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I don't have past experience, but I'm currently pregnant (due in October) and we just made my son's big boy room. He is thrilled about the big boy room, but very incredulous concerning the plans for *HIS* crib, dresser, etc. We've been presenting it as we aren't sure what we are going to do with it (they are in the "spare room"), but he quickly has started saying he doesn't want the baby to use his crib. I believe @jape14's son is having a similar experience and currently holding his rocker hostage.

If it were me, I would deal with it now as much as you can, if it's in the budget. Especially since it sounds like you are straight up giving the baby your DD1's room. I think there can be a wide array of feelings at the arrival (and few months after) of a new baby and it seems like adding on such a huge change might amplify that.

ETA: We moved several things out slowly. He took most issue with the first thing (his crib). We most recently took the rocker and he didn't even care.

We moved DD1 before the baby came. In July, we assembled her big girl bed and rearranged the room. We told her that the crib was going to be for baby sister and because she was a big girl, she got to sleep in a big girl bed. She only wanted to go back to the crib once, but we kept reminding her about how the crib was for babies and she was a big girl. Baby sister was born in October and moved to the crib in December.

Another vote to move her before baby. I'm due at the end of this month. We set up DD's big girl room in March and moved her last month. I'm glad we moved her when we did because there was awhile where she was still referring to the nursery as her room and where she still wanted to sleep in her old toddler bed, which is the crib. She's good now, but I wouldn't have wanted to deal with that along with having a newborn as I anticipate that'll be stressful enough at first!

We transitioned our son to his floor bed but kept his crib in his room because we were too lazy to disassemble it (DS2 slept in a bassinet and then a PNP in another room just fine so it wasn't really a problem). We did put the baby in the crib with some toys when I needed to set him down for a minute or and DS was used to seeing him sleep in the PNP so he just made the association that crib-like beds were for the baby. He started calling the crib the "baby's bed" and that was that. Maybe you can transition her to the bed with the crib in the room and then make the switch that way. The rocker became a Pottery Barn Anywhere chair. Etc.

One thing we did that I think really helped is we didn't change his room. Like we kept him in the same room but swapped out his furniture piece by piece so it was always his room.

We moved DD in January before DS was born in April. Baby was keeping all her old furniture so we made a big deal about setting up the big girl room. She was 3.5 at the time and in the crib with the side off and moved to a twin bed. No jealousy in our fam doing it that way over a year later.