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@Sweetooth: I hope you were able to get some sleep tonight. Thinking of you and your doctor visit today!
"Hostile mucus": couldn't they have come up with a nicer phrase?
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@sweettooth: Crossing my fingers for great news for you today!!! Definitely update us once you have a value.
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@sweetooth: thinking of you!
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Oh just had to share this with you ladies today (because I think you'll get why I was mad)...proof that it's hard for some people to really understand the effects of infertility. I had a pregnant friend say to me, "you're so lucky your pregnancy has been so easy so far" and I said "yes, it's been great, but I also didn't have the easiest time getting to pregnancy so maybe it evens out" and she said "well I guess that's a little hard emotionally". A little?! And it's not just a huge emotional strain, but at times a physical one too (those HSGs aren't exactly pain free and neither were the Clomid cramps). I did my best just to hold my tongue and ignore it. This person got pregnant right away and minus a bit of nausea didn't have any problems herself up to where I'm at in her pregnancy.
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@Happygal: @marionberry: @Leialou: Thank you all for thinking of me!
And thank you to everyone on this board - you're all such a huge support and a big part of this whole crazy ride for me.
I finally got a call with my results WAY before 4pm. And my numbers have gone up! More bloodwork on Thursday. I'm still cautious, and not ready to join any pregnancy boards yet. But I do believe I'm pregnant!
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@sweetooth: Yay, that's great! I was wondering how things had gone. I have my last beta tomorrow, I'm a little anxious about whether everything's still continuing to progress.
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@MrsCB: thank you! I hope your last beta tomorrow goes well! I'm thinking good, good thoughts for you. How many beta tests did you have?
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@sweetooth: You should come join the November boards! This will be my third and last beta. And if things are good tomorrow they'll schedule my first ultrasound, but I think they earliest they'll do it is 7 weeks and I'm only 5w2d right now.
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@sweetooth: yay!!!!!! I am so happy your numbers are rising.
@MrsCB: exciting that you are moving to the last beta. I will be thinking of you tomorrow!
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@sweetooth: That's awesome!! I've been checking for updates and hoping to hear you say it went up!
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@marionberry: so annoying. If I ever make it to the other side, I'd like to start a pregnancy after infertility group/thread bc I imagine that the difficulty in getting pregnant carries through the pregnancy in many ways emotionally.
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Ok, I've been staying away because I didn't want to jinx talking about it. (Thought it would be so cool to come back from my break preganant.) My cancelled IUI month turned into a TWW!! We BD'd a few days after I thought I would have O'd. While on femera, my doc noticed that my follicles were big around day 10... so since I was on femera this month, I thought I would O around day 10. Well, around day 14, we BD'd. I thought I already O'd so it just was sex.
Well, I get to day 28... waiting for my period. Day 29, waiting for my period. Here I am at day 30 and still no period. I was really moody last night so I think AF is coming. Oh, I got a BFN on day 29. I'm done testing. I doubt it's my month but a teeny tiny bit has a little hope. It would be so awesome to conceive naturally this month. Anyway, I doubt I'm pregnant. Just waiting for AF.
Oh, before my fertility meds days, my cycles are about 33-34 days longs, so I don't think I'm late. I think my body is just taking it's time like it usually does.
Sorry, I just re-read my post. It was a really misleading how I wrote it. I wish there was more positive news.
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@raintreebee: @spaniellove: thank you thank you
@marionberry: People that haven't been through infertility have no clue of the emotional, physical, mental and financial toll it takes on you. I give you permission to smack her if she says anything else
@bluestriped bee: I wasn't mislead by your post - and I totally know what you mean about not wanting to jinx it. Here's hoping AF stays away!! Pregnant while on a break from all of this sounds great!
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@marionberry: Ugh, people have no idea. On the november due dates thread a very well meaning poster said she was jealous of blood work and early ultrasounds, since her first would be at 12 weeks. Part of me wanted to be like "well I'm jealous you didn't have to take medication including injecting yourself, countless vag cams, a loss, and an hsg in order to get pregnant".
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@mrscb: @raintreebee: @sweetooth: It's just hard. People mean well but they totally don't get it. I think a pregnant after infertility board is a great idea. Maybe I'll start one and then it will be a great way for us all to stay connected even after we're pregnant. Plus it would be great to have all of you as a sounding board for worries!
@sweetooth: that's great!! What were your new values?
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@sweetooth: hooray!!!!
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Here's the link if any of you newly pregnant mommas want to join!
http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-infertility-support-group?replies=1#post-668909
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@marionberry: hope to join you there soon!
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@marionberry: Glad you created the thread! Hopefully someday I'll make it there.
The discussion going on about how people seem to think people who had IF for #1 will have it easy for #2 just about kills me. It came up before in another thread, and the source was often "I know someone who..." I feel like it's part of how infertility gets discredited around here.
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@raintreebee: I hope so too!!
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@spaniellove: I can't wait for you to be a part of that group!
Also, in relation to your other comment, I do think it's weird that people assume they'll naturally get knocked up with #2 after #1 with infertility. Maybe it depends on what type of infertility you're talking about. I certainly don't! I pretty much assume we don't even need birth control after #1 because we went almost a year doing everything right and nothing happened. I told DH the nice part will be that when we want #2 we'll save up the money and schedule an IUI again. The cool part of that is knowing I may not have to "try" like other naturally pregnable people the second time around, but can maybe get it done the first try. But yes, relying on "a friend of a friend's story" is not a smart idea.
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@sweetooth: yay for the good news!
