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@Greenthumb: I am so sorry about the BFN. It is still very early so there is hope. I am sure though you are oscillating between trying to maintain that hope and "bracing" yourself for the worst. Sometimes, I find myself being pessimistic just so I am not later disappointed. I will be thinking positive thoughts on your behalf.
@Alie: Congrats on the excellent blood work! That is great news.
@Bluestriped bee: Welcome back. I am glad you were able to sort out your marriage issues. That must have been tough.
@Mrs. Someone: Welcome and good luck on your first appointment. At mine, my doctor ordered bloodwork, an SA, and HSG, and discussed possible plans of action. I also had a vaginal ultrasound (no big deal).
@yellow clover: Welcome!
@Chucknorris: I really thought The Master was nearly unwatchable but no doubt will win all kinds of awards. I liked There Will be Blood much better (one of his other movies).
@Spaniellove: I am sorry you had a rough time with the birth of the baby. I hope you were able to give yourself a break after the visit. It seems everyone is getting tough birth/pregnancy announcements lately. But I suppose that is always the case. Sigh.
@Rachel & Sweetooth: Thanks for the well wishes and inquiries. I am now 5 dpo and feeling pretty good. Trying not to be too optimistic or pessimistic. After several months of not having much hope for a BFP, I have found myself symptom spotting more than normal! I got my blood drawn this morning to get my progesterone levels checked. I will get the results back later to see if I need to supplement. -
@Chucknorris: You also asked about the trigger shot. I am testing it out, and as of this morning, it seems to have completely left my system. I will say it was quite strange having BFPs the first few days, knowing they weren't real.
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@GreenThumb: I'm bet it's hard to keep waiting to find out the results. Maybe it really is just too early, and the POAS results aren't as accurate as bloodwork? Go ahead and work through your emotions. All of us on this thread will stay positive for you!
@alie: Thank goodness for hellobee indeed! It took me some time to tell family and friends too. I think it was because each month that passed I hoped that it would be our month and I'd be telling them 'I'm pregnant!' instead of 'I can't seem to get pregnant...'
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My husband dropped of his "stuff" for the SA this morning. Since it's Thursday we won't have any results until next Tuesday. And now I'm starting to worry that I don't really know the results of my HSG. I couldn't read the CD that they gave me on my computer and I just handed it over to my doctor this AM. Hopefully we can hear the results on that too. I really don't know how I am going to make it to 11/15 before I get to have my game plan. PLEASE let me get pregnant on my own before then! -
@greenthumb: I'm sorry about the BFN. Hopefully it is still too early.
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@GreenThumb: I'm so sorry about the BFN - supposedly the clinics emphasize that they don't want you to POAS until at least the day of your beta! So there's a good chance that it's too early. I'm voting for too early! '
@Alie: That's great about the bloodwork! And sorry about the announcement. It does suck that in your heart you want to be happy for them but you can't force it.
@raintreebee: Good luck with the progesterone test! I hope the symptom spotting leads to real BFP symptoms soon
@sweetooth: Will they give you any results over the phone? Fingers crossed for a good SA!
The SIL/baby visit went alright; there were some sad moments where we faked it really badly and we just flat out refused to hold the baby. Otherwise it was okay except we were shocked to realize just what a bad parent/grandparent MIL was! She kept cursing at/around the baby and even asked her daughter (a FTM who had given birth less than 24 hours earlier) how to tell if the baby was hungry. We used to hope she'd take more of an interest in our future LO and spend a lot of time with them when they're born, but have definitely changed our minds now!
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@sweetooth: Yup, AF showed up right on time! ARGH. I don't know what's wrong. DH and I talked and due to finances and the fact that we'll be moving early next year we may have to postpone seeing a RE until the summer. womp womp
Good luck with the test results - I hope that everything turns up normal. When you got your HSG were you able to talk to the technician who was doing the xray? I was able to look at the screen the entire time and she pinpointed my tubes for me and if they looked to be open or not. She couldn't go into too much detail since that's not her job but she was able to give some information at that time. I got an "official" diagnosis with my doctor about a week later. But hopefully you'll get a BFP before then so it'll all be irrelevant
@GreenThumb: I am really hoping and praying for you. Sending many positive thoughts and vibes :))) Fingers and toes are crossed
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I have decided that I will not obsess nor will I look on the internets for symptoms, techniques and the like. That is my goal. I will focus on exercising and losing weight that I gained this past year during this TTC process. We will still do our vitamins, pre-seed and OPKs. There is only so much we can do as a couple and I have to be ok with this.There are a few people that know we've been trying for a while. They try to be understanding as much as possible but when you get pregnant within 2 or 3 months or accidently then I don't think they truly know what it feels like to want something/someone so desperately and it is nearing impossible to get him or her. I am a very patient person but TTC is testing even me!
