grapefruit / 4703 posts
@MrsCB: ugh I'm so so sorry! Fingers crossed that everyone is right and you'll be extra fertile this cycle
@sweetooth: good luck tomorrow!
@marionberry: Hugs to you - I had a couple new pregnancy announcements on FB this weekend. And your poor sweet DH! Mine acts the same way sometimes.
kiwi / 526 posts
@MrsCB: I am so sorry about your CP
@spaniellove: I have CD3 bloodwork/glucose testing/and some other bloodwork I can't remember this Wednesday (11/28), and an HSG next week (will get scheduled tomorrow). Not sure if we'll be moving forward with IUI this cycle or next -- will depend on the test results.
AF just started this evening and I am not taking it well. I was so hopeful up until 30 minutes ago, and now I'm so sad that we're done (for now) with our "natural" chances. On the positive side, my cycle was a much more normal length for me this month than last (32 vs 41), so maybe the acupuncture was helpful in that regard?
pomelo / 5041 posts
@shutterbug: thanks! I'm so thankful for you ladies. Idk who I'd talk to about all of this if HB didn't exist.
cantaloupe / 6730 posts
@sweetooth: Good luck!!!!
@MrsCB: I'm so so sorry. That's so not fair. I am going to keep my fingers crossed that it does mean that your sticky baby is just around the corner.
@marionberry: Ouch. That would be a hard thing to hear from your husband. I hope you were able to reassure him. Lol - it just occurred to me that if my husband said that, I'd probably react with slapping him on the arm and yelling at him for saying something so ridiculous. Not necessarily the most comforting reaction...
@alie: I'm sorry. Isn't it amazing that even though we try to get our expectations down, they still manage to get high enough to make you incredibly disappointed?
honeydew / 7916 posts
@marionberry: It is such a tough thing to go through...it hurts to see them hurting so much and to think they might actually think that. I hate even when we are joking around and the topic of having a donor comes up, or that I should have another husband. The wondering and waiting to find answers really doesn't make things easier, either!
honeydew / 7916 posts
Updated: (@Justdarling are you still around?)
Upcoming appointments:
**This week**
11/26: @Sweetooth - Hysteroscopy (good luck!!)
11/28: @Alie - CD bloodwork
TBD: @Alie - HSG
12/3: @MK0180 - RE
12/12: @Spaniellove - RE
Clomid/other meds:
@Shutterbug
@Kentuckygirl
@Ladybee
@MrsCB
IUI:
@Alie
@Leialou
@Justdarling
@Raintreebee
IVF/ICSI/FET:
Other/TBD:
@Marionberry
@Mrs.Someone
@Spaniellove
@Sweetooth
@MK0180
@Grace
apricot / 452 posts
@spaniellove: I'm still here. Took a little break from all of the TTC boards and researching for a week or so. I got a BFN just over a week ago and that was hard for me. It was our first IUI round and I was just so hopeful that this BFN hurt. We are gearing up for IUI round 2. I just finished my femara and am waiting to O.
kiwi / 526 posts
My HSG is scheduled for this Friday... for those who have been there/done that already, do you have any advice/warnings?? I've heard some people say they are in and out and it's no worse than a pap, and others say that it's horribly painful and they had cramping for anywhere from hours to days afterward.
nectarine / 2705 posts
Hello HB friends I thought of you yesterday and how thankful I am that you're here. Somehow, going through all of this, feeling less alone just helps. So thank you all for being here.
I made it through the hysteroscopy. It was a little surreal, I've never spent much time in the hospital, or with an IV in my arm. I feel like all I know about these settings is from TV...so it was like I was on a television show. Everyone I met prior to the procedure was super nice. And since I was out for it, I don't remember a thing. But from what they told my husband (and what i was too doped up to remember myself) everything looks good. They removed a small polyp and the thing that showed up on my HSG and saline sono was just an adhesion in my uterus.
