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Daycare providers are not doctors. So, my suggestion would be to make a doctor appt and address any of those or any other concerns you may have. If you think your child is developmentally on track and your doctor isn't concerned then I wouldn't let the daycare providers comments bother you.

I wouldn't worry about it.

Does your LO have a 6 month well visit scheduled? I'd ask at those appts. My son didn't start sitting well until 6 months or even a little after.

I would just try to engage your LO as much as possible with eye contact - it doesn't sound concerning though. My son is 12 months and basically never says goodbye to me at daycare. When I drop him off he's too busy to get playing!

i know this is easier said than done, but i don't think you need to worry about it. sounds like your LO is doing just beautifully. milestones are so hard because things can change a lot in a few days or weeks, but it's easy to isolate a certain point in time and use it as a benchmark of where our LOs should be, never mind that next week she'll probably be sitting unassisted for longer periods of time.

@78h2o: I wouldn't worry about what your daycare provider said, but I would definitely talk to your pediatrician if you are concerned.

It sounds like they were just giving some ideas of things that could be worked. They spend so much time with your LO I am sure they are just looking out for her.

I would take their concerns and talk with your doctor about it at your next check up, but in the mean time not be overly worried about it.

FWIW I did the boppy tummy time trick with LO too and she would stay on her belly longer that way. Now she is rolling all over so she doesn't mind playing on her belly, but it did seem to help.

ETA: I am assuming this was a routine parent-teacher conference that they were doing with all of the parents (I know our daycare does these a couple times a year too). If they had you come in just to talk about it then it would be a little annoying.

@78h2o: Six months is pretty early to respond to her name. It's definitely something to keep an eye on though! You can test it by standing behind your LO and saying her name... and seeing if she turns around.

As for eye contact, kids often make better eye contact with their family and close friends than with others... so if your teacher is seeing an issue, I'd be on the lookout for it! That trick with putting objects in front of your face can really help!

@78h2o: You had to sign something? That seems so odd to me and would annoy me.

the eye contact thing at daycare when DH is leaving just makes me think there are probably a ton of distractions and new things to look at when she gets dropped off... when I drop off my son he's into all the new stimulation around him for sure....

sorry they stressed you out - but it sounds like they are over-reacting to me... especially about the sitting up - all babies develop differently, like all the pp's mentioned.

@78h2o: gosh that sounds so stressful. I can't believe they made you sign something promising to work on tummy time. Even the pediatricians office wouldn't have you do that. I would try not to worry so much (easier said than done). My LO was a late sitter as well and I remember being a little worried- I think she finally sat up unassisted for a good amount of time when she was around 7 months old. My ped told me not to worry about it. (And she's on track with all other milestones, including walking). As for the eye contact- I agree with other posters who said it could be bc of all the distractions at daycare. If you don't notice her lack of eye contact in other situations, I wouldn't be too concerned.

I'm sorry they're stressing you out! For what it's worth, DD will be 6 months on Saturday, and she can't sit either. She'll stay that way for a couple of seconds and then faceplant Sometimes I think she recognizes her name, but I think it's just wishful thinking since it's really only when I say it in a way that would have gotten her attention anyway. Now I've spent the day being overly eye contact-y with her! Anyway, it sounds like our LOs are the same age and level, so you're not alone!

@mrbee: Totally agreed about the form! Seems like an added guilt trip with little benefit.

That's kind of crazy to me! All babies do things differently at different times. My LO didn't sit up (good) unassisted until 7.5 months!

They just sound concerned to me, minus the form. Just ask her doctor about it.

@78h2o: H was only sitting unassisted for like 2 seconds at a time and we JUST started working on it the past couple of days...Today is the first day she did really well with it, but before then, she really wasn't interested bc she wanted to lunge for her toes or lean toward something she saw, like a toy or the dog...And I SAH now so we've had the time to work on it consistently for a couple of days and she still just got the hang of it today, and her birthday is the same as your LO, as you know. But if we hadn't worked on it, she'd still be in the same boat so I really don't think it's abnormal AT ALL! And sometimes I think she knows her name and sometimes she ignores me- but she is super distracted by EVERYTHING (we call her Distraction Jackson) and sometimes she is so fixated on something, like the dog, that she doesn't care about anything else. They are so busy right now! I'm sure she is just too busy/stimulated to look at your husband or the teacher! She's like, "Ummm, busy here! Do you not see how fascinating this key on this rattle is???"

Not sitting up at 6 months doesn't seem like such a big deal to me at all. LO is almost 8 months and just started sitting up by himself now. And he also just started acknowledging me when I come to pick him up from daycare. When I drop him off he's usually so distracted he never notices me. Our pedi specializes in child developmental problems and didn't seem concerned at all. I know your daycare is just trying to be helpful but I would be really annoyed that they made it seem like it was such an alarming thing.

I always think its SO WEIRD when daycare providers try to make it out that they're some sort of children experts, when what they are is well-educated babysitters. The concept of a "parent-teacher conference" and the idea of a daycare provider being a "teacher" always makes me roll my eyes.
I think I would ask the doctor and trust their opinion- I personally think there's nothing wrong with where your LO is at with sitting up, since mine was maybe 6.5 months when he was finally able to sit without the Boppy- I bet your LO will be there in no time.

@78h2o: Im glad you had a good update! Sounds like your daycare means well, but maybe they need to butt out a little.

I'd have been a jerk and made him write a note about how fabulous your LO is doing and given it to the daycare teachers like "I told you so". lol

oh that's very reassuring--your instincts were right all along!