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@bizwitch: I was at my OBs office the day I miscarried getting a blood draw and when I walked out there was an obviously very pregnant girl standing outside of her car SMOKING. I got so irrationally angry that she was able to get pregnant and stay pregnant while I was in the middle of a miscarriage and I do everything "right".
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@periwinklebee: thank you!
having a plan helps a lot!
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@snarkybiochemist: best of luck
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@mrskansas: Ugh that is so annoying, and kind of heartbreaking for that kid! I used to smoke and a midwife once told me that I could probably smoke one cigarette a day throughout a pregnancy without any negative consequences but I was like... why would I take that chance? But maybe that's her one per day? People make strange decisions, and addiction makes people do strange things. Believe me I know! Also, stop watching Teen Mom! LOL!!
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@mrskansas: Thanks
My sister smoked some during her pregnancy (the one where she went off the pill at 37 and it took her less then 3 months to conceive) and I had a really hard time with it all since we went off the pill roughly the same time -
@snarkybiochemist: I'm so glad to hear no birth control. Best of luck!
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@snarkybiochemist: WOW. Lucky duck. It must be really hard to have that story hanging over you.
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@knittylady: Thanks I am hopeful but trying not to get my hopes up
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@bizwitch: It was fun when she told me that getting pregnant was easy
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@snarkybiochemist: Agh! I would have burst into tears on the spot.
I have a coworker who does not want kids who was like "you know if you just relax..." and had a story of her sister's friend who tried to get pregnant for over a year and when she stopped stressing it magically happened! I was like... never tell me that story again. Ever.
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@bizwitch: Thankfully it was over the phone, I held it together until I hung up but it was hard.
I really hate the, oh they tried treatment for a year and then gave up and got pregnant the next cycle stories. They are really not helpful I feel they tend to be super dismissive and are saying oh they relaxed for a cycle and look what happened, rather then saying oh after a year of artificially giving her hormones her body still had residual hormones and thus she got pregnant during a non-treatment cycle because of treatments -
@snarkybiochemist: I feel like those stories are just evidence that it's totally a crapshoot and everyone's bodies are different. Not evidence that "relaxing" gets you pregnant. By that logic I should have gotten pregnant during summer 2015 when we were all footloose and fancy free about it.
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@bizwitch: Exactly if relaxing made me ovulate then I would totally have gotten pregnant this summer when we took two nice vacations
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@snarkybiochemist: @bizwitch: I absolutely detest when people tell me to relax and it will happen. It is even worse when DH says maybe we should relax and just do what we want and then it will happen, completely disregarding that there are only 5 days out of the month you can even get pregnant. I swear, I'm starting to believe that most people don't know anything about how to get pregnant. My SIL to this day still says she doesn't know how she got pregnant...like really?
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@Tionn3: Most people don't know all this information, think back to sex ed, "If you have sex you will get pregnant" Its super frustrating to want to educate people about what it takes but at the same time know that until it affects them it won't really matter
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@Tionn3: I am convinced that most people don't know how it really works. Part of me wishes I could be that ignorant and the other part of me is like really?!
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@Tionn3: Nice to see you again! How was your vacay?!
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@snarkybiochemist: Ireland was great! I want to go back for sure and see the rest of the west coast. I got my period the night before we returned to the states. It was a drag. So now I'm just waiting to ovulate...I'll probably get my period again on Feb 4th. DH and I have an appointment with the fertility specialist on Jan 30th, and we also had a SA done...which came back, and has me confused. His count was pretty good. 143 mil / mL, but the motility was only 28% progressive and 36% overall. The total motile sperm count was 80 mil / specimen. The doctor office told us that the total motile sperm count was the most important number for interpreting whether motility was normal or not, and they said the number was good...I am still worried about the motility =/
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@Tionn3: Oh transatlantic flight with a period sounds awful but I'm glad you had a good time otherwise. The RE should be able to explain things further. Hopefully you will get pregnant this cycle and not really need the appt, but its good to have a plan going forward.