Now I heal. And move on to the next stage! I slept a lot yesterday afternoon. But I feel like myself again today. You all were SO right though - I'm glad the appointment came up quickly and I didn't have too much time to think about it all. I just had to be brave, and get through it. Now - I'm one step closer to a BFP!
nectarine / 2705 posts
@alie: I'm so sorry that AF arrived. It gets progressively harder to deal with each and every month. As for your HSG - everyone is different. I did experience some pain during the procedure, but it didn't last long and was gone when I was home. Taking deep breaths helped me. One thing I regret is not asking to see the screen, so I could see my uterus and fallopian tubes. If you are interested in seeing it, be sure to speak up.
@justdarling: Sorry about your BFN. I know that my hopes will be high when we embark on our first IUI. I can imagine it was hard to deal with the disappointment. {hugs!} SOOO much luck and positive thoughts for your next IUI.
kiwi / 545 posts
@MrsCB: I am so sorry HUGS to you
@alie: My HSG wasn't as bad as others but it wasn't my most favorite thing ever. It was uncomfortable and there is cramping because of the catheter and dye. It was like having really strong period cramps but it only lasts for a few minutes and I forgot about the pain once I saw my uterus and tubes on the screen - that was interesting! I held onto the assistant's hand when it got a bit intense but it didn't last very long. I had some cramping afterwards and you're gonna get some leakage so bring a pad (they'll also provide one) but it went away after a few hours. I also took Advil about an hour before to help with the pain. Breathe deep when they put it in and try not to tense up - it'll hurt more. Good luck and hope you get good results
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I just need to vent a little bit - . There was no hot water in our building and it was freezing outside so the water was ridiculous cold. On top of that my boss's wife gave birth today - which is the day I had to make sure our paperwork was complete and faxed to the RE clinic. Here I am having to fill out forms to help us with infertility while a close friend gives birth. I am very happy for them but I am just so sad (pity party here!).
Also - while I was going through our paperwork to make sure that I had all the forms in place I noticed that my DH indicated he got another person pregnant and it resulted in an abortion. I had NO IDEA and he never told me.. The past is the past, I know, but if it had happened to me I would have told him a long time ago. I guess I'm just a bit - I don't know - shocked and a little pissed that I had to find out on a piece of paper. At work. I wish he told me last night when he was filling it out.
apricot / 452 posts
@sweetooth: Congrats on making it through the hystoscopy!!! One step closer! Thanks for the hugs. I'm doing better. I keep telling myself that it would have been too easy if the first IUI had worked! On to round2.
@alie: the HSG is different for everyone. Mine did not hurt at all and it was super quick. I would take a few advil about an hour before. There is slight cramping when they inject the dye, but it wasn't that bad for me. I have heard some stories of it being extremely painful for some women. Hopefully it isn't too bad for you.
@MK0180: I'm so sorry you had to find out that information about your husband at work. I would have been so shocked!!! You have every right to have a pity party today.
honeydew / 7916 posts
@justdarling: I'm so sorry about the BFN, especially after an IUI...I can understand why you needed the time to yourself. I'm hoping so hard for you that this cycle is the one! And no matter what, we're all here for you.
@sweetooth: Sooo glad you made it okay! Now hopefully you can get out of there soon and go home! That's good to hear there wasn't too much going on in your uterus so there won't be too much healing to do before you get YOUR BFP WOOHOO!
@MK0180: OMG. That is a terrible way to find out. I was getting frustrated that my DH kept misunderstanding and putting 0 for past pregnancies while I was putting 1 (and then the RE thought we had a kid), but that really does take the cake. Hopefully you guys can find a way to talk about this tonight; I think he owes you a conversation even if it is after the fact. It's not a crime that that happened in the past - and it was probably painful - but it would have been much better to talk to you about it.
@alie: I had my HSG earlier this month and thought it would be super super painful since I had issues getting an IUD inserted. In fact, they couldn't insert the IUD because I was in so much pain! It turned out my uterus was tilted back at a severe angle. The RE tried to get me to look at the screen but I forgot right away and started looking at the pattern on the ceiling, and he said he was getting worried that I was so quiet. It actually didn't hurt while he was doing it. He wanted me to roll to one side for a few seconds, and then that was it! When I sat up it started cramping like really bad AF cramps and kept cramping for a few hours, so try to have someone drive you home. I've also noticed that AF after the HSG was unusually long and crampy which I read online can happen. Good luck - I hope it all turns out well for you!
pomelo / 5041 posts
@grace, @spaniellove: I get that Grace reaction when he says that to me. Like I want to smack him and be like stop trying to make this a pity party and let's start being positive and take actionable steps forward. But I know that won't work with him, so I just remind him I love him and don't want anyone else.
