I feel like I know a lot of you fairly well but there are a few of you I wish I knew better. Sometimes I want to make a comment - usually in humor - but am hesitant to because I'm afraid of offending unintentionally!
Do you wish you knew some of the other bees better?
blogger / nectarine / 2010 posts
@NaturallyCathy: I do the same comment thing. I usually just go for it, but I do worry I'll offend someone.
nectarine / 2631 posts
I wish i knew everyone better! I feel like i follow people and "know" them, but no one knows me! I need some mommy friends!
cantaloupe / 6800 posts
Yes! I'm pretty sarcastic, I know a few people I can be sarcastic to and they'll get it but for the most part I just hold back because I don't want to seem like a biatch
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
I agree, I tend to "be me" and keep my fingers crossed I don't offend anybody as that is not my intention ever! I also like to use the new emoticons so that way I can show I'm just kidding! 
grapefruit / 4136 posts
Bring o how the sarcasm and dirty language, this girl can take it! 
But yes-i agree! We should have a Bio page haha!
coconut / 8854 posts
Yes definitely!! I feel like once I start TTC I will be able to "bond" more and be more in the same timeline as many others here on HB
pear / 1992 posts
@babyjmama: The idea of a bio page is awesome! Maybe a new gold feature?? I would love to be able to see a little more about everyone.
pomegranate / 3398 posts
Yes! I feel like I've been here a long time and no one really knows me...you can tell by comments and posts and when you kill threads if people really do know you or not.
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
@Pumpkinspice: Ditto. Been here a while, yet I feel like when I start a thread not many respond.
coconut / 8234 posts
There are a few bees that I have Bee-friend crushes on and think we'd would have a great time if we hung out in real life. Some I hope to meet soon at the NYC meet up!
GOLD / grapefruit / 4555 posts
@Mrs. Polish: See, I'm the worst. I start the whole comment thing and then I just leave the page - I never hit 'submit' because I'm not sure how welcome my response would be.
Seriously, though. There are a lot of bees who I want to say something to but then I get nervous, going "Will this be taken as the way it's meant or will it offend someone??" Even some Bees who I feel like I understand really well, I don't want to step on their toes because I don't want to stop being 'friends' with them
Whether you know it or not, I count a lot of you as friends in my head We're BFFs.
honeydew / 7667 posts
I wish I knew everyone better. I hardly know anyone IRL that is a mom and it would be really nice to "know" more moms.
@NaturallyCathy: please feel free to comment on any of my stuff I'm super easy going.
blogger / nectarine / 2010 posts
@NaturallyCathy: you'll never hurt my feelings or toes.
pear / 1992 posts
@NaturallyCathy: Ditto to @MrsH!
I feel like I make an intentional effort to read comments in a positive way, or at least assume that what was said was meant to be helpful/funny/whatever. I think a lot of bees do this though and that's why this community stays so supportive and doesn't turn into some catty mess.
GOLD / pomegranate / 3938 posts
I love knowing people! I never get offended and I try my best not to offend.
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts
@NaturallyCathy: shoot, I offend people by just posting new threads! There are few people on here I wish I knew better.
nectarine / 2765 posts
@NaturallyCathy: "I never hit submit" Same here! Apart from not being as active as others are on this board, I'm very often too afraid to comment (or edit my comments to make them more broadly appropriate) for fear of offending with my usual sarcasm/foul mouthed TMI self. Or that something I say is taken wrong & ends of offending someone. So, I just keep quiet
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
@NaturallyCathy: Know better, how? In person? Their sense of humor? There are bees I would like to know more about, but it's more like characteristics, if that makes sense.
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@NaturallyCathy: I am sure I have offended a few folks lately by posting logical comments to emotional threads . . .
coconut / 8279 posts
I have a hard time expressing myself in type. Sometimes I read posts and I just want to give the poster and hug or squeeze their hand, but I can't really get that across in a comment.
I'd like to know everyone better!
