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@snarkybiochemist: ugh is that because of the meds?
@bizwitch: My DH has had a few times while TTC where he couldn't finish. I get it, the pressure is a lot. We got O-1` and O the cycle we conceived, only by doing an AM and then a PM the next day to leave enough time between them. Have you never used OPK's before this or just never got the timing right?
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@Banana330: The nurse said it can happen any cycle even without meds if the corpus luteum (follicle after the egg releases that produces progesterone until the pregnancy is established) doesn't shrink back down when you don't produce HCG. Obviously they know about them only if you are having monitored cycles, so it seems like people only get them after taking meds.
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cycle day 11 today and I know it's dumb but I feel really discouraged that I'm not having any signs of ovulation.
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@snarkybiochemist: I'm sorry, how frustrating
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@snarkybiochemist: I'm so sorry. I hope they clear up soon.
@bizwitch: I'm sorry - that sucks. Would you be comfortable just not telling him you are fertile, or does he want to know? I work with a bunch of men and have heard it all, including them complaining about how they don't want to know their wives are fertile because it's too much pressure to perform. Granted, I don't think it's fair to put everything on the woman either, but I know this works well for some people. I didn't specifically tell my husband when fertile week was, though I'm sure he could probably guess.
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@mrskansas: Thanks
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@periwinklebee: Me too, I don't actually want to be on birth control for 3 weeks because then we can't even try but I'm afraid if I'm not on it then I won't ovulate at all and I will have to induce with provera.
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@snarkybiochemist: Thank you. It's definitely becoming more watery so hopefully that will turn into ewcm soon.
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@Banana330: I had just never had a positive OPK before this morning.
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@mrskansas: Of course, fingers crossed for you
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@snarkybiochemist: I'm sorry to hear that. Beyond frustrating.
@bizwitch: timing pressure is terrible. I get it myself, but obviously that doesn't matter! (In terms of baby ingredients)
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@knittylady: super frustrating
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@snarkybiochemist: That sucks - I'm so sorry. I'm still spotting but it's much lighter now. I go in for an ultrasound/hcg draw/rhogam shot this afternoon, hopefully they can at least confirm it's not ectopic.
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@periwinklebee: Fingers crossed that this is all just normal pregnancy for you and everything is were its supposed to be
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@periwinklebee: Good luck to you today. I really had never thought of not telling my husband where I am in my cycle. I'll ask him about that tonight, if it would make it easier. Though honestly I think he could tell because there's really only one part of the month where I want to BD 3 days in a row! LOL!
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@bizwitch: I understand the pressure too. It sucks. My husband and I are on different work schedules, so the only time we are home at the same time is between midnight and 6 AM. So if "go time" happens to fall Mon-Fri, I have to set an alarm to wake up at midnight when he gets home and hope that he isn't too tired from work. If we try in the morning before I go to work, he's still half asleep and can't do anything.
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@mrskansas: Oh gosh, what a pain in the ass! I'm counting my blessings that our schedules are almost the same.
I find that he is MUCH more efficient in the mornings too. Seriously this morning took like 3 minutes. Last night was over half an hour of ALL THE TRICKS IN THE BOOK but despite my generosity... it didn't work. (LOL sorry hope that isn't too graphic.)
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@snarkybiochemist: @bizwitch: Thank you guys!
@bizwitch: Hah, hah - yeah, probably not that hard to figure out
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@bizwitch: It is exhausting. I am not one of those women that likes it to drag out that long. If it takes longer than 15/20 minutes I'm like just give me what I want and go away. Haha
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@snarkybiochemist: Ugh, sorry. That's so frustrating. I hope that it gets better.
@bizwitch: @mrskansas: That's so funny! DH always worries that he's too quick, but I praise him for not dragging it out forever. There's only so many tricks up my sleeve!
@periwinklebee: good luck today! I'll be thinking of you!
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@madisonbee: Very frustrating
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@madisonbee: LOL too quick is not a thing when TTC. I can appreciate efficiency during that time of the month, otherwise I get too much in my head about it.
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Officially in the TWW now and officially losing my mind! LOL!
Luckily one of my best friends in the entire world is coming to visit on Friday for ten days. And while he is here our other mutual best friend is fixing up a house she just bought and moving into it, and we'll both be helping her. So lots of distractions for this TWW, thank Goddess.
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@bizwitch: Whoooo! Sending you all kinds of baby dust!
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Okay! I just got off the phone with the RE office. They said my progesterone was 4.5 and my LH was 68 (my baseline was 8). This was at about 8:45am and I did the OPK at about 6:15am. So I definitely had just ovulated or was about to ovulate, and they said BD this morning was great timing! She recommended doing it tonight, tomorrow and Thursday as well.