Enough venting. Happy 10/11/12 Everyone :)) It's a beautiful day in Colorado. I love fall
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I thought I posted yesterday, but I've been sick and kind of out of it. We found out on Tuesday that DH's SA was normal :-). The nurse didn't go into the details, just said the doctor would talk to us about the specifics at our next appointment and it wouldn't change the treatment plan.
I'm assuming that means we won't be jumping to IUI yet, we'll start with Clomid as planned. I've finished all my Provera and expect to get AF on Saturday or Sunday. Then I'll go for CD3 b/w and also get an ultrasound. I'll also have some extra b/w done on CD3 so that she can put me on Metformin. I'm hoping that helps bring my weight down, which immediately jumped up after I stopped BC :-/.
I also got kind of upset with DH this weekend because he told MIL about my not ovulating and having PCOS. I feel like it's a private thing and it's something I had a hard time telling my own mom about, and I really wasn't thrilled he told his. Maybe because it's new and I'm still getting used to it. And I'm upset with my body because I feel like it's broken, and TBH, I'm embarrassed about it.
And of course she doesn't get why we're seeing a fertility specialist and thought it was too soon to be seeing a doctor (we got married in May). Sorry if I'm crazy for not sitting and waiting around a year to start ovulating.
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@MrsCB: I'm glad your husband's test results came back normal. My doctor just called and my husband's results were really good too! So now I just have to wait till next Tuesday to see how we're moving forward.
I'm sorry that your MIL is not being understanding. My husband has been wanting to tell our parents too, but I won't let him. I think it's been hard for him to understand that it's not just a "thing" we're going through. It's something that I feel like my body should do naturally and it's not. It feels like I'm failing and it's very hard for me to admit that to people in real life.
Do you know when your next appointment will be? I hope the Clomid works out for you!
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Well, I think I'm in another TWW. It's hard for me to tell because I gave up temping and I've never gotten clear results with my OPKs. But I did have some good EWCM this month! I'm on CD19 and 3-4 DPO as far as I can tell. So, now we just wait and see....
Appointment next Tuesday (my husband's birthday!). HOPING we get some sort of real game plan.
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@twodoghouse: I have to wait to get AF and then I think I can schedule the next appointment. The doctor wants time to review the CD3 bloodwork first. It's kind of annoying though, because unless ovarian reserve is insanely bad, we're just going to be starting with Clomid.
Good luck at your next appointment, it always feels good to have a plan you can act on :-).
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@GreenThumb: I'm sorry about the BFN!! I know it's hard, but try not to lose hope. It's still early!! I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you
@raintreebee: @spaniellove: Thanks ladies! I'll take all the good news I can get, even if it's just "you have normal blood". ha!
@sweetooth: I hope all goes well with the SA! That whole process is so awkward. My husband was laughing the entire time I was on the phone scheduling his... it only took him hearing me say "semen" for him to crack up. Then of course he found the instruction sheet hilarious too ("preferred method of collection is masturbation", etc.). Well at least he isn't stressed about it!
@MrsCB: I'm sorry about your husband telling your MIL.
I know mine mentioned that we've been having difficulties to a few people (one being his brother; two being people he works with) and we had to have a convo about how I'm not comfortable with that... I think he gets it now. If he doesn't, at least he knows to stay quiet about it for the time being. I'm sure it's hard for him to not have anyone other than me to talk to about it though.@MK0180: Yay for not obsessing! Life is a lot happier when you stop yourself from googling things like "headache pregnancy symptom?" or other things you know very well could be related to just about anything!
@twodoghouse: Good luck with your TWW! I hope it goes quickly and ends with two pretty pink lines
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@Spaniellove. My progesterone levels were at an 11, 5 dpo. They said they typically don't supplement for anything over 9, but it seemed kind of borderline to me for a medicated cycle so I got the nurse to call in a prescription. I don't think they hurt anything, aside from unpleasant side effects.
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@spaniellove: I do think they will give me results over the phone - but I wish I could just get my plan of action that way too...instead of waiting for an appointment. Or maybe I'll just work with "Dr. Google" and take all of my results and analyze them myself and compare notes with my doctor on 11/15
Sorry to hear about the MIL stuff. Maybe she will change over time?
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@MK0180: womp womp indeed Focusing on yourself is a great way to continue to work through the TTC process. I agree that unless people have been through this process they don't understand. Just as those of us who have never given birth or who aren't yet parents can't relate to our friends who are. When I got my HSG the technician did say things looked good, all clear. I guess I just wanted to be able to see for myself. They didn't show me the monitor. I think my overactive mind is just thinking that my doctor will see something and I won't know for a while....I asked my nurse if she had the results from the HSG and she said the doctor wanted to take a look at the CD I had.
Happy 10.11.12 to you too! Nothing better than a crisp fall day!