@sweettooth: congrats for being all done and nothing big found in there. Now you can recoup and get back to baby making! What do the doctors say are the next steps?
@mk0180: That would make me really mad too! I'm all about being open and honest and if that wouldn't have come up prior to marriage I'd be super annoyed. Not that I'd be mad it happened, but just mad he didn't tell me.
coconut / 8472 posts
I just want to say thank you to everyone for your support, I really appreciate it. It was kind of rough for a few days, but I'm starting to feel better and I'm hopeful for this cycle.
I started Clomid again last night, and have an ultrasound/bloodwork on 12/5. I hope this cycle is a little easier than the last one. It took so long to get the right dose and I ended up having to have a ton of vaginal ultrasounds and bloodwork. My dignity and my arms were killing me! Maybe it'll be a little more straightforward this time since we're starting at 100mg.
It would be a great Christmas present to have a BFP, but if not, DH and I have a getaway weekend planned for NYE. I'm so excited to get away and enjoy the hot tub and massages, I don't even care about Christmas.
nectarine / 2705 posts
@MK0180: Oh vent away my dear! My best friend had her second baby last Monday when my period arrived. I drank an entire half bottle of wine to celebrate the baby and drown my sorrows. Also - the husband thing - hopefully you two can talk it through. Men are so different from us women. You never know what they are thinking. I'd be upset by finding out that way too though.
@spaniellove: I was home yesterday, it was just an outpatient procedure. But now I can't seem to reach my nurse for any additional answers to my questions. I'm trying to be patient and just remind myself that I wasn't going to worry about getting pregnant until January. But truth be told, I'm horny and I just want to know when I can get it on!
@marionberry: still trying to get answers on the next steps...I know we went over it during my 11/15 appointment, but I need clarification if I can try to conceive this cycle, or if I just have to take it easy until the next cycle. YAY! more waiting... bleh.
@MrsCB: Glad to hear that you're feeling better. I think you should focus on that great getaway you have planned for NYE! It sounds like the perfect thing to think about throughout the holidays. And if you get a present for the holidays - awesome! But if not - yay! for pampering and time with your husband Excellent planning, in my opinion
pomelo / 5041 posts
@sweettooth: I feel your pain. I keep wondering if we should be trying this cycle given that DH is on Cipro, an antibiotic, and through Google it appears it can affect the DNA of the sperm, but in what little I can find online it appears people did the deed anyway and our doctors didn't say anything about not TTC while taking it. But I really want an official answer as to if we have sex would our baby turn out with 3 heads or a tail lol.
So at the same time we've been doing all of this, DH had a urine test that came back with blood in it, so they had to get a pathology test on it last week to look for cancer. We finally got results back today and no cancer cells but then they wanted a CT of his pelvis to look for tumors. It has been SO stressful. Good news is that the radiologist just saw what he thinks is a kidney stone and it could be causing the blood issue. I'm crossing my fingers we're done with scary health issues on top of TTC issues.
And as I mentioned a few days ago, one of my good friends and coworkers just found out she's pregnant Sunday. I've been home sick so she's been texting me all about her due date and appointments and what not during the day. Today she wrote, "you're next! I can feel it" and while I know it was a sweet thought in her head it kind of made me angry. I wrote back that "I had to be next because everyone else was pregnant.."and when I did, I started to cry. That statement really bothers me and I can't quite explain why. I think it's me being angry that people who get pregnant so easily could just never understand.
Sorry for the vent..it's just been a lot to process this month. I'm really praying for some good news for once...and that goes for all of us! We really really deserve it after going through all of this.
kiwi / 526 posts
@sweetooth: Thanks I was told my RE would be there and would review the films with me immediately following the procedure, so it's nice to know I'll get to see things and get some answers right away.