I don't really know much about what these numbers mean so any insight you have would be helpful! Thanks ladies!!
But still I am just so stoked to have this insight on my cycle! The first time ever I got a positive OPK and it's backed up with bloodwork! I'm excited, can you tell?!
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@bizwitch: Interesting to see actual numbers! Perfect timing!
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@bizwitch: Aren't numbers super comforting? I am loving seeing an RE for that reason. I may hate the fact that monitoring and all that is a pain but I do love the numbers that I get.
I had a work baby shower to attend, which was hard to do anyhow with having trouble and getting todays news and then the mama to be asked me in front of my whole dept if I was next. I wanted to scream and cry, but I didn't and just awkwardly laughed and said soon I hope. -
@snarkybiochemist: Aw man I'm so sorry that happened to you today. It's so, so hard.
I haven't told my mom about any of this yet because she has a tendency to take on everyone's problems and make them their own. She would be asking me a million questions all throughout every cycle and it would just stress me out more. But because she doesn't know she's been making little comments about wanting grandchildren. I mean she's got three kids who are married and in their 30s, and one more seriously dating and in her late 20s, so it's not crazy of her to be antsy for grandkids at this point. But still, I'm like, dang mom it's not instant! When I texted my family a pic of the new dog my mom was like "I guess I'll just have to get used to more animals instead of grandbabies." Ughh.
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@snarkybiochemist: Oh man, sorry you had to go through that.
@bizwitch: My dad has been wanting grandbabies since our wedding day, so every time I call him (we usually text) he thinks it's the "I'm pregnant" news. Gah!
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@bizwitch: Two of my sisters have kids and my mom still wants more grandbabies, it doesn't help that they are all boys and my mom really wants a little girl to spoil. I have been pretty open about this process with my mom for a few reasons. I needed her to stop asking when I was going to get pregnant or reminding me I was next. I also told her so that I could call when I was having a bad day. It was also pretty hard to hide the collection of medicine I'm on particularly since my last two treatment rounds were over christmas and thanksgiving. She thankfully on her end doesn't pry or ask questions just waits until I come to her with news or updates or whatever. I am glad I told her but obviously I got really lucky.
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@madisonbee: I just wish that people didn't feel the need to ask about babies, its hard enough going through this without everyone prying in
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@madisonbee: @snarkybiochemist:
My family is almost the opposite! I told my dad after I had surgery for my ectopic since I needed someone to help me with my daughter in the evenings. He never said anything but then when I had a miscarriage I needed him again and he asked me why I would want another baby when my daughter is already perfect and that my 2nd would be a terror.
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@mrskansas @madisonbee @snarkybiochemist: If we get to the point of IVF I will probably tell my parents. I feel like it's such a big thing not to share. Plus maybe they will want to pitch in financially? Hopefully it won't come to that though.
Before I got off the phone w/ the RE nurse she was like "hopefully we'll see you in two weeks when you miss your period." Hopefully indeed!!!
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@bizwitch: I think I would to the same. If we did IUI or IVF, I'll probably tell my Dad. He's way more supportive. My mom doesn't like DH but knows we're TTC (she reacted with a fake "that's great!"), so I feel like if things had to go to the IUI/IVF route, she'd blame him. I'm really glad your nurse was so positive! I'm so excited for you during the TWW!
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@bizwitch: everything sounds promising! Fingers crossed!
@mrskansas: timing pressure is the worst! I also get home from work at midnight so basically my work nights are a no go. Then I feel super motivated to make sure it happens on my days off!
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@bizwitch: I haven't discussed TTC with my mom for the same reason. She's a mega-worrier and would be constantly asking things - plus I know she would not keep any info to herself - and it's just better not to deal with that, though I love her to death.
Not a huge amount to report from my appt today, but thankfully it's not ectopic - too early to see much else. There's another two weeks worth of waiting til we'll be able to see much, if I'm still pregnant at that point. They did see a large subchorionic hematoma by the sac, which may have been what caused the bleeding. The doctor described it as the placenta trying to grab hold of a blood vessel that's too big for it to handle and blood getting dumped everywhere as a result.
I had to get a rhogam shot and it's crazy to think that if we'd been around before the shot existed our children probably would have been stillborn because my immune system would have attacked their blood. I am so, so grateful for modern medicine.
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@periwinklebee: Sounds like it was overall positive. Fingers crossed for a sticky baby!!
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@bizwitch: Thank you! I have my fingers crossed for you as well - sounds like you timed it perfectly!
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@periwinklebee: thinking of you and glad to see this update. Stick, baby, stick!!
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@periwinklebee: Thanks for the update! Like @bizwitch said, it seems to be overall positive. Thinking of you and wishing you luck!!!
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