Our 10 month old is giving us a run for our money right now, she's been waking up and wanting to party at 3 am EVERY NIGHT for the last week. My DH will get up, try to calm her down and comes back in after 5 minutes saying "she's awake i can't do anything, she needs to cry it out." well i'm sorry I can't listen to her cry for 30 minutes so i go in there and rock her to sleep. I'm getting sick of having to be the only one to commit to getting her back to sleep. How do you co-parent wake ups (we both work in the morning and wake up at the same time.)
wonderful cherry / 21504 posts
I think you need to talk about it during the day when you aren't both half asleep. I know we never say anything constructive during the night- or generally when someone is crying hysterically.
I did most of the wake ups while she was still nursing at night. After she night weaned DH took them for a while because if I went in she would want to nurse, and neither of us wanted to start that again.
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
If it's a feeding wake up, I do it. If it's a comfort only one, DH does it. Mine doesn't bail ship on me 5 minutes in, and usually gives it about 30 minutes before tapping me in. Talk to him during the day. You don't get to throw your hands in the air and opt out at the expense of your spouse