@MK0180: Thank you! And I'm sorry you've had such a crummy day. I would be so upset if I learned something like that about my husband on a piece of paper rather than directly from him.
@justdarling: I have my Advil ready to go!
@spaniellove: That's good to know! I'm not having my husband take off work to go with me, so I may have to have a friend on standby if I have any post-procedure issues and can't handle the drive home. Hopefully that's not the case....
@MrsCB: I hope this is the month for you!! And either way, I hope you have a great time on your NYE getaway! I don't know why, but a weekend away, regardless of where it is, always feels so luxurious to me... I love it! We recently got a boatload of free skymiles from Delta due to a canceled flight, and I'm saving them up for a weekend getaway for my birthday in February.
cantaloupe / 6730 posts
@justdarling: I'm sorry it didn't work. I hope the break did you good!
@sweetooth: Whoohoo! I'm glad everything went well and it's looking so good!
@MK0180: That is a crummy day. Vent away, Lady, vent away. I hope you were able to talk things out with your hubs
.@MrsCB: Good luck!! Hopefully the Christmas prep and the holiday will be a good distraction so that the time flies by!
@marionberry: Geesh, that is a lot for one month! December's coming - bad luck will be over!!
nectarine / 2705 posts
@marionberry: Your comment about a baby with 3 heads made me laugh Thank you
I'm sorry that you are having to deal with so many more variables right now. That really must have been so stressful waiting for the results tied to cancer - glad to hear there's no cancer. You deserve to be done with ALL issues and move on to that BFP soon!
I also totally get you on people who get pregnant easily not understanding. I have a really good friend who when I told him about what we were going through responded with "you should really enjoy this time with just the two of you" - YEAH, I KNOW! I AM! I know he means well - but he has two kids, and I'd trade places with him and his wife any day.
{hugs! to you! for a wonderful, healthy, positive december!}
nectarine / 2705 posts
So I heard back from my nurse yesterday evening. I'm glad she alerted me to the fact that since I hopped off the birth control pills I could get my period again any day. I totally didn't think about that. And GOOD MORNING! Here AF is again. She was just here last week. Oh November...2 periods and a surgery, I'm over you.
I was told I had to abstain for at least a week after the surgery. But after the first bleed following the surgery, I could start clomid. I looked at the calendar and considered all of the necessary appointments that would happen before the holidays, and I think I really should just take it easy. Let my body heal. But this back to back AF thing - I just hope my cycle regulates and I can predict when it will be here again. Right now, if I apply my old cycles to this new wild one, I will get a big ol' red present on 12/25. Which doesn't seem like a day that I can call to make my day 3 appointment.
My worry now - because the worrying never really ends... - is that I wait to start clomid in 2 cycles and then there's a big snow storm and I can't get in to the offices.
kiwi / 545 posts
Thank you ladies! I love this board and even though I don't post too much because I need to take short breaks now and again I am so glad to find this place where we can vent, talk about everything that's happening to our bodies and so forth
Everything is fine - at the end of the day I was super annoyed and as soon as I could get a hold of him I sort of let him have it - He was completely shocked because he thought he told me all about it (which he obviously didn't). It happaned a long time ago with his first g/f. He's a sensitive person and not that many people know and it's a pretty sensitive subject which is understandable. After we talked it over I calmed down. I know that he would never do anything like this to me and if he was gonna hide it he would never have put it down on paper. Needless to say, he came home, we made dinner together and just hung out. It was peaceful. His eyes were red when he came home and so I think he was crying a little.
Today I will make it better than yesterday.
@sweetooth: I am glad that your surgery went well and that it sounds like it wasn't as bad as it could've been - but so sorry about the double AF in Nov. I'd be super annoyed too. I think it's good that you're going to take time for your body to heal.
@marionberry: I also hope you are done with these issues! Geez! Also, the whole "you're next!" is my least favorite comment, next to "just relax" and "it'll happen." I feel I'm being jinxed when somebody says that to me because obviously I'm not next and if it was just going to happen I'm pretty sure it would have happened already.
@MrsCB: Good luck with the clomid and with this cycle and I really do hope you get a great Christmas present!
