is due, or come two weeks after... what the heck? Obviously I would need help most WHILE in labor with DD1. It is par for her course.

My DH couldn't stay home once LO2 was born so my mom stayed for two weeks. She didn't stay at our place since my grandmother's house was only 15min away.

She came in the mornings to take LO1 to daycare then came back and helped with housework. We'd often drink a cup of tea and then she'd leave until the afternoon when she'd grocery shop, pick up LO1 and cook dinner for us. It was great because I had help but still had quiet time to bond (and nap!) with LO2.

After two weeks I felt ready to tackle things by myself and it worked out really well.

Both my mom and mil stayed with us, maybe a week each?

My ILs live in the same town and we see them everyday.

My mom lives about 2.5 hours away and stayed with us for 3-4 days when LO2 was born. My dad came a few weeks later and stayed a week. He lives on the other side of the country. DD2's nursery (errrr still a work in progress) was the guest room and was designed to serve both functions as she can bunk with us when necessary.

None-honestly, I didn't need any help this time. My mom group did a meal train, which was amazing. DH took a week off, then he did drop off and pick up at daycare for another week or two-then I switched back to doing drop off. T was a super easy and chill baby, so I basically got to relax in the quiet, watch tv, nap, and organize the house. After being go go go since having E, it was nice to not have to host anyone (and it would be hosting with mine...)

My mom stayed for 10 days with my first (in a hotel) and it was way too long. She's not helpful though and just mostly annoyed me. My MIl is super helpful and offered to come over whenever I needed it once DH went to work but I never asked her to. I really didn't feel I needed any help. I'll probably take her up on it this time Moreso So I can have 1:1 time with the baby. As for my mom, I have no clue how long she will come when #2 arrives,but Ideally I'll just go visit her when baby is 6 weeks or so. I don't know if she will accept that though. Clearly you have a much different relationship with your mom!

@Greentea: my mom was also super weird about it. She agreed after some intense pressure to come over when baby #2 was born, which was helpful because I was in the hospital for a week. The baby was late so she was super steamed about having to "wait around". Then when I finally got home I was barely able to walk with 4th degree tearing and a broken tailbone, and I still had HG, so I was literally vomiting in our driveway, crying and she was like " bye!" 10 minutes after I got home. So then I had 2 under 2 and was alone.

Mine stayed for 5 weeks after LO2 was born but DH didnt officially get any time off (it was around thanksgiving and slow so he managed to swing a week mostly off). It was awesome, especially bc she could focus on LO1 and keeping her entertained and giving her plenty of attention. And I could focus on LO2 and myself.

We also didn't have any local family to help. And DH was working a ton (medical training).