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I would but my mom never offers so consider yourself lucky. In fact I think of it as putting my mom out and her health isn't up to par so I guess that's why. I'm always afraid to ask her to babysit even.

Does your mom work? I'm sure you did but what about considering her as your nanny, even pt? She would love that it seems.

Also... I am a little jealous because I think it would be AMAZING to have a night of just DH and me, all by ourselves to do whatever we wanted.

My MIL has mentioned wanting to keep LO for a weekend a couple of times, but like you, I am still BFing and don't plan to wean until at least a year (and pumping is such a huge pain). I definitely want LO to spend weekends with his grandparents, but not until he's older, can run around, and the repercussions of a too-late bedtime and sugar overload are easier to deal with!

Eesh. I would probably be annoyed, especially since you've stood your ground and given the same answer every single time. I would be seriously annoyed that she wants to do all these "firsts" with the baby, though. She's YOUR kid - she got to have firsts with you, it's your turn to have firsts with her!

I don't have a LO yet but my Mom has already given me 'firm' mixed messages about this. She has made it CLEAR she will not come up to NYC to watch my future children but at the same time she's offered to let me drop them off at her house while DH and I go on vacation. I don't know how much I trust her though because she has zero patience and I can picture her ignoring my instructions and just doing whatever she wants.

oh i would be so annoyed if she kept asking and asking, AND that she wants to do all these firsts with your LO. my in-laws started asking us when she was a little under 2 years old, but they were very thoughtful about it, and didn't press us. when she turned 2, we started letting her stay over, mainly because i'm pregnant and so tired all the time, and it is a nice break to let them watch her.

My mom has asked me about this too. But for all the same reasons I've said no. I barely get to see her all week and I am breastfeeding and she is not even 6 months old yet! I'm not ready to let her go for sleep overs yet.

I don't have a LO yet, but already my mother is talking about staying with us for awhile after the baby is born and wanting to do sleepovers and watch them for us while we are at work (she lives 45 minutes away). I'm not looking forward to having to tell her to back off.

I have an amazing relationship with my grandmother--but I started visiting/staying over regularly when I was 7.... 7 YEARS old, not 7 months. Treasure your LO. If you are uncomfortable it is because your LO is too young for you to spend time apart. The age will different for every mom but your LO won't remember this time with grandma anyway--it is more important for you to spend time with your LO as YOU need it.

We left LO overnight with my parents for one night when he was 12 months old, and for 4 nights when he was 16 months old. We'd have done it sooner and/or more often if my parents had lived closer... now that they've moved up near our house, I imagine they'll probably keep him overnight once a month or so. We weaned entirely around 11 months. It's hard if you're breastfeeding- especially once LO hit 9 or 10 months, my supply had really tanked, and he was barely nursing, so I didn't really want to skip a potential nursing session. If I hadn't had that concern, I'd have left him way earlier!
LO has only recently started sleeping past 6 AM, and it was REALLY hard going for an entire year of never being able to sleep in because I wanted to do that morning nursing session... I've been so exhausted for so long that I really appreciate my parents taking LO just because getting to sleep in till 7:30 AM feels like such a gift.

I never want my parents to feel like I am making them watch my kids or relying on them for child care but if they offer I would let them. My parents are so cute with kids and so close and are aching for grandkids. I wouldn't ever keep them from them.

our LO is 6 months old, and she won't be staying with the grandmas or anyone else for awhile either. Neither set of our parents have asked yet, but my mom does hint about me being a "baby hog" or not wanting to give her up. But I feel the same way as you. I work full time, and my days off are my time with her, and I'm not ready to give it up yet. Plus, the grandparents babysit for us when we're working so they get to see her during the week. I don't see being comfortable with her staying the night with anyone until she's 1 yr +. On a sidenote, I HATE when people refer to LO as their baby. My dad calls sometimes and says "what's MY baby doing?" Grrrrrrr.