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I changed my name right after we got married. Like as soon as I got the marriage certificate in the mail. My last name was okay (though constantly misspelled), but I LOVE LOVE LOVE my married name, and I was so excited for it to be mine. I did do that switcheroo where I dropped my middle name and replaced it with my maiden name, but 5 years on I'm not sure why, I had no attachment to my maiden name, and have only the barest of relationships with my father.

My wife and I kept our names when we got married. I carried our son and we gave him my wife's last name. We had to discuss it quite a bit since there's not really a "default" scenario.

I have my birth name and my kids have DH's. I lobbied hard to give them my name, but it was a nonstarter with DH. It's one of the few issues where I have found him to be close-minded.

I hyphenated (HUGE pain in the ass) and our kids have my husband's last name. I go by his/our last name socially.

I legally hyphenate, but often just use my maiden name informally/ socially. Our kids will have his last name.

legally not allowed to change my name in my province. Boys have their dad's last name.

I grew up with a mom who kept her maiden name and there was absolutely no confusion or whatever, so I didn't really worry about it.

I didn't change my name and my kids have/will have my husbands last name. We plan on using my maiden name as their middle name for future children. My mom didn't change hers so it's not that unusual to me. My dad, siblings, and I are the only people left with my last name and my brother will most likely not have kids so I really want to pass it on some way.

@MrsSCB: that is really sweet and thoughtful'

I kept my maiden and was set on that from before I met DH. He was fine with it. Both our kids have his last name and my last name as a second middle, like:
FirstName FirstMiddle mylast hislast

It has worked fine for us. I also grew up with a mom who kept her name so I was used to it.

My parents are academics so they have friends and colleagues with a lot of solutions to this, like hyphens or one child having the dads last name and the other the mom's.

I do have a friend who, after she got married, changed both of their names. Her DH did not have a good relationship with his dad and he didn't feel attached to that name, so they picked another family name, I think of the person who was like a real father figure to her DH. So now she, her DH and her baby all have that new name. I thought that was very creative!

@MamaCate: I kept my last name and we did the same, DD's second middle name is my last name.

I am toying with changing at some point though, although likely just socially. I teach under Ms. Hislastname, to prevent kiddos getting access to my social media, and I kind of like it - it has better flow than my original name.

@rachiecakes: DH wanted to take my maiden name but we found out that it costs thousands of dollars for a man to change his name (have to go to court and publish legal notices in newspapers, etc.) all I had to do to change mine was check a box on the marriage license.

I wanted to keep my maiden as my middle name but I was also told that was not allowed and would have to go through the same legal process. I don't like my middle name but I am too lazy to change it.

@rachiecakes: Yeah, my state only got marriage equality with the Supreme Court decision last summer so hopefully there has been some progress on this front here. We've been married almost 6 years.