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@marionberry: I guess what I didn't like was the "all my friends got pregnant again right away, so I'm sure it's easy" comment who just happened to have it easy with #2.
From someone whom I've noticed doesn't seem to believe in infertility in the first place.
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@sweetooth: yay!! good news!
@spaniellove: agree - major eyeroll at that thread. Didn't you know that my friend's sister's co-worker is the same as a scientific study?
I fully expect to have to work just as hard for #2, if I'm lucky enough to get #1
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@spaniellove: @marionberry: I never joined this board because Clomid worked, but the you'll have it easy with the second kills me. Both my midwife and the nurse said that to me at my first pregnancy appt and I don't agree. If I'm going to have it easy next time, why did it take 18 months to get pregnant the first time? My diagnosis was unknown infertility so thats definitely part of my problem with that statement.
@marionberry: I thought you had to start back at square one when you are trying for the next one. It definitely sounded like it in my dr office and one of the bees wrote about it not long ago, I think.
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@sweetooth: Ugh, AF just showed up. Nevermind. Me get pregnant naturally??? My body says hell no to that. Ugh, I'm at a crossroad. To continue TTC or take a break and concentrate on getting a new job and moving closer to home??? I have noticed that I've been increasingly more and more bitter and have an attitude (edgier with my comments) while posting on the boards. It might be a good time to take a break.
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@Shutterbug: After everything we're going through for #1 there will be no money left for #2! I'm sure I know of easy/surprise #2's, but I also know families that never had a #2 because it was so hard. So yeah, not much of a scientific study.
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@jetsa: I hope it does work out for you! But it is not right for them to make assumptions that belittle everything you went through, either.
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@marionberry: thanks for starting the new thread
I posted my values over there.
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@TheSwissWifeStyle: @Shutterbug: @MK0180: thank you!
@spaniellove: I look forward to seeing you on the new thread! And as for that other thread, about trying for #2...I think there is such a range of users on HB. I click on those threads, but most of the time don't even get to the comments because I can't believe the original post!
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@sweetooth: congrats on your numbers continuing to go up. So excited for you!!
When will you plan to join the pregnancy boards?
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@bluestriped bee: Really? Did we jinx it by talking about it?
I'm sorry. For what it's worth, I don't think you come across edgy with your comments at all. I understand if you need a break from all of this. Maybe focusing on something like the job search and looking up details for cross-country moves will help? I'm here if you need anything. (even if you want to chat about cross-country moves!)
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@bluestriped bee: We just wrote simultaneously
Thank you!
I don't know when I will join the pregnancy boards. I feel like I need to see a heartbeat first.
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@jetsa: I hope I don't encounter many insensitive comments when I leave my RE and move on to my OB. Everyone's journey to pregnancy is so different. I don't think anyone can make any assumptions. Glad to hear that Clomid worked for you!
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@sweetooth: Haha, so true.
@bluestriped bee: Hugs, hon. It really does sound like you need an emotional break. Maybe NTNP, just focusing on what you need in order to feel more like yourself. It catches up with you eventually that you've put so much time and energy into TTC that you stopped being yourself and investing in yourself. Maybe it's time to get into a good place again and feel refreshed before you start again?
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@sweetooth: Ahh, a heartbeat. So cool!!
Thanks for the job hunting and across the country move support.
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@jetsa: In my experience with my RE, we did everything in one cycle (cd3 bloodwork, HSG, IUI, Clomid and all). So I'm sure that when I go in again, we'll run through the same process (minus the HSG). I just won't count on it taking the first time around again..that was just great luck.
@sweetooth: My OB was just surprised that I did IUI and it worked the first time. I think OBs really are not that educated when it comes to advanced fertility stuff. He's never said anything remotely negative though. It just depends on the doctor I think.
@bluestripedbee: I'm sorry that you had hope and then it didn't work out. I think the NTNP idea is a good one until you decide about the job and moving and stuff.
@spaniellove: And I didn't mean to be insensitive (in case it came off that way) about being able to save up for #2. If I was in your shoes it would take us years to have done one IVF and I would've had to accept 1 kid for us I think. And I totally agree about your "scientific study" comments.
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@sweetooth: Congrats on the higher numbers!!!! I am so excited for you!!!!
@bluestriped bee: I am so sorry. After months of Femara and 3 IUIs, DH and I are trying this the old fashioned way....drink lots of wine and have lots of sex!!! It's a lot more fun this way! Hopefully on your next natural cycle, your body decides to surprise you with a BFP. I have found that not concentrating on it, has been really nice and helped a lot with my mood. This may be a good time for a break and to work on the job stuff. Oh, and by break , I mean no medicine or charting....just have sex when you want without protection and have fun. Focus on you for a little bit.
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@marionberry: I didn't take it that way...but if I knew I could have kids via IUI it would be a relief! It is dawning on us that we don't have much choice other than to do a second IVF and lord only knows where that money will come from! Plus, there's a good chance we may be switching insurance plans very soon which would mean we'd go from having everything but IVF and meds covered to absolutely nothing at all....I am kind of panicked because we've already spent any extra money.
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@spaniellove: Don't panic yet. Have you looked into a financing option? That's what we would've had to do had we gotten to the point of IVF. Here's the link to the one group our RE works with:
From someone whom I've noticed doesn't seem to believe in infertility in the first place.
I'm sorry. For what it's worth, I don't think you come across edgy with your comments at all. I understand if you need a break from all of this. Maybe focusing on something like the job search and looking up details for cross-country moves will help? I'm here if you need anything. (even if you want to chat about cross-country moves!)
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