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Congratulations on your sweet baby!
I am so so sorry that your birth was handled so callously by the doctors. You handled the situation with so much strength and dignity. I hope you get the healing that you deserve. Thank you for sharing your birth story, I know I have learned from it.
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I'm so sorry, mama.
I had a very large baby (10+lbs), but I was lucky enough to do it in a country and hospital where they were not concerned about it. I am terrified of having another child for this exact reason, now that we're back in the US. I'm so very sorry for the way you were treated. I really hope that you can find peace surrounding the birth of your beautiful son.
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I'm so sorry you were treated so poorly, and I hope you're able to eventually find some peace.
But congratulations, he's GORGEOUS!
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Beautiful baby, congrats!
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I'm so sorry you had the L&D experience you had! As if being bullied into a c-section wasn't bad enough, your pain management wasn't sufficient!
On a happier note, your son is seriously gorgeous! Congrats mama! -
I'm sorry your birth experience was so traumatic for you. I hope you are able to move past the anger and hurt feelings with time.
That said, I don't think @nskillet was trying to start a flame war initially. While this is one woman's birth story it is also a public forum. I think she was trying to present another point of view to those who might be reading everything that was said as fact without considering other viewpoints.
And truthfully, I see where she is coming from. I do get annoyed when mothers adopt an Us vs Them mentality when it comes to their doctors. If you carefully chose your OBs you should trust that they have your best interests in mind. When a good physician makes a recommendation it is not because it's more convenient or because they want to argue with you. In fact it would be much more convenient to go along with everything patients want. We make recommendations because we believe they are in the best interests of our patients. If your OB believed it was not safe for you to deliver it is his/her duty to advise against it. It's BECAUSE we care that we take the time to answer all your questions and, yes, even argue with you.
All that to say I'm sorry things turned out the way they did for you @junebugmama. But remember your physicians are people too and they are just trying to provide high quality, safe care.
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@kjn: That's exactly what I wanted. I wanted to trust my doctors. There are 7 ob's in the practice and 2 midwives. When 5 of them weighed in and the decision was split, that's when I knew that I wasn't wrong. If all 5 of them could have agreed on my care, then I wouldn't have doubted their decision. I would have felt like I was getting the best care. However, when the main OB in charge, decided that I would receive no further testing after the decision was voted on, that I thought was wildly unprofessional. They decided to "stand their ground", rather than verifying that ground was solid. What harm would it have caused to do a level 2 ultrasound? The only thing that would have happened is there would have been a more educated guess on weight. Then we could have discussed more options. I believe they just didn't want to be wrong. It was a battle of wills, rather than a true medical issue.
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I DID NOT write this birth story to argue about c-section or medical malpractice. I wrote it because I thought that maybe if I got it out it would help me heal. I thought that if maybe one person benefited from my story, that it would be beneficial.
It certainly didn't do anything for my "healing" as it turned into a ridiculous debate. Maybe someone out there will benefit, still. I will hold on to that.
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Thank you all of those who offered kind words. Thank you to all who complimented my beautiful little baby.
I hope that each one of you have had or get a peaceful birth. Good luck to you.
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@junebugmama: I am sorry it turned into anything but healing. I, for one, am still glad that you shared it. I was wondering about your birth experience and am sad to see how poorly you were treated. You're right, no one deserves to be spoken to or treated as such. I hope that writing it down still brings you healing
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I am so sorry you went through such a traumatic experience. The way a mother feels is incredibly important, especially when your feelings were very much aligned with the health of your baby. It was incredibly unprofessional (at best) of your OB practice to refuse the level 2 US, and you are right to feel betrayed and violated. I hope you find healing and peace in the future. ETA: your story has benefited me - I am pregnant with LO#2, big babies run in my family, I do not want a C-section if at all possible, and I am not often outspoken/an advocate for myself. But hearing your experience makes me feel more empowered to speak up, if that makes any sense. You fought like hell, and you were right in the end. Mama intuition, that kind of thing.
And your newborn baby and family are absolutely beautiful.
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Sorry you had a tramatic birth experience! *hugs*
Your baby is gorgeous though!!! Congratulations!!!
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First of all, congratulations. He is beautiful.
Second of all, I am so sorry about your birth experience. And so proud of you for putting that positive spin on it from the perspective of a care provider. I had the birth experience that I had hoped for, and even then it was traumatic. I hope you heal physically and emotionally.
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He's beautiful! Congrats
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@junebugmama: Just wanted to say thank you for sharing this! You have every right to feel angry and traumatized. It really does sound like you were bullied into it and that's awful, no one should go through that. I do hope your practice learns something from this experience. The whole time, I'm like, are those u/s' really that accurate? How do they know it's really over 11 lbs/12 lbs?
I was so happy to see you say he was 9 lbs!! Clearly they needed to more certain before making a decision. Hugs to you! And what a beautiful family you have!
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congratulations on your beautiful, and I mean BEAUTIFUL little baby!
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Thank you for being brave enough to share your story with complete honesty about how you experienced it throughout. Reading yours has definitely helped me to process my own story, which you know paralleled yours in some ways. I never said it on our May boards but I'm actually a CNM and the idea that our difficult experiences might benefit a client really resonates. You'll be a wonderful midwife. And Jace is amazing.
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