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@Tionn3: If I remember correctly, my husband's motility also seemed low but they said that is normal. Like even a super virile guy would still have less than 50% motility. Turns out most sperm are useless freaks of nature!
I can go back and look at my husband's results tonight if you want, for comparison. They said he was perfectly healthy and fertile. They also said the same for me and 21 cycles later... womp womp.
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@bizwitch: TTC is just one big cluster fuck of a mystery. I'm not even trying super hard this cycle with the timing of intercourse. Having the appointment on the 30th has kind of taken the pressure off a little bit. I just don't see the point anymore...especially if I'm not in the mood.
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@snarkybiochemist: coming out of lurking to say good luck. It took me almost 2 years to get pregnant with my now toddler & I hated everyone telling me to relax & it'll happen stories. Even after getting pregnant, people would say, see once you stopped taking all the hormones & stopped actively trying, you were fine. I bit my tongue but I wanted to say, f* you, because of the science, it most likely helped regulate my body and allowed it to reset itself. Also, while I took a medication break, I decided to pursue acupuncture so I didn't stop "trying." Even while TTC for #2, we got the oh, you're not infertile cuz you already had a baby...blah blah blah. Everyone's journey to parenthood is different & it's ok to feel what you feel. You do what's best for you & what you're most comfortable with. Hopefully your journey won't be too lengthy but if it is, count the small blessings in your life as a way to get through the not so happy times.
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@lazypanda: Thank you so much I appreciate hearing this and I am sorry that you had to walk this road. I have been working on just being ok with where we are and not knowing when things will happen.
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Does anyone experience the vague feeling of pressure in their ute around ovulation and/or the TWW? I am experiencing it right now and I'm nearly certain it's psychosomatic but part of me is like... what the heck? What's going on in there?!
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@mrskansas: our first month trying ever- back in 2012- I remember I was like 5 days from ovulating, we DTD and I was fantasizing that I was pregnant. It's so embarrassing to admit that but yup! Thanks sex Ed!
I have a friend who had a honeymoon baby and said they were disappointed they never got to "try". I'll just leave that there.
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@knittylady: OMG that is bullsh*t, re: the honeymoon story.
As long as we're sharing embarrassing stories of our own, I remember I BURST into tears (happy tears) as soon as my husband (then fiance) and I finished after our first time without a condom. I don't even know where I was in my cycle. I don't think I was even tracking my period yet, let alone thinking about when I was ovulating. But I was like "Oh my God this is huge this could be the start of a whole new chapter of our lives." Little did I know...
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@knittylady: LOL never got to try... oh the bliss, lol
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@bizwitch: That's funny but I've been there too.
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@snarkybiochemist: That's great that they're not putting you on the bcp.
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@periwinklebee: I am so grateful
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@mrskansas: Ditching the condoms just felt like SUCH a monumental decision with SO many possible implications. I was so naive back then, haha! I was fantasizing about telling my family we were pregnant AT THE wedding, all that kind of stuff.
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I think I've got a positive opk!
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@jhd: Yay! Because I love looking at OPKs and HPTs can you post a pic?!
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@mrskansas: @jhd: agree! Test picture junkie over here!
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@knittylady: I want to know how many times you've gone back to look at your FRER
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@jhd: @mrskansas: @knittylady: I love OPKs and HPTs too---so awaiting those pics!
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@snarkybiochemist: YAY! I'm so happy that you don't have to be on birth control!
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@madisonbee: me too
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Test line is definitely equal to control line today. Not much of a fade in. Will test again tomorrow am (and maybe tomorrow pm if I can get out tomorrow for more tests) to see if the line gets any darker. Just using dollar store tests since it's my first time using them.
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@jhd: ooooh I would take that as a positive and get some BDing done today. I wonder what it would look like tomorrow!
having a plan helps a lot!
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