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i'm so sorry for your loss
my last two losses have been so early, i didn't need to do anything, my first i was further along and wish i would have had a D&C because i bled so much for so long (6wks) and that was an unwanted, constant painful reminder. at the time, i thought i wanted to just let my body do what it needed to do and had it done it efficiently, i would've been happy with that choice. sorry you're having to make this choices, there is no right answer, just whichever seems the most comfortable for you. hugs
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
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I'm so sorry for your loss
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I am so very sorry
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I'm so sorry.
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
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thank you all for your kind words. it really sucks but it helps to feel so much support from all of you ladies.
DH came home and took me out to lunch which was a nice distraction. at this point, i am planning to try the medication route and trying to decide whether to start tomorrow or saturday. in the meantime i went to trader joe's and bought a lot of random snacks to munch on and distract myself.
It is helpful to hear so many of your experiences and it makes me feel less alone even though I wish none of us had to be in this boat...
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I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss.
I've had 3 losses...2 D&Cs due to missed miscarriage and 1 natural miscarriage. Feel free to wall me if you have any questions about a D&C. I found it to be the easiest way for me to deal with the loss directly. Right now, the only issue I'm having is that I had my last D&C in late September, and I'm still bleeding on and off. It's frustrating. Weigh your options and choose the one that's best for you
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
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I'm so sorry.
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I'm so sorry - these decisions are ones none of us should be faced with ***hugs*** for me personally, D&C was the only option I could stomach bc of desire to move on.
I'm glad I did too, bc even after waiting a week to have the D&C nothing had started happening naturally.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. ((hugs))
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I am so very sorry for your loss
I had a D&C at 9 weeks, the same day I found out the baby had stopped growing. It was the right choice for me because the physical part was over so fast. I barely even spotted afterwards, and got my next period 27 days later. The emotional recovery took much longer though -
I am so sorry for your loss.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Huge hugs.
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i am so, so sorry for your loss. i am currently on what i hope is the tail end of naturally passing a missed miscarriage. i found out at 11 weeks (first ultrasound) that development had stopped at 6 weeks. DH and i really wanted to go the natural route, and that is what my midwife suggested also. we really wanted to avoid an invasive procedure unless absolutely necessary, but i would have tried the medicine if things had taken much longer than they did to begin.
we waited two weeks for something to happen. when it finally did, three weeks ago, i wrongly assumed it would be over quickly. today was my first day (hope i don't jinx it) in three weeks of no bleeding. this was absolutely the best choice for us, even though it's been hard, because it gave us time to grieve in a different (and unfortunately very tangible) way.
this is a decision that only you and DH can make - and one that i'm so sorry you have to make. i'll be thinking of you, lady.
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I chose to wait mine out and it was the longest two weeks of my life. Heaven forbid it happens again I'd likely have a D&C. My mc was more painful than labour. Probably because I didn't have pain medication and I was losing something, rather than gaining something. However, I wish my doctor had prepared me for the physical pain. I'm so sorry you have yo go through this
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I'm so sorry to hear this
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I am so sorry! Sending hugs to you.
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@MamaCate: I've had 5. 2 natural and 3 d&c's. I am usually not for medical intervention, however, a natural miscarriage is something I never wish on anyone. With the D&C's it was over and no constant daily reminders of what had happened for weeks. Not that it wasn't on my mind, but seeing the loss through blood and in the toilet was just not the way I ever wanted to see my babies.
I'm sorry if it's graphic, but I feel like being upfront and honest is most important. My heart is breaking for you.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. It seems like your husband is being very supportive and nice during this time. I'm sending thoughts and prayers your way!!
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@junebugmama: I just posted to your wall. Thanks for your honesty.
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I am so sorry for your loss
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I guess it is just one of those days. We decided to pick up pizza tonight with everything going on...but we got there and then they had no record of our order! So LO and I are hanging out...
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I'm so sorry
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what terrible news. so sorry. xoxo
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@MamaCate: I am so very sorry. Give yourself the okay to grieve however feels right to you. Take care.
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I'm so very sorry for your loss
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I am so sorry for your loss.
Take as much time as you need to grieve. For me it all came in waves, first after the ultrasound, then right before my D&C, then the day after. As much as I thought I was ready, the emotions were just hard to deal with. The best healer has been time.
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I am so sorry for your loss! Take it easy this weekend, treat yourself!
I had a loss and the baby stopped growing at 6.5 weeks, I just had a natural miscarriage and it was a good choice for me. It was messy, but they next day I had fully recovered physically.
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Very sorry to hear this, my heart goes out to you.
With both of mine, I opted for a D&C. It's the best way to move on for me. The first time I was going to take the medication but couldn't bring myself to do it. I called and scheduled a D&C and I'm so glad I did.
The 2nd time I scheduled a D&C right away but the soonest they could do it was a week later. It was a dreadful week, worrying it would happen on its own. I can't imagine waiting like that for weeks and weeks going the natural route. We finally did get the D&C and opted for fetal tissue testing. The doctor missed some tissue so I still had a mini natural miscarriage at home and it was some of the worst pain I've ever felt. I would always choose a D&C for that reason alone.
That being said, Only you can make the right decision for you. You can't go wrong with your instinct. xoxo -
So sorry for your loss.
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