Have a great day everyone
pear / 1786 posts
Hi ladies! I first want to apologize for not commenting much lately. I just have had to step back a little and try not to think as much about TTC for a few weeks. I know that this support thread has been so important for me over the past few months and I am sorry for not contributing lately.
Nothing new to report here. I started cycle 13 TTC and am trying a second round of Femara at the highest dose since I did not O with it last cycle. I don't have much hope that I will O this cycle either. The waiting is just getting me a little down. I am hoping to start injectable drugs with my next cycle. I am just impatient to move on to that, where I will feel like we actually have a chance at a BFP. We also need to decide if are going to do IUI, in addition. I am leaning towards doing it. DH has just above normal and just below normal numbers with his SA motility and morphology, although his count was very good. I think it will take away the stress of "we must BD now and for three days in a row" and should give us a little better chance of conceiving.
I am thinking of you all and will try to be a more active contributor!
pomelo / 5041 posts
@grace, @sweettooth, @mk0180: thank you for the heartfelt words. They mean a lot to me. I'm hopeful for good news in the months ahead!
@sweettooth: I think waiting is good. It will be nice for your body to totally heal before you try to make it pregnant. But don't give up too much time on "what ifs". I'd definitely be starting after Christmas.
@mk0180: I'm glad you agree. Sometimes I wonder if I'm just being crazy at letting comments bother me. Today she said she wished it was me who got pregnant first and I said no, you're happy you're pregnant, enjoy it, my time will come. I know she feels bad and she'd give me a baby if she could. Now instead of being her TTC dictionary she'll get to be my pregnancy dictionary, so it's ok. Hopefully I'll get pregnant soon and we can kind of go through it together. So happy you and your DH talked through this and everything is good again. Communication is key.
@kentuckygirl: best of luck with the injectables. We may be headed to IUI in the next few months so maybe we'll be IUI buddies.
cantaloupe / 6730 posts
@sweetooth: Yeah, you're probably in for more scheduling headaches than necessary if you go ahead right away. As for the other worries - there will always be the possibility of a snowstorm or a hurricane or a traffic snarl getting in the way. Don't let that stop you from living life!
@MK0180: I'd been thinking of you (prompted a conversation with my DH) and that's the first thing he said. He wondered if your hubs thought that he'd told you. Men!
@kentuckygirl: I think you'd find that we all have to step away every now and then. :). You do what you have to do to stay sane!
honeydew / 7916 posts
@sweetooth: Scheduling CD3 b/w is always so difficult! You get such a small window to do it and of course the day of AF is some inconvenient day. With the Clomid, you know you'd be kicking yourself if you didn't take the chance, wouldn't you?
@MK0180: Aww, it's good that you guys talked about it. The experience must have been really hard for him even though it was probably also tough for you to think about all of that.
@kentuckygirl: Please don't feel bad about taking time for yourself! You're always so supportive of all of us. I'm hopeful that the higher dose does the trick for you, and then if that doesn't do it there is always injectibles. One way or another it'll happen!
@marionberry: You guys have been through a lot of scares recently, although I have to say those doctors have been very thorough with your DH! I'm so glad to hear there's no cancer. Whew! That comment from your friend...I get how that could feel annoying/totally not even understanding. Because in my head I'd be screaming "What would you know?!"
I got a call from the RE today saying they didn't have my genetic testing results yet, but my CD3 bloodwork was all normal, so I guess my E2, LH, AMH, and FSH are fine. This means the only abnormal result we've had in all of our testing is the 2 SAs with 10% motility.
pomelo / 5041 posts
@spaniellove: That's great news! If he's the only issue (and even that issue doesn't seem too bad) you should be easily pregnant with IUI I think..though I'm no doctor. I'm super excited for you!
honeydew / 7916 posts
@marionberry: It comes out to less than 10 million motile sperm so IUI doesn't really work for us.
apricot / 452 posts
@kentuckygirl: Good luck with the higher dose of femara this cycle. My DH has slightly low motility and we decided to try IUI. It really takes the pressure off of things. It was really getting difficult to BD at certain times and taking the fun out of it.
