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bananas / 9357 posts
@sorrycharlie: I keep hoping I'm going to run into someone on here that lives in my city so we can become BFF's. lol I'm weird like that.
pomegranate / 3863 posts
I feel weird calling out anyone in particular that I'd like to get to know better (don't want to seem cliquey or disclude anyone), but in general, all of my IG friends, since I see a larger portion of your lives I would love to get to know each one of you better since I already feel like I *know* you
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
@mrskc: lol same. there are so many within an hour from me - and one (off the top of my head) within 15 m!
pear / 1642 posts
I like reading a thread like this. I don't post a lot because I'm worried I'll seem awkward and out of place. It's funny and a little reassuring to see that all the ladies that I look up to on here feel the same way.
I usually wouldn't even post on a thread like this with so many responses because I'll see that my post count is way lower than everyone else's and Ill feel like I don't belong in the convo. I'm lame! But I'd like to know everyone better!
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
I would love to meet some bees and bee babies!
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
agree with PPs that I don't have a lot of mama friends IRL and LOVE LOVE our community. WISH there were more HB mamas and babies near me!! Three times this wknd, dh asked
"what are you doing, hellobeeing?"
i def "see" most of you a lot
pear / 1799 posts
I wish I was next door neighbors with @RUNSYELLOWLITES, haha. I love her philosophies of baby raising and childbirth. I can always count on good information on the boards.
blogger / nectarine / 2608 posts
@sorrycharlie: I love what you said about overcompensating with icons and punctuation. It is SO true.
I just broke down to Mr. T the other night about how I love it here but socially, I hate it. I'm really worried for the future. I have a grand total of one friend (which took me three+ years to make) here who is really more of a glorified acquaintance at this stage. I have no idea what I'll do when the kids don't consider me cool anymore. So all of you who feel like you don't have friends, I commiserate.
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
@Mrs. Twine: that was me, living in a small village, without a network of people to do things with. We ultimately moved, because I just could not manage and I gave it a 4 year try.
coconut / 8861 posts
@Dandelion: Totally agree.
I feel like I know the mommies I follow on Instagram well. It feels like we get to see our LOs milestones together.
blogger / nectarine / 2608 posts
@looch: Because of the farm we are stuck here. Like... forever. I'm not sure I could get Mr. T to give that up. I don't want to. But at the same time I just worry because at some point this not having friends close will suck even more. Sounds like moving was really good for you, though!
GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts
Heh I'm pretty much an open book. I assume people roll their eyes when I comment because I'm allergic to brevity, lol.
In all reality, though, like some pps, I don't really have many friends IRL here. I have a mommy-friend acquaintance, and a few of DH's co-workers that I'm friendly with, but most of my friends are at least 2 hours away, and it sucks. I feel totally lame, but some days it doesn't bother me much because I have the Bee.
And I totally third, fourth, fifth, whatever the idea of a Hellobee neighborhood! I feel like I'd get along so well with a lot of you IRL!
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
@Mrs. Twine: Yeah, I totally get that. I think it's just so hard because a there's not a lot you can do about location.
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@FutureMrsMcK: "allergic to brevity" . . . and I am so stealing that in the future!
honeydew / 7589 posts
@Mrs. Twine: I get that. I love our job and the adventure and the fulfillment, but moving so much means I have basically no friends.
The one long distance best friend I did have kind of just stopped writing after I had Vi. Even though I know we still have a lot in common, apparently she doesn't think so.
It's lonely. I really wish I lived near some of the bees so we could be friends.
Off the top of my head @runsyellowlites, @shopaholic, @mrsjacks, @turtledoves, @mrspen, @mrssuperhero, @mrsbee, and you of course, @mrstwine. Plus a bunch more I'm forgetting.
pomegranate / 3521 posts
Yes! We are still very early in the TTC process so sometimes I feel a little "far away". I also have a bizarre humor which sometimes doesn't translate online.
coconut / 8279 posts
@autumnlove: ooh what I wouldn't do for a J & E baby date!
ETA is it sad that I refer to HB as my 'mom's group' - I don't really have any mommy friends and the ones I do have are far away. I interact with the mama Bees on a daily basis!
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@Reese: Oh, it translates all right . . . translates into me guffawing in my office like a total spazz and then trying to play it off cool to the others in my office!
honeydew / 7687 posts
Yep! I often think I wish someone lived nearby because I find what they post interesting and would love to hang out. Off the top of my head, I know I always click to see what @aprk and @mrsjazz have shared if its an article
@mrskc: totally not lame! we've moved 4 times in 4 years so my friends were always from work (or those I stayed in touch with from college/high school)... now that I SAH I'm trying to get out and about but it's way harder.