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@MrsCB: YAY for a normal SA! Hopefully you can keep talking through how you feel about all of this with your husband and be sure that he doesn't share with more people than you're comfortable with. It's hard though, because I don't think that men have the type of support we can seek out on hellobee and other places.As for the MIL, I don't think anyone but you and your husband can understand what is right for you. So just ignore her!
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@alie: it's totally awkward, isn't it? This morning when we were in the car driving to drop it off I was so concerned about the temperature of the car and "the goods" Glad to hear your husband is finding humor in it all.
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@GreenThumb: Gaaahhhhh! I had this post all ready to go and then the computer ate it. The jist of my comment to you was that It's Too Early!!! Think about it, your dr is having you come on Saturday (in my world, drs and most labs don't work on Saturdays), so if today was early enough to test, why wouldn't the dr have you test earlier (especially since a beta is way more sensitive than a stick)? I still have my fingers crossed for you! Toes too!
@MK0180: I like the way you think. I'm trying to focus more on excercise and less on TTC too. Certainly can't hurt.
@MrsCB:Isn't it a nice feeling when you find out that something is normal? Yea! I'm sorry you got outted, though. I would be so so soooooo peeved. I have a very hard time telling people things, so you have my sympathies.
@alie: What would be the unperferred method of semen collection?!?!?!
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@Grace: Ha!
This is word-for-word from the patient instructions: "Ideally, the specimen should be collected by masturbation. If this is not possible, we can instruct you on the use of a seminal collection device (a specialized condom) allowing the specimen to be collected during intercourse". I imagine my husband would find it all much less funny if he had to be instructed on how to use the "seminal collection device".
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I know, I know... why did I test?! I blame the hormones ;). But thanks so much to all of you for telling me what I needed to tell myself - it's too early! We'll see what Saturday brings. Thank you!
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@alie: You were nice enough to schedule it! I've made DH handle any phone calls and lab visits related to all 3 SAs so far.
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@spaniellove: For some reason I totally wasn't expecting a man to answer when I called... definitely felt odd talking to some random guy about my husband's semen!
But I knew if I didn't call, he'd perpetually forget and it would never get scheduled. My husband is not the best at making plans of any kind...
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@alie: Geez, thank goodness for that. I was imagining some sort of device, similar to how they "milk" steers for semen.
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I got a squinter this morning! BFP!! The first time I've ever seen those two lines! OMG!!
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@GreenThumb: OMG AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(yes i creep on this thead). CONGRATS!!!
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@JoJoGirl: (me being calm) We are cautiously optimistic for tomorrow's blood work. We'll know a lot more when the numbers come in ;)!
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@GreenThumb: Okay you be calm, I shall be excited on your behalf
Yay!
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@GreenThumb: omg omg omg!!! I'm so freaking happy for you!!!! Hurray hurray hurray!! Ahhhh! Congrats! <not so calm, I don't do calm well!>
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@GreenThumb: OMG!! That is awesome!! So exicited for you!!! Can't wait to hear how the blood test goes!! WOO HOO!!
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@Greenthumb Oh. My. God. Ohmigodohmigodohmigodohmigod!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Alright back to reality - time for a progesterone shot in the backside :)!
Thank you all so much!!
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@GreenThumb: How exciting!!! Keep us posted on how things turn out with the bloodwork. But I'm so happy for you that you got to experience seeing a BFP!
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@Trailmix: @Smurfette: @Mrs. Bird: @Sweetooth: THANK YOU!!!
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@GreenThumb: WOOHOO!! Congratulations!!!!
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@GreenThumb: woot woot!!! I'm so excited for you!
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@Greenthumb: I am soooooooo happy for you! Congratulations!!
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@GreenThumb: YAYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!! Congrats!!
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@GreenThumb: OMG Congrats!! Good luck with the blood work
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@GreenThumb: Oh my gosh!!!!!! I'm so excited for you!
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@GreenThumb: YAAAYYYYYY!!!!!!! Congrats
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@GreenThumb: OMG!!!!!!!!! Congrats!!!!!!
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We did our 3rd SA in 3 months this morning. It almost didn't happen! He started getting anxiety and couldn't do it. I considered calling the RE and saying flat out that rescheduling was probably pointless because the same thing would probably happen again, and anyway the results from the first 2 were almost identical and so recent that it made no sense not to use them.
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@spaniellove: @MK0180: @ twodoghouse: @mrscb: @oliviaoblivia: @raintreebee: @leialou: @Alivooo1: Big thank you to all of you!
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@GreenThumb: checking in from CT to say OMG I am so excited for you!!!!!!! Stick baby, stick!!!
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@GreenThumb: wwwwoooooooohhhhhhhhooooooooo!!!! Congratulations!!!! I am so happy for you!!!
Yay!
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