@spaniellove: I'm glad everything is coming back normal for you. I would talk to your doctor about the motility issue and the IUI. It's amazing how much better the motility is after they wash the sample. My DH's went from 20% to 96%.
AFM: I went to the doctor today to have an ultra sound. I finished my last dose of femara a few days ago and am waiting to O so this was a follicle check appointment. I had one follicle at 22mm and it looks like I will O at any time. She wants me to do my HCG Trigger shot today and we will have the IUI tomorrow. Hopefully this works!
honeydew / 7916 posts
@marionberry: Yeah, we decided to tell the RE at our appt that we just want to go ahead with IVF. After being told by 2 doctors that there's not enough motile sperm, IUI sounds like a waste of our time.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
I got a positive OPK today. We're going for an IUI tomorrow at 9am. I really hope this one works!
grapefruit / 4703 posts
@Leialou: Yay! Rooting for you!!
Sorry for being such a crappy "support"er... I'm in this annoying sort of limbo where I know my chances aren't good, but there's nothing I can do about it right now, so I've been a little absent lately.
My Dr said that based on my 7dpo Progesterone (3.1) I "didn't ovulate", even though I got a positive OPK and temp spike. They also retested my TSH (thyroid) and it's still high, so they want me to go on thyroid meds and re-do all of the CD3 and CD21 BW again, and then maybe start on Clomid.
But here's my question - I just got my lab forms for the BW redo, and here's the breakdown:
CD 3: Estradiol and FSH
CD 21: FSH, Progesterone, TSH, LH, and Prolactin
Isn't that weird? I thought they were all supposed to be done on CD 3 except progesterone... that's what I did last time.
apricot / 321 posts
DH is becoming more vocal about really wanting to start a family. This excites me. I can't wait to go to the doctor on Tuesday to get some blood test results and speaking to him about starting the pregnancy process.
pomelo / 5041 posts
@leilalou: I hope it works out for you too!
@shutterbug: I'm sorry your thyroid is still messed up and your doctor thinks you didn't ovulate. I hope the new tests give you more guidance. I agree that it's hard to be on HB sometimes when you're just stuck for awhile doing nothing. I'm stuck waiting for DH to finish his meds and get another SA before we can move forward in any way. Super annoying.
kiwi / 526 posts
@justdarling: @Leialou: Yay for both of you! Fingers crossed your IUIs turn into BFPs Will be thinking of you both today...
GOLD / watermelon / 14076 posts
@Leialou: good luck this morning!! I will be thinking about you...fingers crossed!!
nectarine / 2705 posts
@MK0180: Glad to hear you and your husband were able to talk through everything and things are good. Communication is so important.
@kentuckygirl: No need to apologize at all. This is a place that you can come and go as needed. We're always thinking of you though, so it's nice to "see" you Good luck with your decision making about IUI.
@marionberry: you're right...healing before pregnancy is important. But as you can relate, the waiting and the additional months rolling by are just agonizing!
@Grace: I know, I can't get so wrapped up in the worries...by the way, I found an awesome Groupon like you mentioned you had. 20 yoga classes for $49! I'm finding that it's helping me chill out (even if it's not apparent on HB that I'm relaxed
@spaniellove: My husband and I talked about it. If my period arrives on Christmas, I'm just going to go ahead and call in to see if I can schedule my day 3 appointment. If I can't get through...then I'll call on day 2 No more waiting! Plus, I'd like to be pregnant and actually HAVE a baby in 2013. // Glad to hear your bloodwork came back normal. It's amazing that 10 million motile sperm isn't a lot. I hope that the IVF journey is a success for you! We are all here to send SO many positive thoughts your way.
@justdarling: @Leialou: Thinking of you both today!
@Shutterbug: No worries - it's okay to take breaks from TTC discussions. I only had day 3 bloodwork done, so I'm not familiar with what is handled on CD21. Be sure to ask questions. Doctors and labs can make mistakes. Fingers crossed that you're out of limbo-land soon. I'm kind of there with you, while I heal from my hysteroscopy.
@BabyBear: Good luck on Tuesday!
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