I feel like my close friends who have always lived in the same area (where I moved away from after HS) think I'm a complete loon for spending so much time online instead of out meeting "real" people - but.. when we're going to move again I'd much rather have virtual support that moves with me!
@MrsRoo: that's totally lame I never look at post counts ha!
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@MrsRoo: @scg00387: I agree . . . post counts don't matter to me either!
persimmon / 1223 posts
I wish I knew everyone better - I am pretty new to Hellobee after I discovered it towards the end of my pregnancy and don't have a lot of mommy friends IRL. Sometimes I get intimidated about posting comments and like others have said I am pretty sarcastic and don't know if people would take it the right way.
pomegranate / 3983 posts
Yup, I agree with so much on this thread! The worst is when I'm on my phone and just can't really respond and then I feel like a stalker because I read all these posts but don't chime in myself.
pear / 1642 posts
@scg00387: @MsLipGloss: Good to know, thanks! Now I just need to get over it and post more
grapefruit / 4311 posts
There are def some people I think I have "friend crushes" on - like, I wish I could be like "you seem awesome and we should totally be IRL friends!" Haha
pear / 1992 posts
@MrsRoo: Fellow Kiwi and I know most of my post counts come from my November '12 group boards! I try not to let it discourage me from posting
pear / 1642 posts
@lindseykaye: Yay, another kiwi
I'm glad to know that no one looks at that. I'm definitely going to not let it stop me from now on.
cantaloupe / 6923 posts
All of the above. I seriously need a baby stat so I can attend a hellobee meetup. I tried to crash one of the boards but no one was having it. There's a few people on here that I consider fairly good friends so that's fun I'm a sucker for online friends!!
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
@Arden: Hug!
I'm am super-super lucky in that one of my very close WB and then HB friends became one of my very best in real life friends. I don't know how lightning struck like that, but I am a very very lucky Bee!
GOLD / grapefruit / 4555 posts
Sorry it took me so long to get back, I went and actually *GASP* got out of the house for once. Went and had lunch with my dad and DH, stopped by my mom's office, headed home.
First, I agree - we all need a little HB commune. We'll weave our own organic baby items and make the best gourmet baby food (and family food!). I'm down for this idea.
I don't have a lot of mom friends either. Mainly because we just moved to a new town, in a new county and I don't know anyone. Partly because all the friends I have ever made, just about, came from school and since I'm obviously no longer doing that anymore, well... Add to that a car with no A/C and not having octopus arms to handle both kids and the diaper bags? Ugh.
I conquer with a lot of the posters - as soon as one of the bloggers chime in, I usually take it as 'gospel' too and just shut my trap. Seriously. The first time it happened? I think I saw stars. I remember telling DH, in a very embarrassingly excited voice, that one of the bloggers just responded to me. I felt like I had met a movie star! (Virtually.) Pathetic, huh? But it still gives me a little thrill whenever one of you (bloggers) notice me.
I guess I feel like I know some of you well, others of you really really well, but none of you as well as I would like. Sometimes, something will happen and I will think (before sanity kicks back in) that I should call XXXX about something. Then come to my sense and realize that while you are all (obviously? hopefully?) real, we aren't actually all that close.
Or back to the whole deleting comments to others - sometimes I want to comment on their kid or their problem but I don't feel like I know them well enough to say even though they're posting it on the board. I especially don't feel qualified to comment on BFP or miscarriages or the likes simply because I haven't been there. I've never been happy to find out I was pregnant. I love my children but find out initially? My stomach sunk every time. Wouldn't trade him, just wasn't expecting them. And I've never had a miscarriage so I definitely can't empathize no matter how much I would like to.
End rant.
GOLD / cantaloupe / 6581 posts
I'm a hugely awkward turtle, and have total friend crushes on bees! I, like a lot of you, do not have many IRL friends, so I do love coming on here for social time. I still feel super awkward all the time, but I do feel like at least some of you don't mind my weirdness
coconut / 8475 posts
@MsLipGloss: YOU SAID LOGIC? aint nobody got time for that! I prefer to live my life void of all logical and allow my decisions, large and small, to be propelled by emotion. Nice known ya.
@NaturallyCathy: I just say what I say...& oh well. When I do need to get super snippy, I don't even reply. Sometimes my "ideas" are not what a decent lady would call very "polite".
honeydew / 7811 posts
This whole thread is cute. Everyone has insecurities, even online!
Same as a lot of others, I feel awkward because I'm new, and I'm also a thread killer Don't have any close mommy friends IRL and would love to get to know all of you better!
(please don't let this comment kill this thread, lol)
GOLD / grapefruit / 4555 posts
@TurtleDoves: You kill me
@cmomma17: Don't worry, I'll save you
pear / 1743 posts
I'd love to get to know more bees better. Being in a completely different time zone I feel like I miss out on some of the conversations by the time I log on!
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