Have you ever been in one? Did it start off as a long distance or did someone move away? How often did you see each other?
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We started off as long distance for about 9mths whilst DH was in the last year of his master's degree. We saw each other roughly every month and it worked fine for us as we knew it was only temporary and planned to move in together as soon as he was done.
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Dh and I met when I lived in Ecuador. We were together two years before I moved back to the states. We did a year and some long distance while we figured out his paperwork. During that time I went to visit him in Ecuador twice. ..one longer trip (one month) in july and one shorter trip (5 days) the following February. He came to the states in march. While we were long distance we skyped 2-3 times a week and texted a few times a day.
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Been in a few... The furthest and most serious was between SF - NYC with now-DH. We saw each other usually twice a month (every other weekend)... Sometimes every 3 weeks if we were busy... Jet Blue totally loved us!! It also helped that I had a good grad school/RN shift schedule so I had long weekends.
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We were long distance for the first 6 months of our relationship. I always say that it's the reason we stayed together. We were forced to talk out every little thing instead of brushing things under the rug or hugging or kissing each other to comfort each other. I hated every minute of it (I think I cried every night, and we visited each other like twice a month... 7 hour drive! 15 hour bus ride!) but of course in the end it was worth it. After we graduated he moved to where I was and we've been inseparable ever since.
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Yes, and long distance for us was a plane ride. I was very anti-long distance, but when it is with the right person, time and space falls away.
eta: we saw each other at least monthly, the long distance part lasted about 1 year.
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no. I don't think I could do it!
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I was in one for most of a 4-year relationship. It was not a good situation. When every time you see each other, it's a special occasion, it doesn't give you a good sense of reality. I missed out on a lot of other good friendships and possible relationships during this time because I really had no social life. I should have know when I was OK being long distance for this amount of time, that it was not meant to be!
In Mexico they say two things about long-distance relationships. I don't think they're true necessarily but they're funny....
Amor de lejos, amor de pendejos.
(basically long-distance love is for idiots)
Amos de lejos, felices los cuatro
(long distance love, four happy people)Haha... in the interest of intercultural exchange
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We were together for about 6 months when we started long distance for the next 6 months while I finished college. We were only about 2 hours apart, so we took turns and alternated weekends. It wasn't horrible, but it wasn't fun either.
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We did 2 years of long distance. It definitely had it's advantages (good communication) and drawbacks (don't get to see each other for months on end). Due to our age difference, I think this worked in our favor to evolve the relationship very slowly.
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DH and I were long distance for the first 2.5 years of our relationship. It was a LOT of work but we were both really invested in the relationship.
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We started long distance. It was hard, but there were some upsides, too...we talked on the phone a lot, so we got to discuss all kinds of things. It helped us to get to know each other better. I was glad when we moved to the same city, though! Plane tickets were way too expensive! We saw each other about every six weeks and took turns as to who flew where.
@mrs. wagon: I agree, we did talk a lot!
@MediaNaranja: wow, kudos to you. That sounds rough!
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@MrsKoala: whoa, 2.5 years? That IS work!
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The only other bf I had was long distance for last few months of it. We were together for 9 months before I moved away, we were still "together" for another 4 months before dh asked me out and it had to end. I didn't even see him again before I broke up with him because the one time I was able to make the 800 mile trip back to visit he was "too busy" so I don't feel too bad lol!
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DH and i were together for 1 year in the same city before he moved an hour away for his masters program. We saw each other once a week. @MediaNaranja: He spent 3 months in Ecuador but i didn't visit, unfortunately. I think it would've been easier if we had the same video chat capabilities we do now!
Then he moved across the continent for his phd program, which was 5 years. During grad school, we saw each other every other month. Then he moved to the city in which we are in now while we were engaged.
So i guess we were long distance for about 8 years??
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DH and I dated long distance for almost 2 years, the beginning of our relationship. We were both going to school that were 8 hours apart. He'd drive up and see me once a month and if I was being rebellious, I'd drive down to Dallas and meet him there.
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SO and I met at a convention when he lived in Florida and I was moving to England at the end of the month.
We talked the 5 months I lived in England and he convinced me to fly back so he could take me out.
We dated for about 4 months with me living in Maryland and him in Florida, then I moved to be with him.I think the long distance contributed to things moving quickly.
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Ugh, yes, worst 3 1/2 years of my life!
We met in the dorms at college, and dated for 2 months before I moved back home because out-of-state tuition was TOO expensive. We thought we were just dating for fun to kill the time, but after leaving, we realized we were in love, blah blah blah. So, we dated long-distance for 3 1/2 years before getting married. I probably only saw him a total of 15-20 days each year!
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I met DH while he was on a business trip, so we began our relationship long distance. He lived in Houston and I lived in Milwaukee. We knew each other for a year and talked nearly every day before we admitted that we were only fooling ourselves about not being in a relationship because of the distance. We only saw each other one other time in that year. We saw each other three more times before I moved to Houston 6 months later, and we got engaged 6 months after that.
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I was in a long-distance relationship for the last year of a 4 1/2 year relationship. It was after we graduated from college and he went to med school while I stayed behind for grad school - we'd already been engaged for a year at that point. We tried to talk on the phone every night and see each other once a month, but things were already rocky to begin with and being apart just made everything even more unsteady. He ended up breaking up with me out of the blue the night before my thesis was due which was not awesome at all. The only upside is that the time apart probably prepared me for being apart and seeing other guys.
ETA: Just remembered that I was briefly in a long distance thing after that, but then decided being with DH (who lived in my building) was a much better option!
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Yes, for all but one month of the 3 years DH and I dated. I was in AL he was in DC.
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we were long distance for 2.5 years before i moved to be 2 doors away from him! we saw each other at least every 2 weeks. that's when we were dating. then last fall, when i was pregnant, DH was gone M-F for paramedic school. the only reason we could do it is because of our previous LD.
i agree @mrs. wagon: we had to work on our communication! instead of just making out to gloss over issues, we had to talk it out.
@sloaneandpuffy: totally agree with the special occasion. we would clear our schedules to hang out all weekend. it wasn't real life, so i made sure we lived in the same town before we got engaged. luckily, we still loved each other after we saw each other all the time. but i did realize that DH wasn't as clean as i first thought! he would spend the whole day before i arrived cleaning! he doesn't do that anymore.
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