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We don't get everything done. We had started paying friends kids to come clean our house and our lawn for us. If we didn't pay we wouldn't be able to.

I hated work so I didn't let the work stress get to me. I have become very zen. I decide what the worst case could be and what I will accept. Then I am for higher than that. At work I got a horrible review because I got pregnant. I fought it and then found a new job. My new job is GREAT and I love it and I want to be there. That helps.

As the PPs said, you are not alone in your feelings! I would venture to say most (if not all at some point or another) full time WOHMs feel that way. For me it came down to deciding that I had to prioritize and whatever didn't get done, that had to be okay. Yes, I'm a much less ideal housekeeper these days, but I've also had to find ways to be more efficient. I'd prefer spending time with my son, not having a great looking house. He certainly won't remember how clean our house was or wasn't but he will remember I was with him.

It is really hard.

When I am home in the evenings we try to devote 100% of time to her. That means sitting on the floor reading books, etc and not worried about other things. Sometimes shes willing to play by herself but if she comes over to me with a book, I stop what I am doing and focus on her.

However, when she goes to bed that means there is a lot to do. My next focus is typically my health which means getting some sleep if needed. If I am rested then I focus on laundry, etc.

OH!! I know what you're talking about. I've been back at work for a month now and feel the same way. There is ALWAYS something to clean, wash, be laundered. I try not to overwhelm myself though. I give myself a list of things that I HAVE to do that evening after work and try to work through them. If I'm too tired, I move some to the next day, the things that can wait. Or wait until DH is tired of seeing it and he'll clean it up.

I think all we can do is let some stuff go and prioritize. There's no way to get everything done all the time. I've just accepted it or else I'd probably feel really unhappy thinking about it.

I feel that same way! I get home at five and just hope that LO takes a good nap. Its a constant process of dishwasher, bottles, cook, clean kitchen, feed LO, bathe LO then she's off to bed. I can't wait for the day that I don't have to wash bottles anymore! The the weekends are full of family visits, errands and cleaning.

This past weekend I told DH that I needed an hour. I sat on the couch, watched Pretty Little Liars and vegged out. After having an hour to myself, I felt MUCH better.

It is hard to juggle everything. Does your husband do 50% of the house/baby tasks? If not; get him started right away!

We only do laundry on the weekends, which was our system before baby. And run the bottles through the dishwasher at night, even if the dishwasher isn’t totally full. Its easier than hand-washing the bottles. I make up a pitcher of formula at night before bed, and then just fill the clean bottles in the morning.

Our system is that I do bath/bottle in the evening while my husband cooks dinner. Then we put LO down to sleep; and eat dinner together (sometimes I eat holding her, too).

On the weekends, we clean the house together; splitting the chores. We can clean our entire house in less than an hour.

You need time to yourself too; so don’t feel like you have to clean every night. Make sure to take time for yourself every day, even if its just a few minutes to sit and close your eyes and veg out.