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DD has three step grandparents - my stepdad, my stepmom, and DH's stepdad. She calls my stepdad by his full first name - DD and I are the only ones who use it, so it is kind of a term of endearment. In fact she typically says "my x" when referring to him. While I really like my stepdad he came into my life in my twenties and I wasn't open to DD using a traditional grandparent name for him. Though if she decides to call him something different when she is older I would be fine with it.

DD has never met my stepmother (we only see my dad and sisters without her) so we refer to her by her first name, granddad's wife, or aunt's mom. It seems awkward to write out but we very rarely refer to her.

She calls DH's stepdad Grandpa. DH's dad is not in his life, DH's step siblings already had children who referred to him as Grandpa, and DH was fine with it. So we went with it.

I would just have a discussion with your dad and stepmom (or just your dad if that would be more comfortable) and discuss what feels right for all of you. I know this caused me a lot of worry when pregnant but it somehow worked out with a few honest (and only slightly uncomfortable) conversations. There is definitely no one size fits all answer here.

My son jut calls my step dad grandpa. He isn't my dad but he's as much a grandparent as the rest of them to my son.

O has so many grandparents. My parents, my mother in law and her... um... companion. My father in law and his wife. And her bio grandparents. We use these names:

Nana
Pop pop
Grandma
Grandpa
Grandpa Mike
Grandma Susan
Honey (O came up with this one for my mother in law)
Bela (her companion's first name, not sure he wants to use a typical grandpa name)

My parents are divorced and my mom remarried when my daughter was 3 months old. They had been together for a while before they got married, so we knew he would be around. He was the one who chose Papa and I was happy with that because I didn't necessarily want him to be grandpa - I didn't want to take that away from my dad (first grandbaby).

There are so many options for grandparent names, I don't think you have to go with Grandma if it doesn't feel right to you. LO calls my mother a diminutive of her first name (think "Zuzu" for Suzanne), and my father a diminutive of our last name (e.g. "Mac" for McNeill). DH's mother and step-father are called names that are essentially just nonsense syllables selected by their first grandchild.

In the extended family, we have Mimi(s), Bumpa, Mema(s), Lolly, Bobo, Grumpy, Nana(s), etc.

I have step parents on both sides of my family and my sons call them grandma and Poppop like all their other grandparents. We weren’t the first so we followed the routine others had established. It does not bother me at all, because I want my kids to feel like they have an equal relationship with all their grandparents. That being said, I could see myself feeling entirely different if it was because one of my parents had passed. I like the idea of using the polish word for grandma.

LO has one step-grandma who requested to be called Grammy and that's what LO calls her. She has been married to dh's father for more than 30 years though so she's not like a recent step or anything. I didn't think to call the steps differently; they are real grandparents too.

All of my grandparents divorced and 3 of 4 remarried. All of them who were married before I was born I just called grandma/grandpa and I think it helped emphasize that that was the relationship I had with them.

Growing up my dad's parents had divorced and each remarried, so I had THREE sets of grandparents.
Maternal: Grammie and Grampie
Paternal and step-grandmother: Grampie Lastname and Nana Lastname
Paternal and step-grandfather: Nanny Lastname and Grampie Last name
My mom's parents didn't need the last name because we saw them every day, they were our caregivers while our parents were at work.

With DD, my inlaws had a precedent set with our nephews, so they were by default Nannie and Grampie
My mom is Grandma. My Dad is Grampie.
She still has two great grandparents from my side, so they are Grammie and Grampie Last Name.

SMIL is "Mimi" to the kids.

If she is going to act as a grandparent, I think it's fair to ask her what she'd like to be called.

My husband's step dad is Grandpa, it was established with his nieces and nephews, and his father is Grandad.

I'm Polish as well, and we call my grandmother Babcia, but Baba when we were little. She very well may want to be called that! Or you can suggest it! Tell her she's going to be a Babcia, and it will likely make her feel very included.

My Grandma died before I was born and we called both her and my step grandmother “Grandma Firstname”. My sister has done the same with her kids - their step Grandpa is “Pop Pop First Name”. My mom always used my step grandma’s first name when talking to me and it was never confusing. My mom has early onset Alzheimer’s and my Dad will probably start dating someday but at this point my kid is 3 and I can’t imag letting someone else be Grandma so we’ll probably just go with first name.

My kids call their steps nana and grandad

My parents are Gigi and Grampy (we teased my dad about this name before my daughter was born, and it ended up being the name she chose for him). My mil and step fil are grandma and grandpa Doug. We rarely see my fil and step mil, we use grandpa and grandma deb for them.