So I just found out that I am pregnant (WHAT!?) this morning. Long time HB'er, incognito. After spending the whole day in disbelief (I still am), I am now starting to worry that the baby will have something wrong with it. I was not taking prenatals, or eating a super healthy diet, and I'm overweight and don't exercise. Of course, I made the mistake of Googling "autism and pregnancy" and now I'm panicked that I've already messed it up!
Anyone else freak out like me or am I insane?
hostess / eggplant / 11068 posts
First of all, congratulations! Second of all, take a breath and relax. You can fix the first two issues by starting to take folic acid/prenatals and start eating more healthy. Talk to your doctor? Maybe he/she has better advice?
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22276 posts
Never ever Google. That is my number 1 tip (that I have a hard time even following), but so many things will come up in your pregnancy that you will look up, and Google always seems to give worst case scenario. Your baby will be fine. I tried eating healthy but honestly, fries, chocolate and sugary foods were in my diet. It happens. If you are worried about it, start now. Take your prenatal, exercise (ask your Dr. first what is ok) and start a healthy diet. Try not to stress too much, that won't be good for you if you keep worrying about everything 
cherry / 163 posts
Congrats! Now step away from Dr. Google! He's a bad dude, and he makes me worry about everything too. It's early so start taking prenatals, eating healthy, and find some time to walk or do some other low-impact exercise. It's natural to be nervous, but if you can, try to smile and enjoy your good news!
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22276 posts
@knockedup_nowwhat: Do you know about how far along you are?
clementine / 880 posts
I think googling things makes them sound way more common than they are... would looking at statistics help? Maybe it could show you that complications are more rare than you think.
As a self proclaimed control freak I understand that not being able to control the pregnancy (the timing - finding out today unexpectedly and also the inability to 100% control the health of the baby) is scary. I would focus on the things you can control: taking the prenatals, maybe taking a yoga class or meditating to relax, and some of the more fun things about pregnancy like planning the nursery. Take a stroll around pinterest and look at the exciting things for a while instead of googling the scary things!
good luck! Hellobee is a great community - you have so many resources/people to help you through this!
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
You aren't the first to have a surprise pregnancy and haven't been taking vitamins, doesn't eat super healthy, etc. Everything will be OK! Just stay away from Google, it can be the devil!!!!!
grape / 91 posts
@Bao: About 4 weeks.
Thanks for the reassurance everyone. This stuff is scary! I just suddenly feel like every move I make could impact this child for life.
clementine / 828 posts
Congrats!!
It's natural to be nervous especially when you weren't expecting it but you will be fine! A friend of mine got pregnant while NTNP. She did not take prenatal vitamins. In fact, she took cold medicine because she felt so tired and run down and thought she was comin down with a cold! Her baby was perfectly healthy and was ahead on all milestones.
So don't worry! Just start taking your prenatals now and take good care of yourself, including keeping your stress levels down
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22276 posts
@knockedup_nowwhat: Think of all the women who do way more horrible things to their bodies while pregnant, or those who didn't even know they were pregnant until months and months in. You are doing great, you are way ahead of the game.
blogger / pomegranate / 3300 posts
Please, please don't panic. I know it's alarming when you get that positive. Just make today the first day of your new routine. Take your vitamins, eat some healthy tonight, and try and relax. There are so many things you can't control while pregnant you just have to be along for the ride.
As for the overweight part just talk to your doctor about your concerns when you see that at 8-10 weeks. I am very overweight (size 22) and carried both my twins and my daughter with very little complications. There is a lot do scary information out there about overweight and pregnant. So stop looking that up on google. Your doctor will work with you.
Congrats! And try to relax and enjoy!
coconut / 8234 posts
@knockedup_nowwhat: Have you ever watched that show "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant" on TLC? Those ladies would party, eat all kinds of crap, drink, smoke, for most of their pregnancy because they didn't know and they had healthy babies!
Now, I'm not telling you to go out and do all of those things, but you are newly pregnant! People have unplanned pregnancies all the time, I was unplanned and I am super healthy! You're only 4 weeks pregnant! You got your prenatals today and you'll be fine. What you need to do is somehow restrict Dr. Google. I had a planned pregnancy and I made the mistake of using Google and read some horror stories. Can you set up some kind of block on your computer?
Congratulations! And if Google is open in another window, close that now!
pomelo / 5331 posts
Congrats! But try to relax (I saw your other thread, I know it's rough with so many emotions swirling around!). Think about how many unplanned pregnancies there are around the world, other cultures don't do prenatals or have strategically planned diets, etc. Your body and your pregnancy are designed to give you some flexibility in the beginning, you haven't screwed anything up! I totally get the fear, but worrying wont change a thing. Try to enjoy it, stress is no good either!
honeydew / 7687 posts
@knockedup_nowwhat: I don't think that feeling about impacting for life goes away... Ever! Try to focus on what you am control and start to enjoy your pregnancy! Easier said than done, I know. Congrats
eggplant / 11824 posts
Don't stress. Women have been having babies for literally hundreds of thousands of years and we've only been told to take prenatals for about 30 years, if that (and really, only in the "first world"). The majority of women in the world TODAY are pregnant and starving, have no access to clean water, have no access to proper medical care....and human beings are 6 billion strong. You'll be fine.
persimmon / 1233 posts
If all else fails, watch a few episodes of "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant" and note the healthy babies in the end!
Also, on the diet thing, my OBGYN said the baby will take what it needs so you shouldn't worry too much, especially if you can't stomach much in the first trimester. I was so sick I mostly ate cookies, cheese sandwiches and Easy Mac (things I NEVER ate pre-pregnancy) and my baby is super healthy and wonderful in every way!
grape / 91 posts
Thank you everyone for your reassurance! I can't get over feeling like everything I do could hurt this future child that is the size of a grain of rice! Welcome to motherhood, I guess.
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
I was worried too...I didn't find out I was pregnant with my LO until I was 6 weeks and I partied in Vegas the week before and I was using Retin A and allergy meds. I also got in a car accident around 24 weeks and I worried until delivery day. My LO was healthy!
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
You're going to be fine!!! Although I was TTC and taking prenatals, I was also overweight when I got pregnant and wasn't exercising. It's not that big of a deal!!
My best friend was in the same situation as you - got pregnant by accident, wasn't taking vitamins, was over weight, wasn't working out, etc. Her daughter is now 3 and is super healthy and bright! Just start taking your prenatals now and try to eat healthy, though don't stress about it!
grapefruit / 4213 posts
Women have been having healthy babies for centuries before we knew about all the hazards we know of now. Don't stress yourself lady!!
wonderful clementine / 24134 posts
@knockedup_nowwhat: Yup! Welcome to Motherhood!
It doesn't end. Wait until you are counting out the number of poopy and wet diapers in a 24 hour period, or worry that he/she will hate you later on because you sent them to daycare.
pomegranate / 3414 posts
Deep breathes. You aren't the first to have a surprise pregnancy http://www.theblaze.com/stories/2013/02/13/44-year-old-woman-goes-to-hospital-to-have-hernia-checked-walks-out-with-10-pound-baby-she-wasnt-expecting/
apricot / 319 posts
@knockedup_nowwhat: Congrats! I know it's scary...heck, it's even scary when it's planned! Good news? You don't share a blood supply with the baby until the placenta develops, around 5 or 6 weeks. Also? Step away from Dr. Google. Nothing but trouble.
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