GOLD / grapefruit / 4555 posts
@looch: For me, I guess I knew bees better so that I could make sure I wouldn't offend someone. Knew their sense of humor more, more about their life, just get to know them better. I can think of a few ladies (whom I won't drag into this thread in case they don't want to be) who I would like to say something to but I'm afraid it will come off as... I don't know, weird, since I don't 'talk' to them that often. Like commenting on their LOs. It's positive! But I'm afraid I'll seem out of left field.
I guess I stalk a lot of you without ever actually 'making contact'.
@LMOG47: I try to do that too! I'm a 2nd time mom but I still recognize there's a lot I don't understand and need to learn, so I defer to others when they know more about something but sometimes, I'm afraid my comments still come out as 'know it all' and I don't mean to be that way. Not that anyone's called me on it! I just feel like once I comment on something, sometimes the thread just... dies. And I wonder if it's my fault, you know?
watermelon / 14467 posts
I'd like to know everyone better, and I love the idea of a bio page. I don't think it needs to be a Gold only feature though, as everyone has their personal comfort level of what they will/won't share online.
GOLD / grapefruit / 4555 posts
@MsLipGloss: You remind me of Spock. In a good way. I like Spock. (Original Star Trek). Besides, you give me warm fuzzies. I *puffyheartwithglitter* you
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@NaturallyCathy: I say just let it fly! Heck, I am in lurrrve with several peeps here and but for posting *risky* comments, our affair(s) would not be where they are today! 
blogger / nectarine / 2608 posts
@Pumpkinspice: I kill threads ALL the time. But I don't think it's 'cause people don't know me.
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@NaturallyCathy: Hahahaha - when I was a kid, my friends called my dad Mr. Spock!
bananas / 9357 posts
@NaturallyCathy: I get what you mean. A lot of times I feel like I don't comment b/c i don't want to offend someone. I feel like I really have to watch what I say around here. Then in turn I think I don't open up very much on here b/c I don't want to get hurt by people's comments. So yes I do wish I knew everyone on here better.
GOLD / squash / 13464 posts
@rachiecakes: This! I have a really hard time responding to emotional/sad threads. It's so hard to communicate empathy through the computer to someone you don't really have a personal relationship with. But my heart hurts for them all the same.
nectarine / 2765 posts
@NaturallyCathy: I really doubt you're a thread killer! Or that you come across as a know it all, that's where hearing someone's actual "voice" over text can be difficult...things can get taken the wrong way.
hostess / papaya / 10219 posts
I am always nervous how others will take comments from me because I am fairly new on here. So yeah. I wish I knew others better and that they knew me better.
blogger / nectarine / 2608 posts
@NaturallyCathy: I think the thread-killing thing concern is normal. I worry when I don't get many responses, or when no one responds at all after I do. Or sometimes when I get the thing where I reply to someone specifically and there's, like, this big hush and someone whispers, "Uh, it's that dorky lady again. Let's pretend we didn't hear her," and they all keep on chatting while I stand in a corner looking expectant and am sort of oblivious. Until I realize that no one is talking to me. Okay, not exactly, but kinda like that. I think our imaginations do some pretty funny things to us sometimes. Because I don't see negative things about you at all. In fact, I perceive you as being very well liked.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
I wish I could stay connected to everyone! I feel like I "know" a lot of people, but could def stand to know them even more!
GOLD / squash / 13464 posts
@Mrs. Twine: Um.... for the majority I take what you say as gospel. Just FYI Perhaps people don't respond because they are all "Ahhh the Great and Power Mrs. Twine has spoken. That's the end of that discussion".
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
I will be the first one to admit that I don't always respond to a lot of threads, especially the ones with the BFPs unless I feel like I know them really well ( I think in all my time on the boards, I have responded to two posters). There are also some Bees that I don't feel a connection with because of some of the comments that they've made, but I don't think that's weird, though. In real life, everyone doesn't get along and have to be friends, so I don't think it's the same online...but I know I am strange like that.
grapefruit / 4110 posts
I've been ripped into too many times to not write a comment and leave the page without submitting. I love the community but some experiences have definitely made me more cautious. I would love to get to know a number of people better but I'm also not sure I am ready to put myself out there. I would love to get to know more socal people that would play with us when we head into that area.
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